jkjacq
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Post by jkjacq on Feb 16, 2021 15:14:53 GMT -6
catspajamas, Dont compare your problems to others. They impact you just as hard as what some others are dealing with regardless of big or small. We get it and its ok <3 I hope you get answers to help! Welcome bitsandpieces,
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Post by Uncaripswife on Feb 16, 2021 16:25:41 GMT -6
When my children are home for days they create play scenes over every inch of the house (which is great), but then on day 3 I turn into meltdown mode and EVERYTHING NEEDS TO BE CLEANED OR I WILL LOSE MY EVER LOVING MIND. Rinse and repeat. Omg. This is me. Like I cannot handle it anymore. I would pay a LOT of money in therapy if someone could make me not this way. I'm on this bench
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Post by Uncaripswife on Feb 16, 2021 16:28:58 GMT -6
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athn64
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Post by athn64 on Feb 16, 2021 16:58:32 GMT -6
I just threw DD2's dinosaur puppet across the room, so that shows where my mental state is.
I upped my depression meds last year right before the pandemic. It has helped but my stress and anxiety continue to spike at times.
Lent starts tomorrow and I have no idea how to get into the right mind frame for fasting. It's been almost a year since I stepped foot into a church building and I'm feeling very disconnected from everyone.
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Post by trueblue on Feb 16, 2021 17:00:59 GMT -6
catspajamas Hashimoto’s? I was dx’d a few years ago. Always happy to talk and share what i have learned. Thank you! As far as I know, just hypo - but my OB ordered the labs and they just tested TSH and FT4. I have upcoming appts with a new primary care dr next month and an endo in May, so I hope to know more then once they run a full panel. I do have a question on meds, I will send you a PM. Thank you <3 Saw the message and responded before I made it here-i would definitely try to move up the endo appt asap, that doc will be the best one to figure out your care plan.
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Post by coffeecake on Feb 16, 2021 17:22:35 GMT -6
I’m sorry to everyone who is struggling. It’s all so hard.I have good days and bad days. Overall, I feel like I have nothing to complain about, but I feel so much anxiety some days. Everything just feels more difficult. Sometimes our “new normal” feels okay. I never forget masks when we leave the house. I don’t miss eating out anymore.
But then, sometimes I feel overwhelmed. Some lady yelled at me at the grocery store yesterday because I was wiping the cart handle with a Clorox wipe. She walked up to me (way too close) and said the employees wipe them and why would I waste time doing that and she hasn’t gotten sick this whole year! She gave me the dirtiest look and then walked away. It was weird, lol. But it really shook me up some reason and I cannot stop thinking about it.
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Post by redbears on Feb 16, 2021 18:39:45 GMT -6
This year has made it abundantly clear to me how introverted I really am. I also did not realize how sensitive I've become to noise and visual chaos. When my kids were in school, I had the house to myself for hours and hours. Now that everyone is home all day every day, I am finding myself letting them play Roblox for hours just because it keeps them quiet. I need that level of peace around me. I lay down in my bed every hour for 10 minutes just to recoup my energy. My mom did this when I was a kid, and I never ever understand why. Now, I get it.
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Post by Uncaripswife on Feb 16, 2021 18:39:51 GMT -6
coffeecake that's so strange! Why on earth would she care if you wiped down your cart?!
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ktg
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Post by ktg on Feb 16, 2021 18:41:39 GMT -6
coffeecake sounds like that lady offloaded her own feelings of COVID-fatigue on you. I would have found that very unsettling, too.
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snowyowl
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 16, 2021 19:12:21 GMT -6
Hugs to everyone ❤️
Before this pandemic, I was a fairly easy-going and relaxed person. I wasn’t an amazing mom, but I was managing. Now I’m regularly fighting off free-floating anxiety about nothing, and sucking at the mom thing. I tell myself my kids will be ok, that they are resilient and my brain is telling me it’s worse than it is. But it’s sad and tiring.
Normally H and I do a pretty good job of being the rock when the other person is struggling. But he reinjured his bad back recently, and while he’s been amazing about helping around the house as much as he can, the really hard part is that he’s in a bad mood 24/7. He puts on a good front for the kids, but when you know someone, you know. I don’t blame him, being in pain sucks, but it’s so tiring to be the cheerful, supportive one all the time.
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jkjacq
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Post by jkjacq on Feb 16, 2021 19:13:23 GMT -6
coffeecake I would have said something like maybe you don’t get sick BECAUSE I’m wiping my cart then coughed. That’s weird
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 16, 2021 19:17:21 GMT -6
I’m sorry, coffeecake, that’s disconcerting. I know you know it wasn’t about you, but I get why it stuck with you. So weird that people feel the need to lecture others for being safe when it doesn’t affect them at all 😑
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Post by coffeecake on Feb 16, 2021 19:58:30 GMT -6
I’m sorry, coffeecake, that’s disconcerting. I know you know it wasn’t about you, but I get why it stuck with you. So weird that people feel the need to lecture others for being safe when it doesn’t affect them at all 😑 Yeah, I know it was not about me. But I had the same thought...why does she care if I wipe my cart? It does not affect her. I’ve used a wipe on my cart since forever. They’ve always been right there and I grab one every time, even before covid.
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Post by sctiger on Feb 16, 2021 19:59:27 GMT -6
I've hit a wall and pandemic fatigue has been here for months. I'm probably an "outgoing introvert" in that I like talking to people but I need quiet time to recharge. I've missed normal interactions with people even those I'm not close to, just everyday interactions that I took for granted. I've found myself getting angry about covid stuff. I hate wearing masks and looking at masked faces, I hate being closed out of my kid's school and not being able to have normal parent interactions with parents at my school, I hate not being able to go to church and meet with our friend groups. I want to travel. I'm so over it all. I don't like feeling angry but that's where my feelings have been lately.
Then I feel guilty because we both have jobs and our kids are in school five days a week. We are so much better off than lots of people out there. And then I get mad again because I'm angry that we are in this situation where so many people are suffering.
Work is stressful because so much is different. We have quiet a few kids who are failing and I'm in a constant state of anxiety that at the end of the year admin is going to ask for a record of all the times I've reached out to these kids, then tell me it wasn't enough and that it's my fault they failed. So that's an awesome feeling.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2021 22:40:12 GMT -6
This year has made it abundantly clear to me how introverted I really am. I also did not realize how sensitive I've become to noise and visual chaos. When my kids were in school, I had the house to myself for hours and hours. Now that everyone is home all day every day, I am finding myself letting them play Roblox for hours just because it keeps them quiet. I need that level of peace around me. I lay down in my bed every hour for 10 minutes just to recoup my energy. My mom did this when I was a kid, and I never ever understand why. Now, I get it. Oh, yes. I used to WFH on Fridays and I had the house all to myself the whole day. Now, these other two humans are ALWAYS HERE. I actually asked H to take DS out at least once on the weekends so I can have some quiet alone time in my home.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2021 22:42:57 GMT -6
sctiger we are very fortunate too that we’re able to WFH and DS does fine with distance learning. I’m grateful for that but it’s still hard. Try not to beat yourself up for your feelings.
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Post by sherminator on Feb 16, 2021 23:15:56 GMT -6
Im hanging on, barely. Theres a small break in super cold weather- it was 15 and kiddo got outside. Im increasingly worried about their mental health.Im doing weird stuff like suddenly crafting a wreath made of plastic easter eggs to get rid of some. it actually looks kinda ok. If it breaks to the 20s and I can get into the garage- we'll make it. my house is a freaking disaster, and Im serenely hot gluing eggs onto a grapevine wreath if that gives you a mental image.
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Post by notblanche on Feb 17, 2021 8:41:35 GMT -6
i'm sorry you're having a tough time, @icedtea. i hope you start to feel better soon.
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Minerva
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Post by Minerva on Feb 17, 2021 9:51:43 GMT -6
A bunch of my health stuff has gotten worse, which makes it harder/impossible to work out, which does not help my mental state. Everything just hurts, inside and out. Hugs to all ❤️ This has been true for me too. I’m still walking daily, but my joints aren’t handling anything else right now (and sometimes I pay for the walks with aches and pains, especially when it is cold).
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Post by lemondrop on Feb 17, 2021 10:28:29 GMT -6
I dunno if this would be beneficial for anyone, but if we wanted to start our own little CE/N/P workout/ general health motivational group, I'd be more than happy to start one. I was going to wade into the GD one, but I got overwhelmed.
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Post by Minerva on Feb 17, 2021 10:57:10 GMT -6
I dunno if this would be beneficial for anyone, but if we wanted to start our own little CE/N/P workout/ general health motivational group, I'd be more than happy to start one. I was going to wade into the GD one, but I got overwhelmed. I would enjoy this. I’ve played in the GD one in the past, but it’s a bit too much for me right now. One of my goals during Lent is to start a food journal again. No calorie counting or specific restrictions, but I need to start being more mindful about choosing healthy foods, especially for breakfast and lunch.
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snowyowl
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Post by snowyowl on Feb 17, 2021 11:08:27 GMT -6
I dunno if this would be beneficial for anyone, but if we wanted to start our own little CE/N/P workout/ general health motivational group, I'd be more than happy to start one. I was going to wade into the GD one, but I got overwhelmed. I’d like this. Nothing against that thread, but it’s big and I get caught up in trying to read and keep up with everyone.
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clucky
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Post by clucky on Feb 17, 2021 11:26:19 GMT -6
I dunno if this would be beneficial for anyone, but if we wanted to start our own little CE/N/P workout/ general health motivational group, I'd be more than happy to start one. I was going to wade into the GD one, but I got overwhelmed. Would want to participate, but most likely would lurk with a goal of actual participation. Realizing my plan for the 2020-2021 school year was never realized is sad. Hoping that I can get into some sort of routine that can stick to. My workout space aka living room feels stressful with all the living happening there.
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Post by notblanche on Feb 17, 2021 11:32:31 GMT -6
I dunno if this would be beneficial for anyone, but if we wanted to start our own little CE/N/P workout/ general health motivational group, I'd be more than happy to start one. I was going to wade into the GD one, but I got overwhelmed. I'd participate! Motivation is hard to come by these days, but I need to find it. And I get really overwhelmed in the big thread.
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clucky
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Post by clucky on Feb 17, 2021 11:53:07 GMT -6
Me realizing you are all actually opening a GD thread while my eyes gloss over it is even there. Lol me
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Post by notblanche on Feb 17, 2021 12:04:58 GMT -6
I've been in my house with children with no breaks since December 2019. Work is taking a lot out of me, and I'm not paid enough to match the level of stress. But I don't have the bandwidth to finish updating my resume, let alone try to job search. And my marriage is in bad shape for no reason in particular; we're just... not very interested in each other. So, things aren't great over here.
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Post by carmensandiego on Feb 17, 2021 12:23:42 GMT -6
I'm hanging on. I am feeling the weight of being responsible for everything. DD2 is struggling to read and her school (which I usually love) is not being helpful. She's in a researched based program at one of our state universities, so I know we'll get it sorted out. But I want it done now!
I'd join a check in, if only for some commiseration. I'm working on a running plan, and am working toward a 60 minute run. Only 8 runs left before that milestone. And I'm dreading it. A little proud of myself, but also dreading. Lol
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Post by richard on Feb 17, 2021 18:36:37 GMT -6
This year has made it abundantly clear to me how introverted I really am. I also did not realize how sensitive I've become to noise and visual chaos. When my kids were in school, I had the house to myself for hours and hours. Now that everyone is home all day every day, I am finding myself letting them play Roblox for hours just because it keeps them quiet. I need that level of peace around me. I lay down in my bed every hour for 10 minutes just to recoup my energy. My mom did this when I was a kid, and I never ever understand why. Now, I get it. Oh, yes. I used to WFH on Fridays and I had the house all to myself the whole day. Now, these other two humans are ALWAYS HERE. I actually asked H to take DS out at least once on the weekends so I can have some quiet alone time in my home. DH takes the kids to the park or sledding because it's two birds with one stone - fresh air and exercise for the kids and a quiet house for me to regain my senses.
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Post by blurnette989 on Feb 18, 2021 6:49:25 GMT -6
I've been in this thread but hadn't responded yet because I'm so overwhelmed. We continue to have serious struggles with my oldest and his flat refusal to even try to read and just power struggles over things everyday that have never been issues. Yesterday he threw an hour long tantrum because he decided he only brushes his teeth once a day and when we did, no you always brush twice a day we were "lying". I know he knows we aren't lying but he won't admit it. And just flips out. I don't know how to deal with him.
And the mom group for his class is all in an uproar about whether we tell the principal that his teacher is doing bare minimum and we will not accept her being the teacher for grades 3 and 4. Everyone is unhappy but they don't want to hurt the teachers feelings. I'm sorry but if we all agree she isn't meeting our children's needs and there has been no improvement from our discussions and complaints then we need to advocate for our kids and fuck her feelings.
I just can't with all the stress on top of stress on top of stress. At least my and my stepdad built a new chicken coop and it's great even if my mother complained that it's too big.
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Post by leahcar on Feb 18, 2021 12:46:31 GMT -6
The TX catastrophe may be my breaking point. My mom fell Friday- required surgery- and is now having to stay in a rehab facility. That's just the new stuff.
All 3 of my kids are having pretty severe mental health issues courtesy of the pandemic, virtual school, and lockdown. Work has been absolutely nuts for the entirety of the pandemic; I have averaged 60-70 hours a week FOR A YEAR.
I'm just over it. I want to not talk to anyone for days. And- you know- shower without boiling water to do so.
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