It’s October 🎃👻🍁

[jt2378]

Hi Friends, new month new thread. Same old shit though eh?!

How are you all? We are in a good rhythm with remote learning for D1. Dare I say M has been a pleasant surprise and not a giant PITA when D1 is doing school? I probably just jinxed it by speaking out loud!

Work has turned crazy so it feels like the days just fly by but also omg I’m exhausted and need a break.

yellowcat, you never updated but I’m assuming the kids Covid tests were negative? 🤞

The rest of you bitches get in here and say hi! I miss everyone.

[pennylane]

L is dropping naps, which is terrible timing with doing virtual school with DS. Some days it takes nearly all day to get him to do everything. On the days L goes to preschool, he has to sit on google meet in the car. It’s all a bit crazy.

She loves preschool, although definitely up to some of her usual shenanigans there. Apparently every time they have playdoh out she can’t resist smashing it into her hair.

I’ve just been in a cycle of tired/stressed/anxious. I look forward to the day we can do vacation again.

[yellowcat]

Oct 2, 2020 19:02:47 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

Hi Friends, new month new thread. Same old shit though eh?!

How are you all? We are in a good rhythm with remote learning for D1. Dare I say M has been a pleasant surprise and not a giant PITA when D1 is doing school? I probably just jinxed it by speaking out loud!

Work has turned crazy so it feels like the days just fly by but also omg I’m exhausted and need a break.

yellowcat, you never updated but I’m assuming the kids Covid tests were negative? 🤞

The rest of you bitches get in here and say hi! I miss everyone.

Yes we are all clear but they keep passing a staph infection around. I am so done with 2020!

[yellowcat]

Oct 4, 2020 5:10:05 GMT -6 pennylane said:

L is dropping naps, which is terrible timing with doing virtual school with DS. Some days it takes nearly all day to get him to do everything. On the days L goes to preschool, he has to sit on google meet in the car. It’s all a bit crazy.

She loves preschool, although definitely up to some of her usual shenanigans there. Apparently every time they have playdoh out she can’t resist smashing it into her hair.

I’ve just been in a cycle of tired/stressed/anxious. I look forward to the day we can do vacation again.

J only naps at daycare which i am ok with because then he is asleep by 8:30 on the weekend.

I hear you on the stress, I need lots of vacation.

[jt2378]

Oct 5, 2020 13:35:20 GMT -6 yellowcat said:

Oct 2, 2020 19:02:47 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

Hi Friends, new month new thread. Same old shit though eh?!

How are you all? We are in a good rhythm with remote learning for D1. Dare I say M has been a pleasant surprise and not a giant PITA when D1 is doing school? I probably just jinxed it by speaking out loud!

Work has turned crazy so it feels like the days just fly by but also omg I’m exhausted and need a break.

yellowcat, you never updated but I’m assuming the kids Covid tests were negative? 🤞

The rest of you bitches get in here and say hi! I miss everyone.

Yes we are all clear but they keep passing a staph infection around. I am so done with 2020!

Ugh sorry! Yay no Covid

[king26]

Love you guys and miss you! I can't keep up anywhere. I'm a mess. Last week Pre-K and K came back to school and I think it went well but it was sad seeing the kids outside, touching their cones, taking a mask break. They are in school 4 days a week. Tomorrow first comes back. I teach 3-5 and they will be hybrid and aren't coming until November. I hate their schedule. 2 days a week in school, 1 day online for everyone, and 2 days of reading intervention and resource. BLAH. Plus me. I'm online and in person every damn day.

J started back to school last week. No tears! He seems to be enjoying it though DH witnessed the aide grabbing him by his arm and pulling him down to sit and was not happy about that. He's going to talk to the teacher about it tomorrow.

J is super snotty and stuffy due to school. I'm not feeling great. I had my first ever migraine yesterday and thought I was dying when I had rainbow lines across my vision. I really thought I was having a stroke. I called DH crying (he was an hour away) and I was scared I was going to die and J would be alone with me. After I got my vision back the headache was terrible and J and I both napped because we weren't feeling well. Both of us feel better today.

Otherwise, I'm just over everything. I'm tired of masks, I'm tired of virtual learning, I'm tired on not seeing family etc.

[king26]

Oct 4, 2020 5:10:05 GMT -6 pennylane said:

L is dropping naps, which is terrible timing with doing virtual school with DS. Some days it takes nearly all day to get him to do everything. On the days L goes to preschool, he has to sit on google meet in the car. It’s all a bit crazy.

She loves preschool, although definitely up to some of her usual shenanigans there. Apparently every time they have playdoh out she can’t resist smashing it into her hair.

I’ve just been in a cycle of tired/stressed/anxious. I look forward to the day we can do vacation again.

J has been dropping his nap since March but we put him in the crib everyday.  If he doesn't nap he plays in there for 45 quiet minutes and does fine.  Best thing we've done.  He is still napping anywhere between 2-4 days a week but it's never everyday and hasn't been since March.  I'm sorry she's trying to end them.  It makes the day so freaking long.

[king26]

Also, we are still struggling with potty training. J has no interest right now and everytime we push it he FREAKS OUT. I'm so over it. We also still have him in the crib. I figure we will keep him in there until he totally drops naps otherwise he will never nap.

[jt2378]

king26, gosh I’m so sorry friend! How scary yesterday, I’m glad you are ok. I hope things ease up on you soon ❤️

M wants nothing to do with the potty either so I hear you. It’s so frustrating. Yay 3 year olds

[Deleted]

Hi
Remote learning is rough. But November they are going in person. She will go 2days for 2 hours. EI transition planning meeting next week and the developmental pediatrician intake in 2 weeks. Maybe getting the 504 plan in the works? I don’t even know

4 th week at gymnastics and finally in the swing of things and crushing it like before. She’s got a great outlet and now the teachers are cracking up with me. She’s such a wild child.

yellowcat hope everyone is all better now

DD stopped napping in March

I’m so lucky in the potty training game. DD started at 2y 2m and by 2y5m was overnight trained
DS is 16m telling me when he poops and taking his pants off. He might be one of those miracle kids pt at 18m. Going to bring up the little potty out of the basement soon.

[Deleted]

Oct 11, 2020 18:38:34 GMT -6 king26 said:

Love you guys and miss you! I can't keep up anywhere. I'm a mess. Last week Pre-K and K came back to school and I think it went well but it was sad seeing the kids outside, touching their cones, taking a mask break. They are in school 4 days a week. Tomorrow first comes back. I teach 3-5 and they will be hybrid and aren't coming until November. I hate their schedule. 2 days a week in school, 1 day online for everyone, and 2 days of reading intervention and resource. BLAH. Plus me. I'm online and in person every damn day.

J started back to school last week. No tears! He seems to be enjoying it though DH witnessed the aide grabbing him by his arm and pulling him down to sit and was not happy about that. He's going to talk to the teacher about it tomorrow.

J is super snotty and stuffy due to school. I'm not feeling great. I had my first ever migraine yesterday and thought I was dying when I had rainbow lines across my vision. I really thought I was having a stroke. I called DH crying (he was an hour away) and I was scared I was going to die and J would be alone with me. After I got my vision back the headache was terrible and J and I both napped because we weren't feeling well. Both of us feel better today.

Otherwise, I'm just over everything. I'm tired of masks, I'm tired of virtual learning, I'm tired on not seeing family etc.

the aide ... my biggest fear right now with DD hyperactivity. Punishment/force. Hope there was receptiveness to your concern.

[king26]

Oct 17, 2020 22:12:03 GMT -6 @starzia said:

Hi
Remote learning is rough. But November they are going in person. She will go 2days for 2 hours. EI transition planning meeting next week and the developmental pediatrician intake in 2 weeks. Maybe getting the 504 plan in the works? I don’t even know

4 th week at gymnastics and finally in the swing of things and crushing it like before. She’s got a great outlet and now the teachers are cracking up with me. She’s such a wild child.

yellowcat hope everyone is all better now

DD stopped napping in March

I’m so lucky in the potty training game. DD started at 2y 2m and by 2y5m was overnight trained
DS is 16m telling me when he poops and taking his pants off. He might be one of those miracle kids pt at 18m. Going to bring up the little potty out of the basement soon.

How did the transition meeting go? Im the 504 chair at my school if you have any questions!

[king26]

Miss you ladies. Our poor board is so dead.

J is loving school and wevebeen happy with the procedures so far. The aide that grabbed j was a sub so hopefully we wont see her again.

My students start back monday. Im a little worried. 5 schools in iur county already have entire classrooms on quarentine and only prek to 2nd are back.

Had a speech program review for J. Hes net 3 objectives since july so she wanted to mark themmet and write 3 new ones. Hes still behindbut is talking more everyday. He also loves to read which is helping improve his speech.

[addymac]

Hi friends! Miss you all. Life has been... 2020 haha.

N is good. He’s such a character and has such a funny personality. He’s also so stubborn and independent- except at night bc he NEEEEEEDS snuggles, mama.

He’s improved a lot in school since it started about 7 weeks ago. His teacher has messaged us at about 3-4wks in to discuss him because he basically had no concept of personal boundaries with other kids and wanted to say hi and hug and grab hands without asking / with covid, it’s a no no, but also then is a bit too much into rough play and can’t wind down easily. He does the rough play in a group of boys whom she said were all the same. But he also doesn’t want to hurt his classmates so he’d get upset easily. Whatever- she said it was a common developmental issue in 3yos. We had our conference at 6wks and she said he’s improved a lot since then and they love him. He still struggles with needing his space and doesn’t like to be crowded, and he struggles with articulation, and with transitions (his biggest issue). He learned how to say shut up from a classmate 😒 and his tantrums if he can’t watch tv are epic and exhausting. And he wipes off all my kisses 😭

And when you are sad or have pain he gives you the biggest hugs and kisses and will kiss your owie and tell you that you’ll be okay and you can do it! And he had the sweetest laugh and says the funniest shit sometimes. I need to write them down bc we laugh in the moment but then forget. He loves snuggling us at night and as long as I have enough space in the bed I don’t hate having him there. He loves to read and has books memorized to the point where if I try to skip a page or a sentence he’ll be like “no mama”. 😏😂 He’s obsessed with dirt and mud and rocks and cars and trucks and trains. He gave himself a dirt / mud bath the other day. Thank goodness it was already bath day 😂 and what else?

It’s so fun to watch them learn and understand new stuff. We went to our science museum yesterday (25% capacity and timed entries and of course masks) and he finally got interested in something other than the trains- the boats and submarine exhibit. I told him the same boat sinking story about 57 times but he was so happy I was so glad he was enjoying himself. And wanting to die inside lol.


As for me- first half of October was rocky. My anxiety and depression took a hit with my dead bff’s birthday on the 13th and it’s like as soon as oct 1 hit I was in a funk and it took me awhile to figure out why. So annoyed that a date could have such an impact. I finally got my psychiatrist appt and they’re so annoying I have to see them again in nov before they will add a second med for my anxiety. Also recommended therapy. Which I was already doing. I thought the point of a psychiatrist was to have the therapy and meds in one person. Oh well. I “made myself” snap out of it aka the date passed and I grieved and October 15th passed (wave of light day) and I felt better. Things with DH were really rough those few weeks but I think we are getting back on track. My migraines have started happening again , though, and my emergency meds aren’t helping this time around, so I’m hoping they go away again. DNW.

I’ll stop bc I’ve written a novel

[yellowcat]

How is everyone? We went to the county drive thru Halloween last night. J already ate all the candy...

[jt2378]

Oct 24, 2020 13:14:40 GMT -6 addymac said:

Hi friends! Miss you all. Life has been... 2020 haha.

N is good. He’s such a character and has such a funny personality. He’s also so stubborn and independent- except at night bc he NEEEEEEDS snuggles, mama.

He’s improved a lot in school since it started about 7 weeks ago. His teacher has messaged us at about 3-4wks in to discuss him because he basically had no concept of personal boundaries with other kids and wanted to say hi and hug and grab hands without asking / with covid, it’s a no no, but also then is a bit too much into rough play and can’t wind down easily. He does the rough play in a group of boys whom she said were all the same. But he also doesn’t want to hurt his classmates so he’d get upset easily. Whatever- she said it was a common developmental issue in 3yos. We had our conference at 6wks and she said he’s improved a lot since then and they love him. He still struggles with needing his space and doesn’t like to be crowded, and he struggles with articulation, and with transitions (his biggest issue). He learned how to say shut up from a classmate 😒 and his tantrums if he can’t watch tv are epic and exhausting. And he wipes off all my kisses 😭

And when you are sad or have pain he gives you the biggest hugs and kisses and will kiss your owie and tell you that you’ll be okay and you can do it! And he had the sweetest laugh and says the funniest shit sometimes. I need to write them down bc we laugh in the moment but then forget. He loves snuggling us at night and as long as I have enough space in the bed I don’t hate having him there. He loves to read and has books memorized to the point where if I try to skip a page or a sentence he’ll be like “no mama”. 😏😂 He’s obsessed with dirt and mud and rocks and cars and trucks and trains. He gave himself a dirt / mud bath the other day. Thank goodness it was already bath day 😂 and what else?

It’s so fun to watch them learn and understand new stuff. We went to our science museum yesterday (25% capacity and timed entries and of course masks) and he finally got interested in something other than the trains- the boats and submarine exhibit. I told him the same boat sinking story about 57 times but he was so happy I was so glad he was enjoying himself. And wanting to die inside lol.


As for me- first half of October was rocky. My anxiety and depression took a hit with my dead bff’s birthday on the 13th and it’s like as soon as oct 1 hit I was in a funk and it took me awhile to figure out why. So annoyed that a date could have such an impact. I finally got my psychiatrist appt and they’re so annoying I have to see them again in nov before they will add a second med for my anxiety. Also recommended therapy. Which I was already doing. I thought the point of a psychiatrist was to have the therapy and meds in one person. Oh well. I “made myself” snap out of it aka the date passed and I grieved and October 15th passed (wave of light day) and I felt better. Things with DH were really rough those few weeks but I think we are getting back on track. My migraines have started happening again , though, and my emergency meds aren’t helping this time around, so I’m hoping they go away again. DNW.

I’ll stop bc I’ve written a novel

I’m sorry about your BFF’s anniversary and the sadness it caused. You are a good friend ❤️ Anxiety is such a bitch. I hope the new dr is helpful and adding the new med gives you some relief.

N sounds like the rest of these 3 year olds 😂 I’m so effing exhausted by M

[Deleted]

Oct 24, 2020 6:22:44 GMT -6 king26 said:

Oct 17, 2020 22:12:03 GMT -6 @starzia said:

Hi
Remote learning is rough. But November they are going in person. She will go 2days for 2 hours. EI transition planning meeting next week and the developmental pediatrician intake in 2 weeks. Maybe getting the 504 plan in the works? I don’t even know

4 th week at gymnastics and finally in the swing of things and crushing it like before. She’s got a great outlet and now the teachers are cracking up with me. She’s such a wild child.

yellowcat hope everyone is all better now

DD stopped napping in March

I’m so lucky in the potty training game. DD started at 2y 2m and by 2y5m was overnight trained
DS is 16m telling me when he poops and taking his pants off. He might be one of those miracle kids pt at 18m. Going to bring up the little potty out of the basement soon.

How did the transition meeting go? Im the 504 chair at my school if you have any questions!

They are very dismissive of her needing any extra type of support saying the structure of preschool is conducive to kids who need sensory breaks. They said that she seemed like a normal three-year-old. Because you can totally tell that with 4 30 minutes zoom sessions.

I do not want to fight that she is not normal for is going to be a behavioral problem I don’t want to set her up to be looked at as a bad kid. But she is pumped to go to school so she’s gonna go in there and have a great honeymoon period And then she’ll be a wild child and they can see what I was talking about then!

After she goes to the process of being evaluated by a developmental pediatrician will have a follow up meeting we will have something concrete to go off of and get her some accommodations if she needs them.

[Deleted]

addymac

Hugs for the rough weeks

I love your description of N. It’s so adorable and then SO REAL.

[muscari]

Hey ladies! I feel as if I should make a seperate post to summarize the past year orso that I've been MIA here .. I can't believe how long it's been since I regularly wrote and read here. I do seriously miss you all and long back for the days when somehow keepingin touch seemed to be so much easier? Not sure what happened. But that post may be for another time, now I just want to say HI! And I finally posted some pics of D's 3rd bday in the private forum.

[bsouls]

I am meh.

I guess I’ve been sleeping better since I got R an Ok to wake clock last week. She waits until 6:15am to get out of bed unless she has to pee.

I’m struggling with T being in school two days a week, because she is at the Y two days, but I feel a lot of pressure to make sure she does her work. She has so much attitude and I’m not sure if it’s her growing or all that’s going on.

I’ve been doing speech therapy weekly because I have a cyst or something on my vocal chords. I go Wednesday for a follow up to the ENT to see if we are going to remove it or if it’s gotten better. It’s probably from screaming at the kids. They don’t listen unless I scream.

I find myself saying things that I hated when my parents said it to us. “Figure it out yourselfs.” “If you’re going to fight, then you can go to your rooms and not play together.”

[addymac]

I’m sorry bsouls. It’s a lot. I hope your cyst thing gets worked out in the best way possible. Kids are resilient but they are also emotional. DS was so difficult the first month after starting school. I can only imagine if adults are at their limits, kids are, too.

I know. I say things that “parents” say- mainly “Because I said do!” Mainly. And I cringe and say it anyway.