Finally Friday

[cythe]

Oct 20, 2017 19:20:36 GMT -6 rebeccabunch said:

Oct 20, 2017 15:44:28 GMT -6 cythe said:

Okay, I'm on a roll today. Feeling all the feels and to top it off, I crossed PP poop off my "don't make me do it" list. Ugh.

There’s a huge hormone drop like 5-7 days after delivery. Obviously the pp hormones can overtake at anytime but for me this first wave is rough. It’s completely out of your control. So hard. 😘

This is encouraging (Ev is 5 days old and I was just thinking today is the worst so far). I was having a normal conversation with my husband and just started crying. I had to explain that everything was literally fine, I just couldn't control it. We laughed about it while I was still crying.

Good times.

[ssm]

Currently trapped under a baby that won't let my nipple leave. He's not using it. It just needs to be near him....WHILE MY ENTIRE HOUSE IS SLEEPING!!!! I'm quite unthrilled. I want sleep too. 😭😭

[cougarette]

Well I had an exciting trip to Target. I went in for 2 things, so I didn't bother with the diaper bag. I have a small pack of wipes in my purse and threw a diaper in there too. Well of course DS started crying and acting hungry when we were in there. I debated just grabbing the second item and then running next door to BRU where I could use the mothering room (after getting the diaper bag from the car of course), but he didn't look patient.

I went into a fitting room and when I took him out of the car seat I could feel that his pants were wet. As I brought him closer I realized it was poop. Great. I tried to change him, but the wipes were basically all dried out and was just smearing it everywhere. It was on my hands and so gross. I still fed him and then rushed to the bathroom to clean us up. Lesson learned - bring the giant bag inside every time.

In related news, guess who got his first bath tonight!

[mkrupar]

MOTN Rant Ahead

My husband. He's great, but sometimes i just want to kick him. The kids and I have been home for a week now, and every night H has complained about something when it comes to MOTN feedings.

Now, I realize I'm fortunate in that since we bottle feed, DS can be fed by anyone, so I'm not the sole parent having to get up all night long. But for the love of G-d, it's like he's completely blanked on the 4 solid weeks of solo MOTN duty I did while he got full nights of sleep when we were at my dad's and he was at the new house.

"He takes so long to eat"
"Didn't he just eat?"
"I get a headache every night now having to wake up. "
"He's up already? I was hoping I could get some sleep before the first feeding."

^ That last one was tonight's. I was still awake and had just come upstairs, so I said I'd take him. Little does he know I'm going to make him do the remaining MOTN feedings tonight.

We have a system where he takes the feedings before 1:30 (this is so he can get a solid chunk of sleep before waking for work), then I have the feedings for the remainder of the night. Except he doesn't hear the baby when he starts to stir, so I have to wake him when it's his turn, then I'm up anyway.

We also have the "things said in the heat of the super deprived MORN moments cannot be held against us the next day" rule. I think those two things were how we survived the newborn state before and I hope they work this tune.

That was rambly. I did warn it was a rant.

TL/DR: it's the MOTN and I feel like kicking my H in the shins.

[Taitai]

mkrupar Like was for commiseration. My H does not do well with sleep deprivation and gets all mopey/complainy if he has to get up with DS1 MOTN. Since I do ALL the MOTN stuff for LO (and DS1 when he was breastfeeding), my reaction is along the lines of:

[rebeccabunch]

When I’m in baby mode I’m good with MOTN but when it comes to the older boys my H is way more patient and needs much less sleep/can fall right back to sleep where I can’t. Plus he’s home less so dinner is always solo me, more morning etc so H always handles MOTN unless someone’s really sick. We are backwards to must people!

mkrupar I find I get huffier about stuff the longer I haven’t had to deal with them. Maybe after a few more nights he will realize there’s no way around it! I really like your night split. I think that’s a good idea.

[mkrupar]

I definitely had my groove going when I was solo for MOTN, so it didn't really bother me. Save a night or two when he was up every hour. Now I feel discombobulated half the night because I'm waking, but instead of just getting up in shaking H awake who is then a big 'ole grouch.

[doodlemommy]

My DH is not great at waking quickly and takes a long time to fall asleep again where as I can be up, deal with whatever, and right back to sleep. So I have always done the majority of wake ups with DD. Now that DS is here, DH is on MOTN duty with DD and I have the baby because boobs. DD is 3 so it’s not like she’s up often. I sometimes have to nudge DH and clue him in that she needs him but then he always goes right away. DH (all on his own, no prompting from me) talked up with DD that they were going to be a team and they had to work together because sometimes mommy would be busy with the baby. Man the hormones on that one. They are the sweetest. They also decided the dog was part of their team so I’m off the hook on that one too

[parma986]

mkrupar, I read your post in the middle of the night and totally felt you. As DD was screaming her head off every hour and DH was sleeping through all of it. He was then like sleep walking and getting mad at me when I yelled at him to get back into the bed. Like I'm going to trust a half asleep husband to hold the newborn! He finally woke up for real and helped me out after 3 or 4 hours. He usually is good at helping me, but last night really pushed my buttons haha