Post by FlightView on Aug 1, 2021 11:23:18 GMT -6
Update 5/31- For the last 10 months I have let go and let God and I didn’t doubt H, I just trusted. He’s been sober, things have been great. Well, for some reason about a week ago, I felt compelled to look in his wallet and found a number scribbled on a piece of paper with a passcode. I thought, ok maybe it’s for work and I added it to my contacts as a mystery number and moved on, I didn’t bring it up. Fast forward to yesterday and my parents are traveling out of country and asked me to download WhatsApp so we can communicate. So I did and low and behold, mystery number was on there with his picture as his profile so there’s no denying he had another secret phone. He admitted to talking to two other women on Ashley Madison. (Which I know is probably BS he was only talking to them but that’s neither here nor there). Plus why would he need a burner phone for that?
I find myself not even caring the specifics anymore, I want out and I’m done. Im terrified but I have a strong support from my dad who’s offered to help with an attorney if necessary, he also has a whole ass MIL apartment that’s open if we need that too. Im not in any rush this time to “figure it all out” he is making arrangements to move out and he will be at work until June 20th. Im trying not to spiral on the future, and rereading everyone’s post to this made me so hopeful I wish I could relike all of them.
*Original Post*
I posted previously to the divorce board and so this isn’t new to some and I’d like to keep the details of it there. So if you are aware of somethings that aren’t in this thread please don’t mention them.
Over July 4th weekend H came home after 4 weeks in the oil fields and through a series of events (not physical) it became necessary he went to alcohol treatment. He went to California and has been in treatment since July 8th. It was supposed to be the 6th but flights cancelled and there was a covid outbreak in FL where he was originally supposed to go, so they moved him to CA.
Anyways, I was preparing myself to pursue divorce. Thru the weeks we’ve talked and he is committed to recovery, to me and the kids. Alcohol has always been part of our relationship and I don’t know what it looks like without it. Not in a bad way, but I feel like I owe it to myself and the kids to find out if we can make this work because I just don’t know.
Now, I’m optimistic and hopeful of his sobriety, he’s taking it seriously and according to his case manager, participates in all the therapy and group classes. But I still have $1K in a separate account just in case. I know I shouldn’t hide money, but I need that security right now.
I’ve prepped the house for him to return, there’s no alcohol. I’ve been sober for a week and plan on being sober for the foreseeable future too. We are traveling to CA (on standby IYKYK) to meet him and take the kids to Disneyland, then come home together. His next 3 week work hitch starts September 2nd.
That is our update, I know some remember me as the H with the burner phone in 2017. We’re still here, trying to make it happen.
I find myself not even caring the specifics anymore, I want out and I’m done. Im terrified but I have a strong support from my dad who’s offered to help with an attorney if necessary, he also has a whole ass MIL apartment that’s open if we need that too. Im not in any rush this time to “figure it all out” he is making arrangements to move out and he will be at work until June 20th. Im trying not to spiral on the future, and rereading everyone’s post to this made me so hopeful I wish I could relike all of them.
*Original Post*
I posted previously to the divorce board and so this isn’t new to some and I’d like to keep the details of it there. So if you are aware of somethings that aren’t in this thread please don’t mention them.
Over July 4th weekend H came home after 4 weeks in the oil fields and through a series of events (not physical) it became necessary he went to alcohol treatment. He went to California and has been in treatment since July 8th. It was supposed to be the 6th but flights cancelled and there was a covid outbreak in FL where he was originally supposed to go, so they moved him to CA.
Anyways, I was preparing myself to pursue divorce. Thru the weeks we’ve talked and he is committed to recovery, to me and the kids. Alcohol has always been part of our relationship and I don’t know what it looks like without it. Not in a bad way, but I feel like I owe it to myself and the kids to find out if we can make this work because I just don’t know.
Now, I’m optimistic and hopeful of his sobriety, he’s taking it seriously and according to his case manager, participates in all the therapy and group classes. But I still have $1K in a separate account just in case. I know I shouldn’t hide money, but I need that security right now.
I’ve prepped the house for him to return, there’s no alcohol. I’ve been sober for a week and plan on being sober for the foreseeable future too. We are traveling to CA (on standby IYKYK) to meet him and take the kids to Disneyland, then come home together. His next 3 week work hitch starts September 2nd.
That is our update, I know some remember me as the H with the burner phone in 2017. We’re still here, trying to make it happen.
