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Post by wedding on Sept 28, 2021 17:40:33 GMT -6
wedding Sorry C is struggling in a few areas. I hope the sessions help. The one about weight is tough. Any idea where it’s coming from? Like a kid at school/sports? tgrimes I would be so pissed. It’s been a month how can they not give you an eta by now? I know it hasn’t been 30 days but can you threaten legal action? Any grounds for it? When COVID happened he was definitely heavier and I do remember him and his friends joking about being fat. Pushing out their bellies and what not. The thing is his closest friends are really skinny so C was comparing himself a lot even though he denied it and said it was all joking. I would see him playing with his love handles the next day in disgust and talk about going on a diet. He a even gave up ice cream for a couple of weeks. He thinned out a bit over the summer and recently has gotten taller. He is on par with other boys his age- right in the middle. Now he talked about wanting a six pack and being worried about getting fat again. He’s not restricting his food and wants all the junk but he doesn’t talk about food alot as in good vs bad. He has mentioned before that he doesn’t want to be fat like his uncles. Both my and DHs brothers are morbidly obese and it comes up in conversation sometimes. With my parents I shut it down quick because I think it’s shitty to talk about someone’s body like that. But I can’t really do that with DHs. I did put both sets of grandparents on notice that we are working on being positive about all bodies and also not focusing on it. We will see how it goes. It’s exhausting and on top of that my stress and eating have been shit and I feel crappy about how I look so I totally understand but also don’t know how to help either of us right now.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 28, 2021 17:48:10 GMT -6
wedding Sorry C is struggling in a few areas. I hope the sessions help. The one about weight is tough. Any idea where it’s coming from? Like a kid at school/sports? tgrimes I would be so pissed. It’s been a month how can they not give you an eta by now? I know it hasn’t been 30 days but can you threaten legal action? Any grounds for it? Not if their contract actually says 7-30 business days. The kicker is, I can’t see the contract. It was a link that was emailed to me. When I click the link it says, “Your items have been picked up.” I didn’t print out the contract because I didn’t think I needed to do so.
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Post by klong11 on Sept 28, 2021 18:13:49 GMT -6
tgrimes not legal action, but maybe a nicely worded letter on your firm's letterhead and mailed certified will get their attention. Just ask for an ETA and give them your preferred timeline. And request they send the contract again so you can review the terms with your attorney. No threats, just statements. 😁
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Post by klong11 on Sept 28, 2021 18:31:31 GMT -6
wedding I'm sorry C is struggling. These kids are going through so much right now and don't really understand it all, so it's logical that he would cling to you as his safe space. I hope the counseling helps and he's able to work through some of his feelings. Does his school have a counselor? Cadence's has started making a point of pulling Cadence aside to check on how she's doing. Cadence loves it.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 28, 2021 18:46:25 GMT -6
tgrimes not legal action, but maybe a nicely worded letter on your firm's letterhead and mailed certified will get their attention. Just ask for an ETA and give them your preferred timeline. And request they send the contract again so you can review the terms with your attorney. No threats, just statements. 😁 They’re a 3rd party. The company I made the agreement with isn’t taking my calls anymore… I would get fired if I typed anything on my form letterhead, otherwise I’d totally do it!!!!
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Post by klong11 on Sept 28, 2021 19:06:37 GMT -6
tgrimes not legal action, but maybe a nicely worded letter on your firm's letterhead and mailed certified will get their attention. Just ask for an ETA and give them your preferred timeline. And request they send the contract again so you can review the terms with your attorney. No threats, just statements. 😁 They’re a 3rd party. The company I made the agreement with isn’t taking my calls anymore… I would get fired if I typed anything on my form letterhead, otherwise I’d totally do it!!!! Boooo
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Post by kim22 on Sept 28, 2021 19:30:38 GMT -6
C was home again today. He’s made it to 6 out of 17 days of preschool so far. This means each day cost me over $100. FX he sleeps tonight and can go tomorrow. I’m exhausted because he had a bad night last night and I haven’t been sleeping well at all.
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Post by lahdeedah on Sept 28, 2021 20:01:14 GMT -6
tgrimes not legal action, but maybe a nicely worded letter on your firm's letterhead and mailed certified will get their attention. Just ask for an ETA and give them your preferred timeline. And request they send the contract again so you can review the terms with your attorney. No threats, just statements. 😁 They’re a 3rd party. The company I made the agreement with isn’t taking my calls anymore… I would get fired if I typed anything on my form letterhead, otherwise I’d totally do it!!!! Girl give me their number. I’ll call their asses on your behalf. I’m furious for you.
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Post by mwhip on Sept 29, 2021 6:43:02 GMT -6
They’re a 3rd party. The company I made the agreement with isn’t taking my calls anymore… I would get fired if I typed anything on my form letterhead, otherwise I’d totally do it!!!! Girl give me their number. I’ll call their asses on your behalf. I’m furious for you. Yeah, this is horrible business practice. Do they have social media? Can you share the company name so we can make sure they are never recommended or if someone asks for potential movers, we can make sure no one uses them? When is the 30 days up? Seems like it should be close. I wonder if you need to start looking into the Better Business Bureau or the local Attorney General (pretty sure that's who I've heard to contact for complaints like this) where they are based out of.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 29, 2021 7:31:55 GMT -6
Girl give me their number. I’ll call their asses on your behalf. I’m furious for you. Yeah, this is horrible business practice. Do they have social media? Can you share the company name so we can make sure they are never recommended or if someone asks for potential movers, we can make sure no one uses them? When is the 30 days up? Seems like it should be close. I wonder if you need to start looking into the Better Business Bureau or the local Attorney General (pretty sure that's who I've heard to contact for complaints like this) where they are based out of. I did look at the BBB! Lol. The company that picked up their stuff is Konami Moving & Storage 855-506-3511. The company I originally set everything up through was American Plus Moving & Storage. They were the ones that called me after I did a quote request on Budget Van Lines.
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Post by wedding on Sept 29, 2021 8:14:42 GMT -6
wedding I'm sorry C is struggling. These kids are going through so much right now and don't really understand it all, so it's logical that he would cling to you as his safe space. I hope the counseling helps and he's able to work through some of his feelings. Does his school have a counselor? Cadence's has started making a point of pulling Cadence aside to check on how she's doing. Cadence loves it. I don't know of a counselor but I am going to check. Good idea! I used to go to the guidance counselor when I was a kid. I don't remember why but I went regularly and I loved it. We played Old Maid.
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Post by jewels on Sept 29, 2021 9:27:50 GMT -6
wedding our school system used to have 1 or 2 counselors for all the elementary schools, but since covid, they now have 1 permanently at each school. S said she came in and did a presentation a few weeks ago about being kind and inclusive of all kids, etc., and told the kids she was there if they needed anything. Last year his BFF was struggling a lot with anxiety and negative thoughts, and his mom reached out to her, she pulled him and talked to him and it seemed to help a lot (she also got him an outside counselor as well, but it made her feel good knowing there was someone there who was invested in him & checking up on him)
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Post by klong11 on Sept 29, 2021 9:55:44 GMT -6
wedding our school system used to have 1 or 2 counselors for all the elementary schools, but since covid, they now have 1 permanently at each school. S said she came in and did a presentation a few weeks ago about being kind and inclusive of all kids, etc., and told the kids she was there if they needed anything. Last year his BFF was struggling a lot with anxiety and negative thoughts, and his mom reached out to her, she pulled him and talked to him and it seemed to help a lot (she also got him an outside counselor as well, but it made her feel good knowing there was someone there who was invested in him & checking up on him) I feel like it also shows the child that if something does happen at school or home, that is a safe space for them to talk.
When Cadence first went I asked her what they talked about and she asked if she had to tell me. While I'm nosy and want to know, I told her nope, its perfectly fine not to tell me what you talked about, BUT if it is about someone or something that is causing harm to you, then I would really like you to let me know.
Plus, if it was something like that, I know the counselor would reach out to me.
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Post by nam2013 on Sept 29, 2021 11:02:25 GMT -6
@klongoria that’s exactly what I tell my students, everything can be private if they wish so, except when I think they or someone else is in danger. I also ask them if I can write a small report that their mentor teacher and the other ‘care’ staff can read.
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Post by jewels on Sept 29, 2021 11:05:04 GMT -6
wedding our school system used to have 1 or 2 counselors for all the elementary schools, but since covid, they now have 1 permanently at each school. S said she came in and did a presentation a few weeks ago about being kind and inclusive of all kids, etc., and told the kids she was there if they needed anything. Last year his BFF was struggling a lot with anxiety and negative thoughts, and his mom reached out to her, she pulled him and talked to him and it seemed to help a lot (she also got him an outside counselor as well, but it made her feel good knowing there was someone there who was invested in him & checking up on him) I feel like it also shows the child that if something does happen at school or home, that is a safe space for them to talk.
When Cadence first went I asked her what they talked about and she asked if she had to tell me. While I'm nosy and want to know, I told her nope, its perfectly fine not to tell me what you talked about, BUT if it is about someone or something that is causing harm to you, then I would really like you to let me know.
Plus, if it was something like that, I know the counselor would reach out to me.
Yes, exactly this. I'm very thankful they have the counselors available, and I hope more kids seek them out.
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Post by klong11 on Sept 29, 2021 11:12:13 GMT -6
I feel like it also shows the child that if something does happen at school or home, that is a safe space for them to talk.
When Cadence first went I asked her what they talked about and she asked if she had to tell me. While I'm nosy and want to know, I told her nope, its perfectly fine not to tell me what you talked about, BUT if it is about someone or something that is causing harm to you, then I would really like you to let me know.
Plus, if it was something like that, I know the counselor would reach out to me.
Yes, exactly this. I'm very thankful they have the counselors available, and I hope more kids seek them out. We have 2 counselors and this year they went around the first couple of weeks and pulled each child to just chat for a few minutes. Now they continue with just the students who request it or parents who have.
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