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Post by flamingo on Sept 11, 2020 14:07:42 GMT -6
Hi and TGIF! DH has the day off so we got breakfast after getting the kids off to school, then I had a hair appt. I ran into my dermatologist PA (that did my botox yesterday, lol) at Nothing Bundt Cakes...we're in a city with a million+ people but it feels like a small town sometime. While I was gone DH replaced the light fixture over the kids vanity. I guess I didn't measure the 'height' of the fixture b/c the new one overlaps the mirror by a smidge, and I'm thinking it's going to drive me nuts. I asked him how challenging it would be to move it up a few inches and he said outside of his 'scope', so to speak. So now trying to decide if it's worth having an electrician come out...I see a $200 light fixture turning into a much bigger bill I did this with my light fixtures in the bathrooms, but just turned them up instead. It will suck to clean in them every so often, but now that we will most likely be selling this house, won’t be my problem for long. Is that an option? We *could* switch them upwards, but I don't think I would like the fixture as much that way. It's livable for now...it's truly maybe 1/8"...but I want to get one of those MirrorMate frames to go around the mirror at some point so I think when we do that I'll have to call the electrician.
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Post by lahdeedah on Sept 11, 2020 14:08:00 GMT -6
mwhip ugh, that's annoying. Like, please stop removing my roadblocks! Can you just kind of refrain from commenting on your H's trip (or lack thereof) and be like, "Oh that's so nice of Susan to offer, but I think it'd be best if E and I sit this one out. I sent a gift to Janie already and I'm sure its going to be a lovely party!" You are so polite...in my mind I'm thinking 'fuck no, I'm not going.' I'm just not answering her now, she knows I'm working. And trying to think of an excuse. I will have to admit that H's trip was cancelled, otherwise it will come out one way or another. I think I'll just tell her I already sent a gift, so I'm not really sure if I'm going or not. and be like, leave me alone woman! I literal LOL at “fuck no, I’m not going”. 😂
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Post by lahdeedah on Sept 11, 2020 14:09:18 GMT -6
mwhip ugh, that's annoying. Like, please stop removing my roadblocks! Can you just kind of refrain from commenting on your H's trip (or lack thereof) and be like, "Oh that's so nice of Susan to offer, but I think it'd be best if E and I sit this one out. I sent a gift to Janie already and I'm sure its going to be a lovely party!" You are so polite...in my mind I'm thinking 'fuck no, I'm not going.' I'm just not answering her now, she knows I'm working. And trying to think of an excuse. I will have to admit that H's trip was cancelled, otherwise it will come out one way or another. I think I'll just tell her I already sent a gift, so I'm not really sure if I'm going or not. and be like, leave me alone woman! Any chance you have the case of the sniffles and you don’t want to go there with “symptoms”??
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Post by lahdeedah on Sept 11, 2020 14:11:50 GMT -6
tgrimes Well that’s amazing! So neat.
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Post by yummeecookee on Sept 11, 2020 14:12:35 GMT -6
I’ve always kind of head tilted when mh’s cousins (that neither HE or I am close with) send me an invite to a shower. It felt gift grabby. He sees his cousins prolly less than once per year.
Not saying that is your situation [mention]mwhip [/mention]but I didn’t get the feeling from your post that there was a closeness. I kind of like Nam’s idea in saying that the trip was cancelled but you and E already had plans that she’s excited about.
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Post by slenle on Sept 11, 2020 14:15:14 GMT -6
I’ve always kind of head tilted when mh’s cousins (that neither HE or I am close with) send me an invite to a shower. It felt gift grabby. He sees his cousins prolly less than once per year. Not saying that is your situation [mention]mwhip [/mention]but I didn’t get the feeling from your post that there was a closeness. I kind of like Nam’s idea in saying that the trip was cancelled but you and E already had plans that she’s excited about. I get annoyed too. Like, dh’s cousin’s fiancé who I’ve maybe met once bet never talked to. Sorry, I’m not driving 2 hours to go to your wedding shower. I’m terrible and don’t even send a gift. They’ll get cash for the wedding, but that’s as far as I go.
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Post by mwhip on Sept 11, 2020 14:23:29 GMT -6
mwhip I'd be a hard no as well for the baby shower. You sent a gift and its a pandemic, being around crowds of people isnt a good idea. Especially since this family is the type that hasn't paid any attention to any of the SAH orders, don't believe in wearing masks, etc. I'm sure it will be a lot of hugging as well, which is just not me in a normal scenario (unless I've been drinking), so it would just make for awkward interactions all around.
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Post by mwhip on Sept 11, 2020 14:26:56 GMT -6
You are so polite...in my mind I'm thinking 'fuck no, I'm not going.' I'm just not answering her now, she knows I'm working. And trying to think of an excuse. I will have to admit that H's trip was cancelled, otherwise it will come out one way or another. I think I'll just tell her I already sent a gift, so I'm not really sure if I'm going or not. and be like, leave me alone woman! Any chance you have the case of the sniffles and you don’t want to go there with “symptoms”?? I'm still debating. I haven't responded to MIL yet. And I honestly don't even know why she cares, when we just talked about it last weekend. We aren't close to this cousin, she's significantly younger than us, I can't remember the last time we saw her in person, etc. I don't even mind sending a gift. Like, I get it, you invite everyone hoping to get all the stuff you need as a FTM. But I just don't want to be around everyone and have a fake smile because I'm in an awkward situation.
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Post by klong11 on Sept 11, 2020 14:54:29 GMT -6
Any chance you have the case of the sniffles and you don’t want to go there with “symptoms”?? I'm still debating. I haven't responded to MIL yet. And I honestly don't even know why she cares, when we just talked about it last weekend. We aren't close to this cousin, she's significantly younger than us, I can't remember the last time we saw her in person, etc. I don't even mind sending a gift. Like, I get it, you invite everyone hoping to get all the stuff you need as a FTM. But I just don't want to be around everyone and have a fake smile because I'm in an awkward situation. Just respond with, "we're just going to stay home. Thanks for thinking of us."
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Post by inthekitty on Sept 11, 2020 15:11:11 GMT -6
I’ve always kind of head tilted when mh’s cousins (that neither HE or I am close with) send me an invite to a shower. It felt gift grabby. He sees his cousins prolly less than once per year. Not saying that is your situation [mention]mwhip [/mention]but I didn’t get the feeling from your post that there was a closeness. I kind of like Nam’s idea in saying that the trip was cancelled but you and E already had plans that she’s excited about. I think that stuff is often shamelessly gift-grabby too. I hope it will die out more in future generations. My mom's generation seems big on sending notice/invites to every distant relative on the planet...I don't feel the same.
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Post by inthekitty on Sept 11, 2020 15:13:22 GMT -6
I'm sad. It's 2:15 and I've worked straight through so far today. I was finally going to take a short break to eat the gnocchi leftovers I brought for lunch. I was heating them in the microwave and stepped out to search another area for a plastic fork and someone commandeered that as their office so my leftovers are currently sitting there getting cold.
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Post by jewels on Sept 11, 2020 15:29:57 GMT -6
mwhip I'd be a hard no as well for the baby shower. You sent a gift and its a pandemic, being around crowds of people isnt a good idea. Especially since this family is the type that hasn't paid any attention to any of the SAH orders, don't believe in wearing masks, etc. I'm sure it will be a lot of hugging as well, which is just not me in a normal scenario (unless I've been drinking), so it would just make for awkward interactions all around. Esp given this, I'd just say I'm not comfortable and leave it at that. I don't like lying about these things b/c it always comes out.
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Post by kim22 on Sept 11, 2020 16:09:49 GMT -6
I read “Crawdads,” itwas fine, it held my attention and was entertaining but I didn’t get all the hype for it. Maybe just bc Reese put it on her Book Club list? I was bored to tears. My friend kept telling me just to keep going and it would get better. It didn’t.
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Post by flamingo on Sept 11, 2020 16:26:01 GMT -6
I guess I should be grateful DH's extended family is pretty much non-existent so I miss out on all this 'fun'? ha
I didn't even get invited to my SIL's wedding shower and i was IN THE WEDDING. I guess they thought since we lived a plane ride away and I had just had a baby I wouldn't be able to come anyway? Which, I probably wouldn't have, but I would have at least sent a gift and good wishes. I found out about it when pics got posted to FB. Très strange.
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Post by lahdeedah on Sept 11, 2020 17:00:58 GMT -6
I guess I should be grateful DH's extended family is pretty much non-existent so I miss out on all this 'fun'? ha I didn't even get invited to my SIL's wedding shower and i was IN THE WEDDING. I guess they thought since we lived a plane ride away and I had just had a baby I wouldn't be able to come anyway? Which, I probably wouldn't have, but I would have at least sent a gift and good wishes. I found out about it when pics got posted to FB. Très strange. Very strange indeed. I would have at least sent the invite to you.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 11, 2020 17:04:32 GMT -6
So I was using H's trip tomorrow as an excuse to not go to a baby shower Sunday. It's for one of H's cousins. Backstory, she ran away from home about 5 years ago, when she was in HS, to be with a boy on the east coast. Her family all knew where she was at, but she just couldn't wait to be with him and left. They ended up engaged, but broke it off. She stayed on the east coast and met another guy, who she is having a baby with. They got married and moved back to the area in the last few months. H's cousins are having a baby shower for her Sunday. I don't want to go, I told H that. He told me to use his trip as an excuse, even though we both knew he'd be back in plenty of time, so he could watch Evie. Of course, MIL asks last weekend if I'm going to the shower and I said I wasn't sure, it depended on when H gets home. She of course says it's fine if I bring E, to which I say 'well, that's fun.' Evie wouldn't leave my side if I took her, I also don't want to take Evie and have her try to be in the middle of things, I believe the mom to be should get all the attention. Not that E is an attention whore, but I just don't want to take my kid to a baby shower. Anyway, so H's trip is now cancelled. MIL sends me a text saying she talked to the aunt who the shower is at her house, and she of course, said it's fine if Evie comes, and asks if H is still going. I haven't answered her. So I really have no good excuse not to go. H understands that I'm not close to this cousin of his, I already sent a gift directly to her weeks ago, and I just don't want to be around a large group of people. I would just text mil and say you don’t want to be around a big group of people. It’s a pandemic so she should understand.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 11, 2020 17:19:59 GMT -6
I don’t get invited to things for any family really, mine or DH’s. I don’t mind, really. DH had a cousin get married the year after us and I was invited but didn’t go, can’t remember why but clearly it was unimportant. I’m probably the worst but I feel no obligation to go to things for people I’m not close to.
I realized earlier this afternoon that DH is going to have to take all 3 girls to H’s soccer game tomorrow morning at 9 by himself. I’m bummed I have to miss her first game but it’ll be fine. I need to get so much stuff ready tonight. For me: pumping stuff, cooler, snacks, take all the things I need out of my van because I’m leaving that for DH. For the girls: clothes, bottles, soccer gear. Hopefully I don’t forget anything important.
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 12, 2020 9:02:32 GMT -6
I’ve always kind of head tilted when mh’s cousins (that neither HE or I am close with) send me an invite to a shower. It felt gift grabby. He sees his cousins prolly less than once per year. Not saying that is your situation [mention]mwhip [/mention]but I didn’t get the feeling from your post that there was a closeness. I kind of like Nam’s idea in saying that the trip was cancelled but you and E already had plans that she’s excited about. I was just invited to a baby shower for the daughter of my moms old best friend. They had a falling out and haven't spoke in 3 years...
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Post by nam2013 on Sept 12, 2020 9:04:28 GMT -6
I’ve always kind of head tilted when mh’s cousins (that neither HE or I am close with) send me an invite to a shower. It felt gift grabby. He sees his cousins prolly less than once per year. Not saying that is your situation [mention]mwhip [/mention]but I didn’t get the feeling from your post that there was a closeness. I kind of like Nam’s idea in saying that the trip was cancelled but you and E already had plans that she’s excited about. I was just invited to a baby shower for the daughter of my moms old best friend. They had a falling out and haven't spoke in 3 years...
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 12, 2020 9:05:59 GMT -6
I guess I should be grateful DH's extended family is pretty much non-existent so I miss out on all this 'fun'? ha I didn't even get invited to my SIL's wedding shower and i was IN THE WEDDING. I guess they thought since we lived a plane ride away and I had just had a baby I wouldn't be able to come anyway? Which, I probably wouldn't have, but I would have at least sent a gift and good wishes. I found out about it when pics got posted to FB. Très strange. Very strange indeed. I would have at least sent the invite to you. Agreed. Like I always send invites to my aunt and uncle that lives in Arkansas. And I include a note "I know you can't make it, but want you to know we love you and wish you were here"
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 12, 2020 9:07:25 GMT -6
I was just invited to a baby shower for the daughter of my moms old best friend. They had a falling out and haven't spoke in 3 years... Yea I'm not even sending a gift.
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