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Post by pbandj714 on Jan 6, 2021 17:51:59 GMT -6
I was admitted to the hospital yesterday because of more bleeding. I'm 25+3 and have a 4 cm placental abruption. Baby is measuring spot on and looks fantastic on monitors, thank goodness. I was stable enough to move from L&D to the high risk unit so at least I'm in a comfier bed now. It's basically a wait and see game now. Will my bleeding resolve, recurr, get worse? No way of knowing. A complete abruption is the obvious concern and why they want to keep me here so that babe would have the best possible outcome with an emergency CS. This all sucks. I feel so bad for J at home with the kids trying to work, solo parent, do all the chores. I feel scared for the possibility of a micro-preemie. Because of covid, I can only have one visitor, J obviously. But the kids can't come. And there's no one to watch them unless he comes here during the work day while they're at daycare. Hold me.
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Post by tj on Jan 6, 2021 18:08:45 GMT -6
Oh honey I’m so very sorry. First of all, stop feeling guilty and stop worrying about J. You two are a team and I guarantee you that he is only worried about you and this little babe staying safe.
Secondly, I’m so sorry. This just sucks. There is literally nothing you can do but wait and see. Can I send you something? Do you knit or crochet? Read or journal? Will the hospital let me send you a care package? Can I amazon a package to J and have him bring it to you?
Hang in there. Just keep your feet up and rest and relax and drink your water and meditate or pray or watch tv or read the entire internet. Whatever you calmly do. And don’t turn on the news.
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Post by jnu76 on Jan 6, 2021 18:10:43 GMT -6
@pbj, I don’t even know what to say. You and your family are in my thoughts. I’m sorry that you’re going through this and I’m sending you and your little one all of the hope in my heart. Please keep us posted on how you’re doing.
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Post by ovenrack on Jan 6, 2021 18:12:27 GMT -6
Ohhhh pbandj714. This is so hard and SO UNFAIR! I'm so sorry. You deserve a dream birth without any worries. What a situation! It totally sucks, first and foremost. But. You got this. I know, it's so much. But... you do! I know it. J will be fine at home with the kids. Really. It's hard, yeah. But not impossible, he's a great dad and can figure it out.. And you? You are an excellent mom. You know how to take care of babies. Profesh level! So if they say that taking care is staying put and waiting, you're gonna be the best wait-er around! You can feel scared and complain and still, if you're waiting, you're golden. You're doing the thing. We're here for you. Hug hug hugs.
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Post by stringy on Jan 6, 2021 18:16:27 GMT -6
OH man pbandj714, I'm sorry. Sit tight and rest. J and the kids will be okay. I'll be thinking of you and tiny babby - glad they look great on the monitors. Vent away to us and if we can do anything let us know (beyond giffing, that is)
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Post by charlotte on Jan 6, 2021 18:17:24 GMT -6
Ugh I’m so sorry. Like OR said, this is so unfair.
I’d love to send you some things or just inundate you with stupid Snapchats. Let us know how we can help.
Are they planning to keep you in the hospital until you deliver?
We are here cheering for you. You guys got this.
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Post by pbandj714 on Jan 6, 2021 18:17:31 GMT -6
Thanks, tj. I don't think I need anything. Luckily, my work is all remote on the laptop so I am able to work. That helps keep me busy. I feel like I'm handling this super well emotionally, so far at least. I miss my family, but being alone doesn't bother me. I worry more about them than me. It's weird. Very weird headspace happening over here.
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Post by pbandj714 on Jan 6, 2021 18:19:49 GMT -6
Ugh I’m so sorry. Like OR said, this is so unfair. I’d love to send you some things or just inundate you with stupid Snapchats. Let us know how we can help. Are they planning to keep you in the hospital until you deliver? We are here cheering for you. You guys got this. I would love stupid snapchats! There's no set plan yet on how long I'll stay. They *might* feel ok sending me home if I have a week of no bleeding, but they might not if the abruption looks unstable still on US. So it's a big game of wait and see.
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Post by DGM on Jan 6, 2021 18:29:43 GMT -6
You're in my T&P!
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Post by Speedy on Jan 6, 2021 18:38:38 GMT -6
Oh man, that's a lot. I'm glad you're feeling good at least, and that you have things to keep your mind off of it. Sending all the good vibes. Stay put little sandwich!
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Post by nikkipal on Jan 6, 2021 18:43:25 GMT -6
I’m so sorry, that’s so hard. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts.
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Post by milano on Jan 6, 2021 19:05:31 GMT -6
Ah pbandj714! I know this was not what you had planned. And I'm sure you miss J and your kids terribly so it's ok to wallow about that. I'm glad you and the baby are being closely monitored though! I'm sending you all my good thoughts, vibes, juju- all the things. If you need an ice cream delivery or something you just let me know and I'll make that happen 😁
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Post by mc13 on Jan 6, 2021 20:10:52 GMT -6
I'm so sorry pbandj714! I know J will handle it so so well, but it's ok to be sad and worried! I'm sure you have the best care. I am so glad they caught it early and you're in the best possible place to have a great outcome for baby and yourself. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you. So many hugs!!
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Post by violajack on Jan 6, 2021 21:33:50 GMT -6
Oh man, I second everything everyone else said. You and you family and your baby will all be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by rugger on Jan 6, 2021 21:46:09 GMT -6
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this stress! J and the kids will be just fine, but I totally understand being worried about how everyone else is doing. I'm glad bebe looks good on the monitors, and that you're getting the care you need ♥️ focus on keeping yourself rested.
Let us know how we can keep your mind distracted. You got this, Mama!
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Post by tj on Jan 6, 2021 21:54:06 GMT -6
pbandj714 do you have a nickname you use for this little one? I would like to call him or her something when I pray for them tonight, other than “my imaginary friend peanut butter and jelly’s unborn child.”
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Post by snowmoon on Jan 7, 2021 7:54:38 GMT -6
I’ll be thinking of you and your sweet babe!
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Post by pbandj714 on Jan 7, 2021 8:18:42 GMT -6
pbandj714 do you have a nickname you use for this little one? I would like to call him or her something when I pray for them tonight, other than “my imaginary friend peanut butter and jelly’s unborn child.” Haven't had a NN stick yet but he does have a name, so you can call him baby H.
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Post by tj on Jan 7, 2021 9:26:46 GMT -6
💜 Will do. Any updates today? How are the kiddos doing at home?
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Post by pbandj714 on Jan 7, 2021 9:41:48 GMT -6
💜 Will do. Any updates today? How are the kiddos doing at home? Still stable, no new bleeding. The high risk doc is optimistic that I could go home after a week of no bleeding...if the US shows that the bleed has slowed or stopped. On the first day, you could see the blood swirling around which was super eerie. Kiddos are doing well! I've talked to them on the phone and they're in very good spirits. J said the only meltdown was this morning when he realized we were out of their favorite toothpaste and tried to use ours (TOO SPICY!) So I put in a drive-up order for him 😋
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Post by tj on Jan 7, 2021 9:55:10 GMT -6
See! For the first time ever, covid can be a blessing. Look at how you can order that toothpaste for yh and all he has to do is pick it up. Couldn’t have done that a year ago!
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Post by tj on Jan 7, 2021 9:55:42 GMT -6
Oh, and obv glad to hear that things are looking stable so far. Sir right baby H!
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Post by niko8083 on Jan 7, 2021 9:56:59 GMT -6
So sorry you are having to deal with all of this! Glad the dr is optimistic about being able to go home. Keeping you and baby H and your family in my thoughts and prayers! I didn’t realize our pregnancies were so close, I’m literally a week behind you.
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Post by pbandj714 on Jan 7, 2021 10:59:39 GMT -6
I didn't realize we were that close either niko8083!
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Post by grumpycakes on Jan 7, 2021 11:30:16 GMT -6
You got this! You’re in my thoughts. I’m glad you have work to keep you busy but please feel free to start ALL the threads here for evening entertainment.
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Post by rhymeswithdisco on Jan 7, 2021 11:33:07 GMT -6
Love to you and baby H pbandj! Please let us know if we can do anything.
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Post by charlotte on Jan 7, 2021 12:10:04 GMT -6
pbandj714 glad I’m not the only one whose child is prone to meltdowns over how “spicy” toothpaste is.
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Post by mapleme on Jan 7, 2021 12:31:07 GMT -6
Tapa seems to have eaten my comment from yesterday. I am glad to hear that the doctor who has seen lots of these things thinks that you're in good shape. Fingers crossed that this is the last eventful thing until Baby H is born big and healthy.
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Post by milano on Jan 7, 2021 12:41:45 GMT -6
pbandj714 glad I’m not the only one whose child is prone to meltdowns over how “spicy” toothpaste is. I forgot to pack the kids' last weekend so they had to use my arm & hammer and M handled it with a grimace but J acted as though I poured literal acid on his toothbrush. SPICY haha
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Post by mapleme on Jan 7, 2021 12:50:17 GMT -6
pbandj714 glad I’m not the only one whose child is prone to meltdowns over how “spicy” toothpaste is. I forgot to pack the kids' last weekend so they had to use my arm & hammer and M handled it with a grimace but J acted as though I poured literal acid on his toothbrush. SPICY haha M and C went to the dentist yesterday and M was HORRIFIED at the mint floss. She was basically refusing to floss tonight until she realized that she could rinse the mint off the floss (so she said).
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