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Post by SweetPotato on Sept 1, 2020 9:44:52 GMT -6
I guess I’m too old for bachelorette parties to be on my feed. Silver linings
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Post by piratecat on Sept 1, 2020 9:47:19 GMT -6
I’m also out of Grace. I can’t get tot he number of appointments I need to get to for this inside baby because people can’t get their shit together so they can be safe watching the outside babies. At this point MH will be using all available leave from work (teacher) to watch the kids so I can go to prenatal appointments and I will be laboring and delivering alone in a mask unless I go into labor on a Saturday. I think it’s best I just stay mad because if I let myself get sad about it I think it might break me. Oh yeah and nobody will entertain a RCS at this moment because not clinically indicated and less safe of all the options. Ugh, I'm sorry, it's such a mess.
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Post by McBenny on Sept 1, 2020 9:49:59 GMT -6
My grace ran out months ago. We baptized DD in May. The church streamed it online. We were socially distanced to one household per pew. More than 6 feet apart and masked. Yea, that’s how we do Mass in general and it’s working great! (For reals, I have numbers that I don’t think I can share with my many global stalkers/admirers on the board, but it’s all going well and we’re not getting people sick and so on.) But I doubt I’ll bring the new kid to a public Mass before they’re 12 weeks old and that’s hard. I’m also suddenly mourning my expectations for how this was going to be and bleh. /dear diary. I remember being anxious when DD's baptism was postponed with no date in sight. I remembered that back in the day it was just a body of water and the one guy and the candidate. Everyone else on the banks of whatever water. It sounds crazy but it calmed me down.
We didn't have a big family thing or whatever. I even ended up standing in for her godmother. However, DD was happy.
It will work out.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 9:50:12 GMT -6
I’m also out of Grace. I can’t get tot he number of appointments I need to get to for this inside baby because people can’t get their shit together so they can be safe watching the outside babies. At this point MH will be using all available leave from work (teacher) to watch the kids so I can go to prenatal appointments and I will be laboring and delivering alone in a mask unless I go into labor on a Saturday. I think it’s best I just stay mad because if I let myself get sad about it I think it might break me. Oh yeah and nobody will entertain a RCS at this moment because not clinically indicated and less safe of all the options. Whaaaaaat?? No. Fuck people. An RCS is a necessary and often times life saving surgery. And any place not allowing support partners or maskless laboring for cv- mom's can go get bent. If someone had told my H he couldn't be here when this baby came or made me put my mask on for 3 hours of pushing I'm pretty sure I would have punched them in the face. I'll drag my stitched up vag to where ever you are fight every person with my raging hormones. This isn't right and I'm so sorry. My practice right now because of COVID has a hospital team and a home office team which is part of this. My doctors (who I am literally obsessed with and I think are amazing and VERY experienced) that I have the relationship with are on the hospital team, so I haven't seen them and I keep getting stuck with this very nice but very green midwife and I want to throw things at her. I have a request in to speak with the doctor I am closest to but I've been trying to keep it together given everything going on. I am losing patience. I am just so frustrated. The home team is like...trying to rely on their books and "best practices" that just doesn't work in a goddamn pandemic.
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Post by cribs on Sept 1, 2020 9:50:40 GMT -6
People in NY are suing so they can have their giant wedding. Lovely
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 1, 2020 9:50:56 GMT -6
I’m also out of Grace. I can’t get tot he number of appointments I need to get to for this inside baby because people can’t get their shit together so they can be safe watching the outside babies. At this point MH will be using all available leave from work (teacher) to watch the kids so I can go to prenatal appointments and I will be laboring and delivering alone in a mask unless I go into labor on a Saturday. I think it’s best I just stay mad because if I let myself get sad about it I think it might break me. Oh yeah and nobody will entertain a RCS at this moment because not clinically indicated and less safe of all the options. I can recommend a new OB if you need one. Saying no to a RCS is fucking nuts.
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Post by McBenny on Sept 1, 2020 9:51:52 GMT -6
We (MH and I) are fearful of giving it to family if we were exposed etc. So, we haven't seen any family in months and have no plans to. We do zoom and video call. I do send the grands packages and pictures and keep everyone informed as to what we are doing so everyone feels connected.
The kids like to make the boxes for the grands and sending them.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 9:52:12 GMT -6
I guess I’m too old for bachelorette parties to be on my feed. Silver linings I'm witnessing round two of bachelorette parties and probably that is why I hate them so much. Like- I'm glad you found your person after your divorce, I know it was hard....but we did this ten years ago and you can sit your ass down.
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Post by McBenny on Sept 1, 2020 9:52:49 GMT -6
I guess I’m too old for bachelorette parties to be on my feed. Silver linings This made me LOL
thank you
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Post by STP on Sept 1, 2020 9:54:15 GMT -6
I guess I’m too old for bachelorette parties to be on my feed. Silver linings I'm witnessing round two of bachelorette parties and probably that is why I hate them so much. Like- I'm glad you found your person after your divorce, I know it was hard....but we did this ten years ago and you can sit your ass down. I also have younger family members and the like. We can replace "girls weekend" for bachelorette party if that makes it more universal for everyone.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 9:54:37 GMT -6
We (MH and I) are fearful of giving it to family if we were exposed etc. So, we haven't seen any family in months and have no plans to. We do zoom and video call. I do send the grands packages and pictures and keep everyone informed as to what we are doing so everyone feels connected. The kids like to make the boxes for the grands and sending them. This is us too. I sent grandparents games and they have been playing battleship and the like over Zoom. In a weird way it has been really nice because I think we are being more intentional about maintaining and fostering the connections.
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Post by willow on Sept 1, 2020 9:54:42 GMT -6
Whaaaaaat?? No. Fuck people. An RCS is a necessary and often times life saving surgery. And any place not allowing support partners or maskless laboring for cv- mom's can go get bent. If someone had told my H he couldn't be here when this baby came or made me put my mask on for 3 hours of pushing I'm pretty sure I would have punched them in the face. I'll drag my stitched up vag to where ever you are fight every person with my raging hormones. This isn't right and I'm so sorry. My practice right now because of COVID has a hospital team and a home office team which is part of this. My doctors (who I am literally obsessed with and I think are amazing and VERY experienced) that I have the relationship with are on the hospital team, so I haven't seen them and I keep getting stuck with this very nice but very green midwife and I want to throw things at her. I have a request in to speak with the doctor I am closest to but I've been trying to keep it together given everything going on. I am losing patience. I am just so frustrated. The home team is like...trying to rely on their books and "best practices" that just doesn't work in a goddamn pandemic. I'm so sorry, I hope you can talk to your doctor. I mean, I gave birth in the middle of April during some of the worst numbers my state has had and before testing was available/mandatory for birth, and there was absolutely not any question about whether we could have a c/s. I worried about it myself but the doctors weren't concerned at all. I don't know what state you are in but this all sounds ridiculous.
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Post by SweetPotato on Sept 1, 2020 9:57:58 GMT -6
I'm witnessing round two of bachelorette parties and probably that is why I hate them so much. Like- I'm glad you found your person after your divorce, I know it was hard....but we did this ten years ago and you can sit your ass down. I also have younger family members and the like. We can replace "girls weekend" for bachelorette party if that makes it more universal for everyone. Honestly I haven’t seen that either. And I’m not trying to say it isn’t happening. Just that I’m happy I’m not seeing people out partying in groups on my feeds.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 9:58:07 GMT -6
I’m also out of Grace. I can’t get tot he number of appointments I need to get to for this inside baby because people can’t get their shit together so they can be safe watching the outside babies. At this point MH will be using all available leave from work (teacher) to watch the kids so I can go to prenatal appointments and I will be laboring and delivering alone in a mask unless I go into labor on a Saturday. I think it’s best I just stay mad because if I let myself get sad about it I think it might break me. Oh yeah and nobody will entertain a RCS at this moment because not clinically indicated and less safe of all the options. I can recommend a new OB if you need one. Saying no to a RCS is fucking nuts. I buried the lede a little bit....I think it is this new midwife who---I'm not sure is going to make it in this practice. I'm not usually a let me speak to your manager person...but last time I was straight up like "I need to speak with Dr. X or Y on telehealth about my options. They know my body and history and I think there is something getting lost in translation here because I don't feel like you are hearing me."
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Post by cnf on Sept 1, 2020 9:58:56 GMT -6
Whaaaaaat?? No. Fuck people. An RCS is a necessary and often times life saving surgery. And any place not allowing support partners or maskless laboring for cv- mom's can go get bent. If someone had told my H he couldn't be here when this baby came or made me put my mask on for 3 hours of pushing I'm pretty sure I would have punched them in the face. I'll drag my stitched up vag to where ever you are fight every person with my raging hormones. This isn't right and I'm so sorry. My practice right now because of COVID has a hospital team and a home office team which is part of this. My doctors (who I am literally obsessed with and I think are amazing and VERY experienced) that I have the relationship with are on the hospital team, so I haven't seen them and I keep getting stuck with this very nice but very green midwife and I want to throw things at her. I have a request in to speak with the doctor I am closest to but I've been trying to keep it together given everything going on. I am losing patience. I am just so frustrated. The home team is like...trying to rely on their books and "best practices" that just doesn't work in a goddamn pandemic. The fact that you haven't lost your patience yet is very impressive. I'd be super raging pregnancy hormones smash all over the place in your shoes. Maybe I need more yoga to chill me out, lol.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 9:59:15 GMT -6
I guess call me Karen for the next six weeks.
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Post by McBenny on Sept 1, 2020 10:00:56 GMT -6
OMG update - so a woman posted that the nearby district is telling people not to report all their COVID cases. They have way more sick kids than reported. Her husband is a teacher.
So people start going in on her cause she is spreading gossip with no proof.
So I post my receipts and say that I believe her in light of my investigative efforts.
They start telling her that her husband could get in trouble and so the thread is deleted.
then a woman tells me that half of the high school band has COVID-19 and they are not reporting it and some are still going to school with it.
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Post by STP on Sept 1, 2020 10:01:00 GMT -6
I also have younger family members and the like. We can replace "girls weekend" for bachelorette party if that makes it more universal for everyone. Honestly I haven’t seen that either. And I’m not trying to say it isn’t happening. Just that I’m happy I’m not seeing people out partying in groups on my feeds. I'm seeing it on the news, on social media beyond my personal contacts, etc. I am not seeing it on my feed either, I try not to be friends with idiots. Family... well we don't pick them.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 1, 2020 10:01:38 GMT -6
How are things where you are swellist? My OB practice has talked to me about both CS and VBAC as options from the very beginning so I am hoping that continues.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 10:03:10 GMT -6
McBenny, I'm with you. I trust nothing at this point and I'm not even in a state with crazy stuff going on.
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Post by McBenny on Sept 1, 2020 10:03:24 GMT -6
We (MH and I) are fearful of giving it to family if we were exposed etc. So, we haven't seen any family in months and have no plans to. We do zoom and video call. I do send the grands packages and pictures and keep everyone informed as to what we are doing so everyone feels connected. The kids like to make the boxes for the grands and sending them. This is us too. I sent grandparents games and they have been playing battleship and the like over Zoom. In a weird way it has been really nice because I think we are being more intentional about maintaining and fostering the connections. We feel the same. The time together is more focused.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 1, 2020 10:03:25 GMT -6
I can recommend a new OB if you need one. Saying no to a RCS is fucking nuts. I buried the lede a little bit....I think it is this new midwife who---I'm not sure is going to make it in this practice. I'm not usually a let me speak to your manager person...but last time I was straight up like "I need to speak with Dr. X or Y on telehealth about my options. They know my body and history and I think there is something getting lost in translation here because I don't feel like you are hearing me." You are much nicer than me. I'd be all "what part about 'im not delivering this baby vaginally' do you not understand?"
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 10:03:53 GMT -6
Also good for you for posting receipts.
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Post by STP on Sept 1, 2020 10:04:35 GMT -6
If a woman wants a c/s - repeat, primary, or other - it should be her call. And any "professional" who says otherwise can jump off the short end of the pier.
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Post by STP on Sept 1, 2020 10:05:25 GMT -6
Like, I'm incandescent with rage at someone telling a woman "no RCS."
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Post by McBenny on Sept 1, 2020 10:07:25 GMT -6
I am so over other people telling women what to do with their coochie.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 10:09:18 GMT -6
Like, I'm incandescent with rage at someone telling a woman "no RCS." My initial infantile internal rage response was "YOU ARE NOT A FUCKING DOCTOR THIS DOESN'T CONCERN YOU."" And then I checked myself and decided to save that response for a later date. Probably this week.
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Post by willow on Sept 1, 2020 10:11:15 GMT -6
I guess call me Karen for the next six weeks. I don't think it makes you a Karen at all. It's not like you're asking to give birth at the hospital with a group of support people unmasked and refusing to get tested or something. You just want a routine low risk surgery to deliver your child.
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Post by yoginikiki on Sept 1, 2020 10:15:15 GMT -6
The kicker to all of this is in non COVID times I would love another VBAC. But we can't make that work and also follow the suggested policies and procedures outlined by the pediatrician. So get fucked midwife.
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Post by fikafairy on Sept 1, 2020 10:27:03 GMT -6
Like, I'm incandescent with rage at someone telling a woman "no RCS." same here. Usually it’s the other way around, being told no VBAC or no VBA2C. I’d be a pregKaren in this situation too.
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