jkjacq
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Post by jkjacq on Feb 24, 2021 23:28:51 GMT -6
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Post by oreobitsy on Feb 25, 2021 0:29:34 GMT -6
cp3 sending love your way.
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Post by blurnette989 on Feb 25, 2021 7:16:16 GMT -6
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Post by cakewench on Feb 25, 2021 7:25:20 GMT -6
Sending you so many hugs, cp3 ❤️❤️❤️
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Post by lemondrop on Feb 25, 2021 7:28:04 GMT -6
cp3, so many distance hugs, friend.
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Post by notblanche on Feb 25, 2021 7:52:40 GMT -6
cp3 sending love and strength. i have too much experience with family members and addiction; it takes such an enormous toll on everyone. here for you.
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Post by greykitty on Feb 25, 2021 8:02:28 GMT -6
Only my good wishes to all those struggling with such hard days and choices. May strength and hope be with you.
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Minerva
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Post by Minerva on Feb 25, 2021 8:09:37 GMT -6
cp3, I’m sending hugs and so much love your way. ❤️
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cp3
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Post by cp3 on Feb 25, 2021 12:39:10 GMT -6
cp3 I can relate... like, a lot. Down to the sinking feeling when your parents call (my brother overdosed on heroin a few years ago, thankfully he survived, but I will never forget every detail of that night). It’s been going on since we were teenagers, has really colored my life in every way, and it’s hard and exhausting and heartbreaking. I’m so sorry you are dealing with it. If you ever need an ear I’m here. <3 I'm so sorry you are going through this as well. ❤
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Post by cp3 on Feb 25, 2021 12:42:46 GMT -6
You guys are the best ❤❤❤
And I am so sorry that many of you have experience with this as well. I wish there were better resources available and that there wasn't still such a stigma tied to addiction. It is all so hard and the pandemic just makes everything that much worse for those already struggling.
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Post by overboard on Feb 25, 2021 13:09:56 GMT -6
cp3 I’ve mentioned this before, but I restarted therapy in the middle of this pandemic. I found the best therapist I’ve ever had, and we’ve only done online video appointments. I definitely think you should reach out if you can, even if you feel like it’s only to word vomit. Also, I have a brother who is an addict and it can definitely be draining. I’m not much of a hugger, so I’m sending you a virtual morgorita if that’s ok.
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willow
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Post by willow on Feb 25, 2021 19:55:02 GMT -6
I’m really struggling today. We got more bad news about my aunt. She’s not responding to chemo. She was dx with stage 4 colon cancer last month and it has metastasized to her liver. Right now if her body doesn’t start responding to treatment, we are looking more at months vs years left. Even with treatment she was only expected an optimistic 2 years.
She’s only 37(my uncle is a lot older) and my cousins are 9 and 13. It’s just so fucking unfair and I feel like the death in my family and friends just keeps coming at me. I’m heartbroken for my poor young cousins.
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Post by cakewench on Feb 25, 2021 20:28:55 GMT -6
I am so sorry, willow - sending so much love to you, your aunt, and your family <3
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Post by elle on Feb 25, 2021 20:48:02 GMT -6
Oh willow, I'm so sorry. That's absolutely devastating. Much love to you and your family, I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts. ❤
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Post by athn64 on Feb 25, 2021 21:17:55 GMT -6
I'm so sorry willow. Fuck cancer!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2021 21:50:14 GMT -6
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overboard
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Post by overboard on Feb 25, 2021 23:00:49 GMT -6
willow I’m so sorry. 😢 That is heartbreaking.
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Post by oreobitsy on Feb 25, 2021 23:47:40 GMT -6
willow I am so very sorry for you and your family.
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Ls2012
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Post by Ls2012 on Feb 26, 2021 0:08:50 GMT -6
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fatpony
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Post by fatpony on Feb 26, 2021 7:52:40 GMT -6
I'm so sorry willow, what a horrible situation. My heart is broken for her kids.
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jkjacq
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Post by jkjacq on Feb 26, 2021 8:37:17 GMT -6
willow, I'm so sorry, sending love and light to your family. <3
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Post by dc2london on Feb 26, 2021 8:45:15 GMT -6
I'm so sorry@willow . Hopefully something starts working soon.
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Post by blurnette989 on Feb 26, 2021 8:47:40 GMT -6
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Post by greykitty on Feb 26, 2021 8:52:38 GMT -6
willow, I'm so sorry. Such a young woman to be facing such a challenge, not that it's easy at any age. My thoughts are with you and all your family.
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willow
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Post by willow on Feb 26, 2021 9:05:19 GMT -6
Thank you everyone. Fuck cancer indeed. This is the second woman in her 30s that I have known recently to be dx with terminal colon cancer. It makes me really question the current recommendations for colonoscopies since it is such a slow growing cancer. I am looking into getting one myself soon just because I'm freaked out and preventative screenings seem to be the least I can do.
Also, from what my uncle has described, it sounds like my aunt absolutely has been getting less than standard care at least initially which we suspected was due to her being black. She is a nurse herself though and advocated like hell for herself and pushed them for the tests that finally found the tumor. It's sad that it is this way.
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byjove
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Post by byjove on Feb 26, 2021 9:16:04 GMT -6
willow, that is infuriating <3
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Post by carmensandiego on Feb 26, 2021 11:51:39 GMT -6
willow, that's horrifying. While I am glad she was able to advocate for herself, she shouldn't have to do that. Hopefully she starts to respond soon. cp3, what a tough journey. I am glad you're looking into ways to care for yourself.
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Minerva
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Post by Minerva on Feb 26, 2021 12:11:42 GMT -6
Oh willow, that’s so sad. I’m sorry your aunt and family are going through this.
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willow
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Post by willow on Feb 26, 2021 13:21:16 GMT -6
Well I just got an update from my uncle (the one I got last night was from earlier this week coming down the line from my parents) that she started responding to chemo and was released last night to go home. Her mom flew in earlier this week from Mozambique (where she is from) to care for her. It is her first time in the US ever, so this is must be quite the culture shock along with you know, traveling in a pandemic and coming to care for your terminally ill daughter.
I'm very glad she started responding to chemo. I'm hopeful that means she gets a few years instead of months now. For herself but also for her little children, giving them as much time with her as possible.
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Post by lemondrop on Feb 26, 2021 14:19:00 GMT -6
willow, I'm so, so sorry. I had no idea how prevalent late stage colon cancer is until I had someone close to me get DX'd. My thoughts are with her, and her children, and your family.
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