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Post by catlady22 on Dec 2, 2020 12:10:45 GMT -6
This is a combined TTC thread for EVERYONE currently TTC. Whether you're a first timer, a many timer, or an old timer come on in and pass the time as we struggle through WTO and the dreaded TWW.
As this is a combined thread there will be talk of LC, losses, and IF struggles. If any of these are hard for you please just let us know in your first post and I'm sure the lovely ladies on here will be happy to add TWs to accommodate.
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GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year?
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Post by shellsncheese on Dec 2, 2020 14:05:32 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: 19. We're taking an IUI break this month and just trying naturally.
Timing:
CD/DPO: cd 5
Symptoms: none
RRCS: Yesterday was my son's 5th birthday, but instead of being happy about it I cried a lot. I'm sad that I haven't been able to give him a sibling, and if we do there will be a big age gap began them.
GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year? There's a park nearby that has a big light display that we always go walk around. I'm happy we can still do that this year (masked of course).
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Post by catlady22 on Dec 2, 2020 14:36:28 GMT -6
shellsncheese hugs lady. If it makes you feel any better I'm more than 7yrs difference from my sister and while we weren't as close as kids, we are super close now.
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Post by allthekristys on Dec 2, 2020 17:48:36 GMT -6
Hi! I want to play here.
Month/cycle: 9th cycle for me, we tried for who knows how many cycles with my wife (all together it’s been like 3 years of trying)
CD/DPO: 9DPO
Symptoms: I stopped looking into symptoms bc it was too much for me emotionally
Favorite tradition this time of year? There’s a group of houses that makes a walk through light display. It’s in a grove (the houses are basically mini houses and very close together). So for the past 30 or so years, I go and walk through every year. Love it.
More about me: we’ve been doing home inseminations with medicated cycles. Started with clomid and moved on to gonal f 3 cycles ago. I had an early miscarriage in august. We have this cycle and next cycle and if we aren’t pregnant in January we are moving on to IVf. The downfall of IVF, besides cost, is that we have to use a different donor, which I’m pretty bummed about. But, we prefer a 2nd kid with a different donor rather than no second kid.
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Post by whatsit on Dec 4, 2020 19:36:55 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: not quite there. Still on the bench. Blah.
Ignoring other questions
RRCS: hcg was still hanging in there - 35 last week. So almost there. Dr said to wait 2 weeks then get it checked and it should be negative. I’m glad to have a break from going to the hospital. I started temping again just to get an idea if/when I O after all this.
GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year? We grab some hot chocolate from Tim Hortons and go drive around and look at lights. Also. Food.
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Post by Rama on Dec 6, 2020 1:22:32 GMT -6
All my hugs, shellsncheese. I'll pile on that my age gap between me and my siblings are 5 years (me to middle kid) and 6.5 years (me to youngest) and having younger siblings was just as exciting/fulfilling for me as it was annoying. There were a few age-related things we never met up on, but our relationship as adults is awesome. Age matters less and less the older we get. ❤
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Post by onyx on Dec 6, 2020 12:53:53 GMT -6
shellsncheeseI fully understand. My oldest is 8, DS2 is 5. However I have a sister who is 8 years younger than me and a sister who is 19 years younger than me. Both were exciting. It’s not a traditional sister relationship but we all love each other the same.
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Post by shellsncheese on Dec 6, 2020 14:38:00 GMT -6
Thanks everyone, your stories help. My mom had 4 kids in 5 years, so that's my perspective. I try to remind myself that my husband does not get along with his brother who is only a year older than him, but is closer to the brother that is 15 years older. And my cousin and his sister were 7 years apart and were really close. But it's still kinda hard knowing that my family will be different than I imagined.
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 6, 2020 15:24:52 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: 9? I think. My appt with my RE is in January, but Covid spikes could change that.
Timing: meh. We’ve been “taking a break” so I haven’t been testing. I assume we hit a day or 2 but I didn’t track anything.
CD/DPO: 6dpo? Or 5? Not sure, but I expect my period on Sat or Sun.
Symptoms: bitter AF. I’ve been having period like cramps that keep me guessing, but I have zero expectations.
RRCS:
GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year? All of them! Baking Christmas cookies, lighting the tree, wrapping gifts, the whole shebang. Unfortunately our families can’t travel to us this year because of Covid, so it’s a little sad, but I’m making the most of it for the 3 of us.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Dec 6, 2020 21:05:20 GMT -6
@shellsandcheese
I’m the middle child with a brother 3 years older and a sister 3 years younger. None of us like each other. My H has 2 years between him and his sister and they’re BFFs. DS’ dad has 3 siblings that are all between 10-15 years older and a sister 2 years younger than him and he’s close with all of his siblings.
It’s crazy but age doesn’t really determine how close siblings are in the end. Which I’m glad for because DS will be 9 years older than this baby.
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Post by catlady22 on Dec 7, 2020 8:18:27 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: 2 post surgery for ectopic
Timing: -3,-2,-1 probably O too
CD/DPO: CD13 - O is today I believe
Symptoms: n/a
RRCS: scared shitless of another ectopic
GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year? Everything! Driving around looking at lights with hot chocolate is probably at the top though.
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Post by ambiguousmango on Dec 8, 2020 11:08:09 GMT -6
Month: 11
Timing: NA
CD/DPO:16
Symptoms: none, just waiting nto hopefully O. I am thinking maybe late this week or early next week if I'm lucky.
RRCS: I am waffling on if I want to go back to my Obgyn and get started on Femara. I just am really tired of the disappointment every month.
GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year? My favorite tradition is actually for New Years. We always do fondue and it is so nice just sitting around and talking about your hopes for the new year
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Post by ambiguousmango on Dec 8, 2020 11:11:53 GMT -6
shellsncheese I can commiserate. I keep thinking if I get pregnant right now there will be xyz age difference. I have a 5 year difference from my brother and my H has an 8 year difference from his sister. While our dynamics may be different I still think we are all pretty close to one another.
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Post by Carmichael on Dec 10, 2020 7:36:04 GMT -6
I am going to jump in here.
Month/Cycle: 1 (starting over again after a miscarriage)
CD/DPO: CD8
RRCS/more about me: I had some blood work done a couple weeks ago and my iron levels came back high. I had another blood test done (for DNA and the turn around time on it is 28 days) but I was looking yesterday and while there was no research done to definitively say, high iron levels may be linked to miscarriage (I’ve had 3 this year). So I am now impatiently waiting for the results so we can move forward. I did an IVF cycle last November (my iron levels were good then), had a d&c late January. We got pregnant naturally during my May/June cycle which I miscarried in July, and then we did a FET in September and I had to have a D&C at the end of October for retained product after an incomplete miscarriage. I have been frustrated not knowing why I miscarry and am afraid the iron levels are giving me false hope of finding a reason.
GTKY: What's your favorite tradition this time of year? When I was younger, we always opened one small present on Christmas Eve, which was usually pjs. Since getting married. I get so stressed out this time of year because of my inlaws. This year since we can’t see anyone, I hope to have a relaxing holiday and get back to the tradition of the one present opening with DD (18 months) and just enjoy seeing Christmas with her.
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Post by catlady22 on Dec 10, 2020 7:42:19 GMT -6
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Post by ambiguousmango on Dec 10, 2020 8:18:51 GMT -6
Carmichael I am so sorry for your losses. No one wants to join this club but all the ladies here are fantastic and a great support.
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Post by onyx on Dec 10, 2020 9:01:21 GMT -6
Carmichael I’m so sorry for your losses. This is a great support group. All amazing ladies.
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Post by Rama on Dec 10, 2020 11:18:41 GMT -6
Carmichael Big, warm hugs and fingers crossed you get answers with the blood tests.
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Post by Carmichael on Dec 10, 2020 12:00:14 GMT -6
Thanks everyone! 😊
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Post by whatsit on Dec 10, 2020 12:26:38 GMT -6
Welcome Carmichael. So sorry for your losses. Hoping you get some answers soon.
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Post by whatsit on Dec 10, 2020 12:28:39 GMT -6
Guys!!! My HCG was negative this week!! Which I kinda already knew because I got lines on my chart saying I probably ovulated over the weekend.
Bring on cd1 so we can get this party started!!!
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Post by Rama on Dec 10, 2020 23:08:12 GMT -6
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Post by donnameagle on Dec 12, 2020 5:27:17 GMT -6
Thanks everyone, your stories help. My mom had 4 kids in 5 years, so that's my perspective. I try to remind myself that my husband does not get along with his brother who is only a year older than him, but is closer to the brother that is 15 years older. And my cousin and his sister were 7 years apart and were really close. But it's still kinda hard knowing that my family will be different than I imagined. Still lurking here and catching up. I have the same experience as your H. 17 years between me and my sister. And my kids are 4 years apart. This baby will be 12 years younger than my oldest and he is so excited for her arrival. It’s not the years, it’s raising them and their individual personalities. Promise!
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 14, 2020 15:56:04 GMT -6
Welcome Carmichael! So sorry to hear about your losses CD1 over here. Again. Month 10 can shove it. I should probably move over to TTTC at this point. Feels surreal to be going through this again.
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Post by catlady22 on Dec 14, 2020 16:22:43 GMT -6
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Post by ambiguousmango on Dec 14, 2020 23:21:51 GMT -6
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Post by Carmichael on Dec 15, 2020 9:57:24 GMT -6
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Post by catlady22 on Dec 21, 2020 9:27:15 GMT -6
Waiting for CD1. BFN on 14dpo. It's hitting extra hard this time since I should have given birth this week with my first 2020 loss. And SIL is sending pics of their newborn born this week.
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Post by ambiguousmango on Dec 21, 2020 10:48:27 GMT -6
catlady22 *hugs* I am so sorry. The holiday season is already such a stressful time and adding in a loss milestone along with a newborn in the family it has to be overwhelming. I am sure you already know this, but in case you need someone else to vocalize it, it's okay to have conflicting emotions around the birth of your niece or nephew. It's okay to be mad, jealous, and sad that it's not you with a baby. Those feelings do not negate the love and happiness you have for your new niece or nephew. If you need anything please let us know. ♥️
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Post by Carmichael on Dec 21, 2020 12:18:35 GMT -6
catlady22 I am so sorry. Sending extra hugs hugs. ❤️
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