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Post by miawallace on Apr 13, 2021 11:14:11 GMT -6
I was normal I think. Didn’t really do any extra curricular stuff because we didn’t have money for most of it. I was runner up for class clown though. I hung around the immigrant kids from my church.
Also since I went to school with all the kids that went to my church, I couldn’t do shit without it getting back to my parents. I did everything on the down-low.
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Post by ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ on Apr 13, 2021 11:19:37 GMT -6
I was normal I think. Didn’t really do any extra curricular stuff because we didn’t have money for most of it. I was runner up for class clown though. I hung around the immigrant kids from my church. Also since I went to school with all the kids that went to my church, I couldn’t do shit without it getting back to my parents. I did everything on the down-low. Honestly, we were meant to be. |
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Post by icedcoffee on Apr 13, 2021 11:21:44 GMT -6
I guess you could say I was "popular" but I wasn't a mean girl. You can believe me or not on that lol but the reason I had so many friends was because I was nice to everyone. I like having a wide variety of friends with different interests.
I'm an introvert but also that girl at the bar that makes friends with everyone once I get a few drinks in me
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Post by miawallace on Apr 13, 2021 11:24:08 GMT -6
I was normal I think. Didn’t really do any extra curricular stuff because we didn’t have money for most of it. I was runner up for class clown though. I hung around the immigrant kids from my church. Also since I went to school with all the kids that went to my church, I couldn’t do shit without it getting back to my parents. I did everything on the down-low. Honestly, we were meant to be. You’re my people. |
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Post by shamycooler on Apr 13, 2021 11:29:55 GMT -6
I guess you could say I was "popular" but I wasn't a mean girl. You can believe me or not on that lol but the reason I had so many friends was because I was nice to everyone. I like having a wide variety of friends with different interests. I'm an introvert but also that girl at the bar that makes friends with everyone once I get a few drinks in meI wasn't popular in school, but this is 100% me now. |
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Post by agm04 on Apr 13, 2021 11:30:56 GMT -6
i was kind of a jill of all trades. nerdy classes, cheerleader, bf was in marching band, class VP...i had many friends in different groups, but never totally fit in anywhere.
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Post by joy on Apr 13, 2021 11:30:57 GMT -6
My school had tiers.
Clique (popular)
Regulars
Unpopular
There were levels within each tier. Upper clique, lower clique; upper regular (had friends in the clique without actually being in it), middle of the road regular, lower regular, etc.
I was a middle of the road regular. I had friends in the clique and friends in the unpopulars. No one really bothered me once I got out of elementary school.
My elementary school years were ....very tough. Mean girl shit started in second grade. I was very small, unathletic,, and had zero self-esteem. A “friend” of mine preyed on all my insecurities and treated me badly while I just wanted to be her friend. I was rather wise by sixth grade about social bullshit.
I was close with someone who was a clique/regular guy due to sports. He had some rough times in college. That same horrible girl from elementary school reached out to me under the guise of asking about me. Her true intent came out in the next email where she wanted to know all about my friend’s private struggles. She felt privvy to the info in some warped way. I was like “Oh, still a bitch after all this time.”
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Post by icedcoffee on Apr 13, 2021 11:31:50 GMT -6
I guess you could say I was "popular" but I wasn't a mean girl. You can believe me or not on that lol but the reason I had so many friends was because I was nice to everyone. I like having a wide variety of friends with different interests. I'm an introvert but also that girl at the bar that makes friends with everyone once I get a few drinks in meI wasn't popular in school, but this is 100% me now. All of my friends are still mostly my childhood/college friends. But the adult friends I've made here I have met in the most random places and sometimes I laugh with H about it lol |
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Post by lucilleaustero on Apr 13, 2021 11:36:17 GMT -6
I feel like some of this is tied to school size. I graduated with 224 kids. My husband's class had over 1000 kids, so there were no defined groups.
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Post by jaygee on Apr 13, 2021 11:36:17 GMT -6
Is bitch an identity?
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Post by Dr. Cox on Apr 13, 2021 11:38:07 GMT -6
We had a large for Louisiana class (450), and I was just normal I guess. Not popular but liked well enough, played basketball and was editor of the school paper. Had a good group of friends and partied a lot.
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Post by miawallace on Apr 13, 2021 11:45:58 GMT -6
I feel like some of this is tied to school size. I graduated with 224 kids. My husband's class had over 1000 kids, so there were no defined groups. That was my school too. We had tracks because we had a crap ton of kids in every grade. The person who was picked for most popular was in a different track and I had no clue who that was. |
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Post by melohdy on Apr 13, 2021 11:50:00 GMT -6
Theater kid for sure
Though, by high school we had all been in school together for so long that people were done being mean or isolating to each other. That shit made middle school miserable.
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Post by allthekristys on Apr 13, 2021 11:58:00 GMT -6
I think most 'popular' kids don't self-identify as popular (then, or now) because that's not how they see themselves. That's the fucked up part of growing up and being a teenager - you have a hard time seeing yourself and you are always pining after others and comparing yourself. So you are always looking to be something else.
Obviously, I know there are outliers, but I think this is the general teen-aged experience, right? Insecurities abound, even if there is no reason from the outside looking in. Even if others deem you 'popular' that does not resonate with how you see yourself. We torture ourselves.
Maybe I am just outing myself in terms of my struggles. Who knows.
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Post by Rusty Red on Apr 13, 2021 11:58:17 GMT -6
I was the band geek/academic nerd.
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Post by miawallace on Apr 13, 2021 11:59:09 GMT -6
I was asked to leave school in the middle of tenth grade, for fighting. They said it was better than having an expulsion on my record. Not sure where that would land me on the “identity”. it makes you sexy okay? |
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Post by Rusty Red on Apr 13, 2021 11:59:45 GMT -6
I am friends on FB with some people from my graduating class. Always gives me a chuckle when some talk about the “good old days” and wish they could go back to that time. Must have sucked to have peaked in high school. I saw a friend post the other day she would gladly go back and live it again. I was like no thank you very much. |
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Post by allthekristys on Apr 13, 2021 12:00:38 GMT -6
Anyway, I always had a hard time feeling like I belonged to any crowd because I spent the 1st 2 years in catholic school and the last 2 years in public. I definitely was an outlier in Catholic school, as I was not Catholic and didn't go to CCD, or do any of the Catholic rituals that the other kids were close because of. THen when I went back to public school, I didn't not fit in, but I also felt like an outlier since I was not in that public school district from 7-10 grade so I missed a lot of the crucial bonding times.
I was a generalist I think. Friends with most, definitely not part of any clique, but moreso friendly with all cliques and I had a couple of close friends that were in different cliques.
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Post by coffeecake on Apr 13, 2021 12:03:51 GMT -6
I went to a large school and there were lots of different groups. I was just normal. I had lots of friends and generally enjoyed high school, but I wasn’t “popular.” I never witnessed much bullying, but I know now I was just naive. I actually met a guy in college from my class who I didn’t know. He said everyone was mean to him and he hated it so much. I felt really bad.
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Post by sudokufan on Apr 13, 2021 12:05:10 GMT -6
I went to 4 high schools in 4 years, so I never really had a crowd. Plus, German club, advanced math classes = nerd.
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Post by Rusty Red on Apr 13, 2021 12:06:03 GMT -6
I went to 4 high schools in 4 years, so I never really had a crowd. Plus, German club, advanced math classes = nerd. Oh hi fellow nerd. I was in the In the Know group. We were sooooo popular. LOL |
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Post by emma on Apr 13, 2021 12:07:07 GMT -6
Grunger
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Post by byjove on Apr 13, 2021 12:09:01 GMT -6
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 13, 2021 12:13:19 GMT -6
I was in sports. And music. And "nerd" stuff (like MathCounts and Academic Decathlon). And ag stuff (4-H/FFA).
The few friends I had from those things were not from my school.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2021 12:13:32 GMT -6
I am friends on FB with some people from my graduating class. Always gives me a chuckle when some talk about the “good old days” and wish they could go back to that time. Must have sucked to have peaked in high school. Lol a few years after graduation I ran into someone from HS and they said, don't you just miss HS?! LOL I said hell to the fuck to the no |
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 13, 2021 12:14:22 GMT -6
I am friends on FB with some people from my graduating class. Always gives me a chuckle when some talk about the “good old days” and wish they could go back to that time. Must have sucked to have peaked in high school. I saw a friend post the other day she would gladly go back and live it again. I was like no thank you very much. Oh fuck that. |
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Post by ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ on Apr 13, 2021 12:18:11 GMT -6
I was asked to leave school in the middle of tenth grade, for fighting. They said it was better than having an expulsion on my record. Not sure where that would land me on the “identity”. I would not identify this as Dolly Parton. lol I'm curious - do you feel like you're still prone to fights (in whatever form)? |
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Post by sheilathetank on Apr 13, 2021 12:22:18 GMT -6
goth chick
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 13, 2021 12:22:39 GMT -6
I feel like some of this is tied to school size. I graduated with 224 kids. My husband's class had over 1000 kids, so there were no defined groups. I cannot imagine having a class that size (either of those numbers). Mine was 67 and was huge. Average is around 45. |
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Post by lucilleaustero on Apr 13, 2021 12:24:13 GMT -6
I am friends on FB with some people from my graduating class. Always gives me a chuckle when some talk about the “good old days” and wish they could go back to that time. Must have sucked to have peaked in high school. This is some of my guy friends. It is like Bruce Springsteen wrote 'Glory Days' for them. Still reliving their football games. |
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