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Post by coolbeans on Jan 13, 2021 15:26:10 GMT -6
coolbeans the parties can be so epic and we’ve made so many friends that for us it is more about having fun and if things happen, they happen. We don’t have expectations except to have a good time at the party. I get this. We’ve never had a swinging encounter per se, but have had experiences that seem to come out of nowhere and that’s half the fun!
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Post by thatgolfb on Jan 13, 2021 15:26:31 GMT -6
How often do you swing? Do you have kids? (Just from a scheduling standpoint lol) This made me LOL, because I am imagining someone saying "Oh man, I would love to swing, but I just can't find the TIME."
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jorkzy
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Post by jorkzy on Jan 13, 2021 15:27:27 GMT -6
What’s an example of something you would wear to a party? What about your h?
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Post by Hotcoconuts82 on Jan 13, 2021 15:28:03 GMT -6
How often do you swing? Do you have kids? (Just from a scheduling standpoint lol) This made me LOL, because I am imagining someone saying "Oh man, I would love to swing, but I just can't find the TIME." I'm lucky if I get a sitter a few times a year. It's a valid question!!! 🤣
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:29:39 GMT -6
We don’t go off with other couples and play that often. We are much more touchy feely than non-lifestyle people so flirting is different but this varies by couple. Sometimes it’s way better to go home and have sex with H after the vibe of the party/club. It’s more comfortable at home anyway and not so distracting. The parties are akin to any wild party but the women are way less dressed (topless even). Think spring break but with older people and actually less clothing. So it's mostly about hanging out in a sexually liberal atmosphere, having some heavy flirting, and using that to drive some fun when you get home? (I think I had the same confusion as Willow lol) Thank you for describing it way better than me. I get more action since so many of the women I meet are into women. H enjoys seeing that. We do play but not every time.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:36:14 GMT -6
I find this fascinating! While it’s not something I would consider now, H and I are newlywed and in the baby making process, I very much understand a decade into marriage finding this lifestyle fun and appealing. Correct me if I’m wrong, but with the jealousy thing...‘I think most people ONLY focus on their partner hooking up with another woman and forget that they too would be getting attention from someone they found attractive. I think that’s where I see the jealousy subsiding some. Also anecdote - H is 99.99% positive his dad and step mom are swingers and have been for years and years. Similar parties and communities and they are based in Tampa (good ol’ Florida!) Both him and his brother have suspected it since they were about 20ish. Tampa! We were supposed to go to Eyez Wide Shut when we were there but ended up going to Secrets instead. Next time I go to FL I’ll ask for the pic of them and do some recon for you. My sister lives there and I plan to visit again someday. I haven’t run into any other group of people that party like this aside from the youngins. How do they feel about that? I’ve heard of instances if someone running into a family member. On the jealousy point you brought up, yes! You are spot on (for me at least). If I’m not attracted to the guy it doesn’t work out so well. I’ve run into this so now I am super selective.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:36:52 GMT -6
What’s an example of something you would wear to a party? What about your h? Let me crop a pic and post it. I will DD it later.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:37:48 GMT -6
How often do you swing? Do you have kids? (Just from a scheduling standpoint lol) This made me LOL, because I am imagining someone saying "Oh man, I would love to swing, but I just can't find the TIME." A lot of people in my age range have little ones. I’m jealous of those whose kids are old enough not to need a sitter. They get to go wild anytime!
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willow
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Post by willow on Jan 13, 2021 15:38:32 GMT -6
When you do decide to join up with a couple, is there like, space at these parties for that? Or do you bring them to a hotel room, or...where do you go? lol
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:38:43 GMT -6
coolbeans the parties can be so epic and we’ve made so many friends that for us it is more about having fun and if things happen, they happen. We don’t have expectations except to have a good time at the party. I get this. We’ve never had a swinging encounter per se, but have had experiences that seem to come out of nowhere and that’s half the fun! Always better this way. You walk away on a high wondering what just happened but it was awesome!
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Post by coolbeans on Jan 13, 2021 15:42:11 GMT -6
becausewhy Was it intimidating at all when you first started?
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Post by donnameagle on Jan 13, 2021 15:45:04 GMT -6
I find this fascinating! While it’s not something I would consider now, H and I are newlywed and in the baby making process, I very much understand a decade into marriage finding this lifestyle fun and appealing. Correct me if I’m wrong, but with the jealousy thing...‘I think most people ONLY focus on their partner hooking up with another woman and forget that they too would be getting attention from someone they found attractive. I think that’s where I see the jealousy subsiding some. Also anecdote - H is 99.99% positive his dad and step mom are swingers and have been for years and years. Similar parties and communities and they are based in Tampa (good ol’ Florida!) Both him and his brother have suspected it since they were about 20ish. Tampa! We were supposed to go to Eyez Wide Shut when we were there but ended up going to Secrets instead. Next time I go to FL I’ll ask for the pic of them and do some recon for you. My sister lives there and I plan to visit again someday. I haven’t run into any other group of people that party like this aside from the youngins. How do they feel about that? I’ve heard of instances if someone running into a family member. On the jealousy point you brought up, yes! You are spot on (for me at least). If I’m not attracted to the guy it doesn’t work out so well. I’ve run into this so now I am super selective. H and brother could care less! The parents are big time partiers though, so super fun house to hang out at when you’re in your 20’s. They (h and bro) never went to any clubs or saw anything with their own two eyes... but the couples they hung with and some of the things that were said and how a normal party would at least end up with skinny dipping.... yeah they were both convinced. Allll of the older couples could hang and party, and some def gave off some good time vibes. Pretty sure they still are into it but now that H comes with a wife and his step kids and a baby on the way the house parties are non existent when we are there. LOL. I’ve seen how they do interact with certain friends when it’s just H and I out on the boat with them and stuff and yes, there is an element. But never if kids are present! H was very sexually liberal in his 20’s and has a varied sex life history. I’m no prude at all and some of his stories still make my mouth drop - not sure if it has anything to do with parents at all though cause he grew up in military school - lol. But possibly that he just takes the swinger thing with them in stride (as do I)
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Jan 13, 2021 15:47:50 GMT -6
The people that you socialize with as friends now, have you hooked up with any of them?
Are there couples that you have swung with more than once?
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:51:10 GMT -6
When you do decide to join up with a couple, is there like, space at these parties for that? Or do you bring them to a hotel room, or...where do you go? lol Most of the time there’s a room or area set up at a party. The clubs have dedicated areas. Plenty of times we or someone had a hotel room especially if it’s not a local event.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:55:00 GMT -6
@jorzky I’ll keep it as PG as possible. Sometimes the outfit calls for pasties. It only allows me to upload one at a time.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:56:03 GMT -6
H usually wears pants and will take off his shirt. This was obviously themed. M
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willow
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Post by willow on Jan 13, 2021 15:56:28 GMT -6
I mean those of us in the motivation thread already know you're hot but damn girl! I love your confidence!
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willow
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Post by willow on Jan 13, 2021 15:57:03 GMT -6
Also hi to your H's bod.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:57:09 GMT -6
becausewhy Was it intimidating at all when you first started? It was. We had no clue what to expect and didn’t fully understand it all but we had a lot of people give us advice along the way.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 15:59:47 GMT -6
The people that you socialize with as friends now, have you hooked up with any of them? Are there couples that you have swung with more than once? We have one couple that’s been around since the beginning who we still hook up with. We hang out at each other’s houses with the kids (never anything in front if the kids obv). There’s others that we will definitely hook up with again and some others where becoming friends kinda killed the vibe to hook up.
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Post by Hotcoconuts82 on Jan 13, 2021 16:01:10 GMT -6
Well hot damn...
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 16:06:51 GMT -6
willow, I mentioned yesterday that I was swooning over H while he was working out the other day. He’s come a long way because he did not look like this before. He always felt like the grenade in our LS life but now he has confidence since he’s been working on himself.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 16:11:34 GMT -6
donnameagle that definitely sounds very much like they are into something and sounds like a fun ass house! I’m sure my kid will put two and two together eventually and if she asks I’ll tell her. I tested the waters when she was questioning something she witnessed with our friends and she was OK with it.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 16:17:04 GMT -6
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Post by bellatrix on Jan 13, 2021 16:17:29 GMT -6
Damn you guys are hot!
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 16:20:20 GMT -6
But you haven’t seen our faces. You might change your mind! I personally think we’re a good looking couple. We get a lot of other couples and single women (and guys for me) interested. Sometimes I wish I was more carefree in this and not so reserved. I am very reserved without anything to drink. Not in the way I dress, that’s always been me but I’m shy.
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Post by bellatrix on Jan 13, 2021 16:29:51 GMT -6
But you haven’t seen our faces. You might change your mind! I personally think we’re a good looking couple. We get a lot of other couples and single women (and guys for me) interested. Sometimes I wish I was more carefree in this and not so reserved. I am very reserved without anything to drink. Not in the way I dress, that’s always been me but I’m shy. Fine, you've got hot bodies 🔥🔥
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willow
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Post by willow on Jan 13, 2021 16:47:47 GMT -6
Oh hush your face is for sure hot too.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 16:52:32 GMT -6
I’ll admit it — I thought there’d be more clothes when you said “outfit.” But, you know, I’m basically an old Hapsburg. Occasionally there’s more clothes. Sometimes there’s just bottoms and pasties or nothing at all on top. We did go to a resort in Vegas where it was mandatory that you be nude. That was new for us but wasn’t as uncomfortable as we thought it would be. According to the signed pics on the walls it’s a spot some celebs visit. Unfortunately, we didn’t see any when we went.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 13, 2021 16:54:12 GMT -6
Oh hush your face is for sure hot too. Why thank you. I did brave it and posted my face that one time.
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