DrHooch
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Post by DrHooch on Sept 12, 2017 14:13:02 GMT -6
I am a loss and IF momma who is pregnant with my second. I am 7 weeks along, so still too early for us to feel comfortable telling everyone. I have been playing ultimate frisbee on a league with coworkers/friends. For those of you not familiar with the sport, it's supposed to be non-contact but accidents happen, and I've been hit pretty hard in the past. Due to my IF and loss history, I don't feel comfortable playing now that I'm pregnant. The last time this I was in this situation, I didn't know the team well and just emailed and said I couldn't play the rest of the season due to medical reasons. But my current teammates are coworkers I see every day (so difficult to explain the medical reason), and friends that I don't want to let down by just not showing up. I'd love advice on what to say and how to handle the situation. TIA!
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Post by grumpycat on Sept 12, 2017 20:01:14 GMT -6
How much longer is the season?
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Post by DrHooch on Sept 13, 2017 5:10:13 GMT -6
grumpycat 6 weeks, once per week. By the last week I'll be (hopefully) far enough along to announce.
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Taitai
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Post by Taitai on Sept 15, 2017 5:20:47 GMT -6
First, congrats on your pregnancy!
In terms of your situation, I'd say you need to put yourself first and do what you feel comfortable with for your own health. The feelings of your coworkers (being let down or a bit disappointed) should not trump what you think is best for yourself. I also have a loss and IF history, so I understand the stress of the first tri and your desire not to tell people until you are ready.
So I'd say - sit down and think about what you really think is best for you - physically and mentally - in terms of continuing the ultimate frisbee season. If you don't feel comfortable with continuing frisbee, then I'd say drop out. You come first.
As for excuses - maybe you can say you have a medical issue and leave it at that? You could also say you have a new commitment you can't get out of, and also say it's a private matter that you can't elaborate on if anyone presses for info? They will all end up understanding once you are ready to tell them - and hopefully they will respect your privacy for now.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Sept 16, 2017 19:08:07 GMT -6
I'm so sorry to hear about the back injury that is going to prevent you from playing the rest of the season. It sucks right now but it's really NBD long term. I would try and see if you could find a replacement and maybe become the team mom and bring snacks to games  Congrats btw! And please don't feel badly about this - you have to put your emotional and physical health first. I honestly don't think it is safe for you to continue playing and hope you can release any guilt you may have over this. |
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Post by grumpycat on Sept 17, 2017 21:29:28 GMT -6
I was going to suggest something about the same lines as Leaf 🌱 and Taitai. I hope things continue smoothly with the pregnancy ♡ |
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