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Post by nam2013 on Jan 6, 2021 7:02:29 GMT -6
Baby Girls is refusing to nap, how are you girls holding up today?
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Post by wedding on Jan 6, 2021 7:52:55 GMT -6
Good morning! I hope she naps for you. I forget how stressful that was. Then add two kids at home, I don't know how you do it!
A couple of days ago C told me that sometimes when he is trying to go to sleep he can't move and has a hard time breathing for a couple of minutes. He later said that sometimes it feels like someone just punched him in the back, taking his breath, but no one is there. I wasn't sure what to make of either of these things so I told him to get me when it happens so I can try and see it. I figured he heard this from someone else and was making up a story, which he does a lot. Last night we were reading a book and he kept breathing out hard, like a huff. I asked him what was up and he said he felt like he couldn't breathe so I had him try to do some deep breathing but he continued to panic. He has super slight asthma so we have an inhaler and I gave him a few puffs, more to calm him down. It was clear he was having a panic attack. In talking to him he told me that he is scared of coronavirus and that everyone is going to die and it will be the end of the world. I kept it together and calmed him down and reassured him we would be ok and he was able to get to sleep.
I am so sad he has to think about coronavirus at all. I never knew about anything going on in the world besides my friends, family and school when I was little. I'm mad that these kids have to deal with such an intense problem. He tries to be so brave and has never expressed concern about the virus. It is also becoming clearer that he is much more like me in his brain than DH. DH is one of those people that doesn't have an internal monologue and is pretty chill about life. I have suffered from anxiety since I was a teenager and have always had a hard time with all of the worries in my head. I hoped he wouldn't inherit that from me. I'm at a loss as to how to help him with this aside from continued reassurance and being cognizant of conversations and media regarding coronavirus. If anyone has ideas let me know.
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Post by jewels on Jan 6, 2021 7:58:33 GMT -6
oh wedding that breaks my heart for him.
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 6, 2021 8:04:30 GMT -6
wedding I’m so sorry, that is heartbreaking. Eta what works depends on what child, for some children knowing everything makes them feel more in control. For other kids it’s the less they know, the less it’s being talked about the less anxious they get. Children will often run to town with half truths tough, in their mind they will make things much worse than it actually is. It always helps to ask questions, what are you worried about? What would make you less worried? What can we do? What you did last night was great.
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 6, 2021 8:07:37 GMT -6
Morning. I lost my voice & I’m slightly congested, which is how my body always responds to being tired, but I got tested anyway. Better safe then sorry.
Ds had a call with his teacher that solved my problem about how to ask for more difficult work. He told her how many seconds there where in a quarter of an hour & how he calculated that... she is going to put together new worksheet & we can pick them up on Monday. Later on he had a zoom meeting with the whole class, it was cute and he loved it.
Ohhh and my parents asked us if they could take the kids with them to a cabin for the weekend! Yes, a break is very welcome for all of us!
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Post by wedding on Jan 6, 2021 8:11:47 GMT -6
wedding I’m so sorry, that is heartbreaking. Is it possible for him to talk with someone where he’ll learn how to deal with those feelings. I thought about it but I don't want to jump the gun and be alarmist about it so I was thinking I would watch him and check in more for now.
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 6, 2021 8:16:09 GMT -6
wedding I’m so sorry, that is heartbreaking. Is it possible for him to talk with someone where he’ll learn how to deal with those feelings. I thought about it but I don't want to jump the gun and be alarmist about it so I was thinking I would watch him and check in more for now. I was thinking that too... I edited my post, but you were fast!
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 6, 2021 8:38:14 GMT -6
I woke up feeling queasy and eventually got sick. I feel fine otherwise so idk what it was. I have work to do today so hopefully everyone cooperates so I can get it done. Also need to do a grocery order.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 6, 2021 8:39:18 GMT -6
wedding , that's so hard. I get similar when I lay down when I'm super anxious. Not sure this would help, but thoughts on getting a pulse ox? Sometimes when I feel like I can't breath it helps me to check that and realize that I am breathing and getting all the oxygen I need. ETA: Obviously doesn't help with the COVID anxiety but may help a bit in the moment.
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 6, 2021 8:45:23 GMT -6
Hi, SSDD here. I woke up with allergies again. Does anyone know if pregnancy can make allergies worse? I never really.had anything much to speak of but for the past month I've had several sneezing episodes and needed to take Zyrtec. Although today I'm pretty tired...hopefully it's not actually a cold... In my experience? Yes!!! My hayfever was out of control, especially in early pregnancy. ETA I still have a sneeze fit every morning.
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 6, 2021 8:45:26 GMT -6
wedding That makes me so sad to at he is bearing that worry. I’m so sorry. I’m sure you may be doing this, but just to reiterate the things you are doing to stay safe and healthy and maybe talk about the vaccine and what that means for the future. Maybe at bedtime you can ask him three things he is happy about and tell him what you are happy about to give him some positive thoughts before he has to fall asleep?
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 6, 2021 8:50:59 GMT -6
Morning!
I had a late night watching the Georgia runoff coverage. So happy that the results are in our favor.
Yesterday afternoon I realized that the 7th is Thursday and i had my work days mixed up, so I’m home today and work the next two days. I’m glad because I’m tired. I dropped the boys off and came home. No workout for me today. My body is sore from the last two days.
Today I need to clean the floors. As long as I get that done, I’m calling it a win. Other than that, I’ll be catching up on some shows.
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 6, 2021 9:08:34 GMT -6
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Post by wedding on Jan 6, 2021 9:23:45 GMT -6
Morning! I had a late night watching the Georgia runoff coverage. So happy that the results are in our favor. Yesterday afternoon I realized that the 7th is Thursday and i had my work days mixed up, so I’m home today and work the next two days. I’m glad because I’m tired. I dropped the boys off and came home. No workout for me today. My body is sore from the last two days. Today I need to clean the floors. As long as I get that done, I’m calling it a win. Other than that, I’ll be catching up on some shows. I think one is still too close to call but leaning our way. I have everything crossed! At least we got one though so if it is 50/50 Kamala is the tie breaking vote. I'm wearing my Kamala t-shirt today in support for the electoral vote confirmation that is sure to be another Trump shitshow.
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Post by wedding on Jan 6, 2021 9:25:23 GMT -6
wedding , that's so hard. I get similar when I lay down when I'm super anxious. Not sure this would help, but thoughts on getting a pulse ox? Sometimes when I feel like I can't breath it helps me to check that and realize that I am breathing and getting all the oxygen I need. ETA: Obviously doesn't help with the COVID anxiety but may help a bit in the moment. I was actually thinking about getting one last night because he looked pale and I wished I had one for my own piece of mind. But he might be calmed by it too.
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 6, 2021 9:57:53 GMT -6
I just finished the last episode of Ozark. My gosh😳
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Post by tallb on Jan 6, 2021 9:58:58 GMT -6
wedding poor C, that sounds stressful and scary for him and nerve wracking. Do you think it's anxiety or could it possibly be covid? We have a oximeter here but haven't used it on the kids yet, but they are used to them at the doctor's.
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Post by vino on Jan 6, 2021 10:06:17 GMT -6
I'm sorry about C wedding, I think you did a great job of keeping it cool and calming him down. It's great that he can come to you and get his feelings out, these are such big feelings for the littles.
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 6, 2021 10:12:51 GMT -6
I just finished the last episode of Ozark. My gosh😳 Right? They HAVE to do another season.
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Post by vino on Jan 6, 2021 10:12:53 GMT -6
The anxious child talk is timely. I'm noticing a lot with B lately and it is becoming harder and harder to manage, he has so many little idiosyncrasies that are exhausting. I do my best but it seems it's the 'give an inch and take a mile' so if I 'satisfy' one thing there is always something else, it never ends. I know that he has always been needy but we have had outlets that have really helped in get to the middle ground; soccer, skating, swimming, school, daycare, playdates etc but with all of that off the table now he has time to just be in a routine and get in his head.
I casually mentioned this to my neighbour, who is a psychologist, a few weeks back and said that I was looking into getting B a weighted blanket and she made the comment of 'well thats just a crutch'...so now that is in my head and I go back and forth from getting him one and thinking its the worst idea ever.
blah...Parenting is hard.
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Post by vino on Jan 6, 2021 10:14:06 GMT -6
Also, Hi! I dont think I checked in yesterday, it was working from home and B in online school with MH still off. MH is bored of being at home and is getting in the way! ha!
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 6, 2021 10:21:50 GMT -6
wedding , that's so hard. I get similar when I lay down when I'm super anxious. Not sure this would help, but thoughts on getting a pulse ox? Sometimes when I feel like I can't breath it helps me to check that and realize that I am breathing and getting all the oxygen I need. ETA: Obviously doesn't help with the COVID anxiety but may help a bit in the moment. I was actually thinking about getting one last night because he looked pale and I wished I had one for my own piece of mind. But he might be calmed by it too. I bought one in the beginning of COVID knowing it would ease my mind a bit and it has. You can find them on Amazon for under $20. I feel so bad he's feeling all of these things, so hard for him and for you.
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 6, 2021 10:25:58 GMT -6
vino I would just get him one. I got one for H with his nighttime sleeping issues and it has helped a lot. Once B is able to get back in his routine, he may not need it. But it could help in the meantime.
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Post by vino on Jan 6, 2021 10:34:46 GMT -6
vino I would just get him one. I got one for H with his nighttime sleeping issues and it has helped a lot. Once B is able to get back in his routine, he may not need it. But it could help in the meantime. Thank you for saying this, for some reason I am so in my head about it but I truly think it would help. We're having nighttime issues as well, he is waking up around 2-3am and is up for a good 1/2 hour. He looks exhausted and its not good. So with him being 68lbs I'd be looking at the 7lb blanket, does that seem right?
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 6, 2021 10:35:50 GMT -6
vino I would just get him one. I got one for H with his nighttime sleeping issues and it has helped a lot. Once B is able to get back in his routine, he may not need it. But it could help in the meantime. Thank you for saying this, for some reason I am so in my head about it but I truly think it would help. We're having nighttime issues as well, he is waking up around 2-3am and is up for a good 1/2 hour. He looks exhausted and its not good. So with him being 68lbs I'd be looking at the 7lb blanket, does that seem right? let me see what I got H. Hold please.
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 6, 2021 10:37:21 GMT -6
vino even if its a crutch, that doesn’t mean it’s bad or won’t help! For a lot of children and adults with sensory issues it helps a lot. And sleep is so important!
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Post by vino on Jan 6, 2021 10:37:23 GMT -6
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Post by klong11 on Jan 6, 2021 10:46:13 GMT -6
wedding, you might try a calm down jar, just to have him focus on something. A worry box could be a good idea. He can either whisper his worries, or write them down when he is having them, or at the end of the day, so that he doesn't need to think about them. If he writes them down, then it gives you a way into his head to be able to talk about the various issues. Our school counselors are really good about giving lessons to the kids on different types of problems, emotions, how to work through situations, etc. You might see if your counselors have a page with links to different sources. I know ours have a clickable room with different calm down techniques and activities for the kids. Or even books on anxiety or specifically the corona virus. This site has free downloadable books: nhfv.org/2020/06/family-and-childrens-books-related-to-covid-19/I think the main thing is to give him someone to talk to, which you've done. You've shown them that if he is worried he can come talk to you and you'll help him work through the feelings.
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 6, 2021 10:48:43 GMT -6
Thank you for saying this, for some reason I am so in my head about it but I truly think it would help. We're having nighttime issues as well, he is waking up around 2-3am and is up for a good 1/2 hour. He looks exhausted and its not good. So with him being 68lbs I'd be looking at the 7lb blanket, does that seem right? let me see what I got H. Hold please. I bought H a 7lbs so I would get something heavier. H is 36lbs.
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Post by jewels on Jan 6, 2021 10:49:43 GMT -6
vino even if its a crutch, that doesn’t mean it’s bad or won’t help! For a lot of children and adults with sensory issues it helps a lot. And sleep is so important! vino I agree with this. How is it a different crutch than sleeping with a stuffed animal or white noise machine or whatever people use? Honestly, I think it was silly of her to say that. If it helps him, then what's the harm??
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