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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 9:57:15 GMT -6
Is your H closer to home if you do the commute? Like if something comes up with your kid would you have to be an hour away/leave or would he be able to? He's about 30 minutes away max, but he's starting a new job so we aren't sure what kind of flexibility either of us would have.
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 9:58:47 GMT -6
Do you know yet what other benefits the jobs offer? To be fair, my commute was always an hour, but I had some stellar benefits which offset the commute in many ways. Also, I rather enjoyed my train commute - good transition into and out of 'work mind'. Worst downside was challenge with appointments and such if I couldn't arrange to WFH that day. Are you the only kid wrangler in your household? That would make a difference to me as well. Other potential benefits are still a question. For example I would ask the hour away place if I could have a few flex days built in to wfh though based on what I know I assume that won't be possible
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Post by beatch on Aug 1, 2021 10:10:42 GMT -6
What's traffic like? If it's an easy commute, I might consider the futher-away opportunity. If there's tons of traffic, then definitely not. I'd also want the first opportunity to have a higher salary.
I used to work in retail and since I switched to a job with regular M-F hours, I would never go back to a job that required weekends.
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on Aug 1, 2021 10:28:15 GMT -6
For me, commute time is mental transitional time that I actually miss since WFH. I like listening to podcasts and getting into the right headspace for work, or for being home.
But I really like WFH so I can take the kids to school and pick them up, or be here when they get home. Being 10 minutes away rather than an hour would feel like a safer option in terms of how close to the kids you'd be.
So I'm torn, but I think ultimately I'd lean toward steady M-F schedule, no evenings or weekends.
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 10:44:48 GMT -6
What's traffic like? If it's an easy commute, I might consider the futher-away opportunity. If there's tons of traffic, then definitely not. I'd also want the first opportunity to have a higher salary. I used to work in retail and since I switched to a job with regular M-F hours, I would never go back to a job that required weekends. Every time I check the commute is between 45 minutes and an hour and ten. It's the turnpike so traffic has the potential to be fucked. Salaries are about equal as far as I know.
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 10:45:19 GMT -6
Are these your only options? I really don’t like either of them. Lol. Me neither. Yes at the moment!
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Post by jaidit on Aug 1, 2021 10:45:23 GMT -6
Is the pay similar? If not this will sway my opinion.
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 10:46:31 GMT -6
Is the pay similar? If not this will sway my opinion. The ranges for both are about the same but actual offers could vary as much as $20k based on ranges.
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Post by wasabi on Aug 1, 2021 11:08:17 GMT -6
I do love having one Monday off every month (we rotate Saturdays so I get about one per month). Working till 8 a couple days per week wouldn’t bother me. That’s more a mid shift than night, to me, and it would allow me to do stuff in the mornings before work. Ohhh yeah a weekday off when your kids are in school is a major plus. For me.
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Post by beatch on Aug 1, 2021 11:33:40 GMT -6
What's traffic like? If it's an easy commute, I might consider the futher-away opportunity. If there's tons of traffic, then definitely not. I'd also want the first opportunity to have a higher salary. I used to work in retail and since I switched to a job with regular M-F hours, I would never go back to a job that required weekends. Every time I check the commute is between 45 minutes and an hour and ten. It's the turnpike so traffic has the potential to be fucked. Salaries are about equal as far as I know. If the salaries are the same, I'd go with the other opportunity. It would be nice to have weekends and evenings off but not at the expense of hours on the road per week.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 14:03:53 GMT -6
I've worked weekends my whole life and I hate it. I can't wait to get a M-F job. Getting home at 8 would mean I would miss dinner and putting my kids to bed. Despite the commute I would choose the M-F job, especially if your partner is on the same schedule.
Is there any way you can take public transportation to have two hours of chill time each day?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 14:07:28 GMT -6
Can you negotiate one WFH day a week at the far away job?
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Post by jaygee on Aug 1, 2021 14:30:46 GMT -6
I hate commuting so my answer would be the weekend/evening job. But avoid a long commute is always on the top of my list of needs so I’m extreme on that end.
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 15:21:15 GMT -6
Can you negotiate one WFH day a week at the far away job? I would for sure try but it isn't likely.
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Post by goldenbird on Aug 1, 2021 15:52:32 GMT -6
I do love having one Monday off every month (we rotate Saturdays so I get about one per month). Working till 8 a couple days per week wouldn’t bother me. That’s more a mid shift than night, to me, and it would allow me to do stuff in the mornings before work. Ohhh yeah a weekday off when your kids are in school is a major plus. For me. I have Thursdays off because I work Sundays and it is amazing.
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Post by northernlghts on Aug 1, 2021 17:29:47 GMT -6
After years of a commute of an hour and a half to two hours each way to get to work, 10 minute commute by far wins for me. It's so much better being closer to home when I go to work.
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Post by McBenny on Aug 1, 2021 18:03:22 GMT -6
I. Don't think an hour commute is bad. I would not want to commit my weekends and nights. That's me.
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Post by teraiin on Aug 1, 2021 18:16:41 GMT -6
I have zero desire to commit to nights/weekends if I have the option to avoid it. However, I also live in a rural area where most people have to commute an hour or so to work anyway.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Aug 1, 2021 18:20:52 GMT -6
If you're already used to some nights and weekends, then I say go for the close job that better aligns with your goals.
Personally, I've never had a commute less than 45 minutes and I haven't worked nights or weekends in well over 10 years, so I wouldn't have even applied for that 2nd job knowing that was the schedule.
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Post by planner on Aug 1, 2021 18:53:09 GMT -6
Are these your only options? I really don’t like either of them. Lol. Me neither. Yes at the moment! Can you pick based on what sets you up best to get the perfect job in the future? It sounds like neither job is perfect. So which job helps you get to that perfect dream job faster?
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Post by lemons on Aug 1, 2021 19:24:53 GMT -6
I have done both. My 45-90 minute commute was on the turnpike and it was absolute hell on earth. I would avoid it at all costs. ETA to be fair this was also connected to a 12 hour night shift so I’m sure that did not help, obviously.
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Post by Cher on Aug 1, 2021 19:49:54 GMT -6
My perception might be skewed because we have a 33 minute train, so people think it’s a big perk having an hour long commute door-to-door. I would much rather listen to some music and zone out before and after work than have my nights and weekends tied up. But that’s me.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Aug 1, 2021 20:08:04 GMT -6
My perception might be skewed because we have a 33 minute train, so people think it’s a big perk having an hour long commute door-to-door. I would much rather listen to some music and zone out before and after work than have my nights and weekends tied up. But that’s me. Yeah, this would be ok. 45 miles down an open interstate (sometimes covered in ice! yay!) is not zone out time. So they type of commute definitely matters.
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 1, 2021 20:09:47 GMT -6
I hate commuting so my answer would be the weekend/evening job. But avoid a long commute is always on the top of my list of needs so I’m extreme on that end. Same. Part of it is that when I had an hour long commute, it could easily become two hours on the way home due to traffic. It felt like such a waste of time. And once I had DD1, it felt even more like a waste of time. Having my work 15 minutes away with no freeway driving has been life changing.
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 1, 2021 20:10:52 GMT -6
My perception might be skewed because we have a 33 minute train, so people think it’s a big perk having an hour long commute door-to-door. I would much rather listen to some music and zone out before and after work than have my nights and weekends tied up. But that’s me. Yeah, this would be ok. 45 miles down an open interstate (sometimes covered in ice! yay!) is not zone out time. So they type of commute definitely matters. Oh for sure. If I had an hour on the train or something, without traffic as a variable, I may feel differently.
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Post by northernlghts on Aug 1, 2021 20:24:18 GMT -6
My commute was an hour and a half to two hours each way via train (and car getting to the station). Sure it was nice to read, listen to music or even nap but relying on the train schedule got old. If the train was late my commute was longer. In the summer heat, the train was slower and in the winter there was snow on the tracks. Waiting outside for the train in the heat and cold with no shelter sucked. If you missed your train, you may have to wait half an hour to an hour for the next one. If the parking lot was full you have to drive around to another station. I didn't have this happen a lot because of the hour I went in but if you took a later train, lots filled up. Personally, I just got tired of leaving my house by 7, getting off the train after 6, coming home and then making dinner every night.
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Post by SweetPotato on Aug 1, 2021 20:31:57 GMT -6
My perception might be skewed because we have a 33 minute train, so people think it’s a big perk having an hour long commute door-to-door. I would much rather listen to some music and zone out before and after work than have my nights and weekends tied up. But that’s me. Yeah, this would be ok. 45 miles down an open interstate (sometimes covered in ice! yay!) is not zone out time. So they type of commute definitely matters. Yes I would love 30 minutes on a train. An hour of traffic each way is grueling. Not that I’d want to work weekends, but working until 8 some nights wouldn’t bother me too much
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Post by Cher on Aug 1, 2021 20:59:00 GMT -6
MH and I both did the commute (at different times). I took the train and wished I could drive, but I didn’t have a car. MH bought a car because he refused to take the train. It was like after taking a subway, walking in crowds of people, we both felt like it was more desirable to be alone in a car with your own space. Even now if I go into the city, I will take driving over the train every single time. I don’t like being tied to a schedule and I don’t mind driving (even in NY traffic/weather). But that me be a me/regional thing.
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 1, 2021 21:01:53 GMT -6
MH and I both did the commute (at different times). I took the train and wished I could drive, but I didn’t have a car. MH bought a car because he refused to take the train. It was like after taking a subway, walking in crowds of people, we both felt like it was more desirable to be alone in a car with your own space. Even now if I go into the city, I will take driving over the train every single time. I don’t like being tied to a schedule and I don’t mind driving (even in NY traffic/weather). But that me be a me/regional thing. I also always prefer to drive.
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Post by emma on Aug 1, 2021 21:09:48 GMT -6
A train commute is nice when it runs on time and you can leave on time to catch it. I used to commute 1.5 hours on train and bus and it got so old that I slightly overreacted and left the country. Then I used to do a 30 mins train (1 hour door to door) in Vancouver and that was better except the time the train hit someone and we got held on the tracks for 4.5 hours.
Anyway as much as I dislike weekend work I think I’d choose that over an hour drive, especially if it’s only 1 weekend a month
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