zoeylucy
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Post by zoeylucy on Mar 6, 2021 10:59:11 GMT -6
Iβm guilty of being an emotional vampire over the years. I fully admit being in a bad place and taking advantage of support from an emotional perspective because I literally had no one else to turn to. . Iβve learned from that, and Iβve really tried to rectify that aspect of myself because I never meant to be a shitty person. I would hope that no one questioned me over the years, but I know my truth, and I havenβt been untruthful. I feel like this, too, but I donβt think you are an emotional vampire. Iβm glad you had this place to come to, and I think you are a wonderful person
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π π Fineapple π π
Emerald
I never gossip, I observe...And then relay my observations to practically everyone.β
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Post by π π Fineapple π π on Mar 6, 2021 10:59:39 GMT -6
Today itβs not within my Ministry to assure each and everyone of you that no one is talking about you.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 11:00:18 GMT -6
I think AmyG hits on a good point. There is a level of insecurity and some of us have a past where there were a lot of times we were the one being talked about. Growing up poor in a gay household in a conservative area I was the kid who did not have nice clothes or things who was often made fun of and talked about. I'm not that kid anymore, but sometimes that insecure feeling comes back. Do I think that anyone thinks I'm lying about my life? No probably not. Do I have some level of insecurity about what people think or say about me? Yes, I'm working on it though. I just think when these topics come up where "someone" is doing something and it seems like a bunch of people are in the know and talking about it openly, but not willing to say who it is... It makes people feel uncomfortable. It takes many of us back to that schoolyard feeling of being talked about and on the outside. I feel like I have to explain my feelings on this because I feel like other people feel the same way and aren't comfortable enough to say so. For me it's not someone. It's someones. Again about 4 active and 2 retired. Retired that they don't tell as many tales as before. This isn't suspected. I know there are falsehoods. People contradict themselves. Lies have to be remembered and the truth does not. As for people thinking it's then and paranoia etc. I feel with all my heart that's your personal traumas and baggage and I can't be a steward for other people's stuff like that. So do we not discuss cause of that? No. π€·π»ββοΈ
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Post by PandaWatch on Mar 6, 2021 11:00:48 GMT -6
FTR I donβt think anyone is talking about me. I think Iβm boring and donβt share a ton about my personal life.
But I will say again I simply find the vague posting annoying. Itβs this dynamic where a small group of people are intimating that they have a shared secret that the rest of us canβt know. Iβm only speaking for myself when I say I find it rude and it makes me feel left out or Iβm not part of the ingroup.*
And Iβm not asking anyone to name names. I understand why that would be a terrible idea. I just wish that people wouldnβt talk about it on the board in this vague way, when we all know theyβre not going to share who theyβre talking about. Just donβt say anything.
* Iβm using βingroupβ In the clinical sense. Iβm not saying thereβs a clique or a cool kids club, before anyone starts down that path.
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sudsy
Opal
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Post by sudsy on Mar 6, 2021 11:02:28 GMT -6
Today itβs not within my Ministry to assure each and everyone of you that no one is talking about you. Definitely not your job, love. It would be hard to change most peopleβs minds anyway.
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π π Fineapple π π
Emerald
I never gossip, I observe...And then relay my observations to practically everyone.β
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Post by π π Fineapple π π on Mar 6, 2021 11:02:40 GMT -6
I find death in the drinking thread annoying. Itβs still happening.
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Post by shamycooler on Mar 6, 2021 11:02:48 GMT -6
You think they mean me? Lol Plenty of people have vocally called me a liar so I assumed this was someone that was well liked. McBenny even said she would get chastised or told she was a liar if she talked about it. I doubt they're referring to someone who is vocally, regularly called out. Do you feel like youβre an emotional vampire?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2021 11:03:05 GMT -6
Of course not silly but people have called me that here before and I haven't seen that phrase used towards anyone else. If there's someone else here that people are calling that then I have never seen it. Then stop trying to center yourself, silly. I don't think its me. You used a phrase used towards me. I wanted to point out that there's no way it's me and if it is me, people have already called me a liar so there's no secrety secret there. That is all. There's no centering cause there's no actual real discussion lol.
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π π Fineapple π π
Emerald
I never gossip, I observe...And then relay my observations to practically everyone.β
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Post by π π Fineapple π π on Mar 6, 2021 11:03:14 GMT -6
I find bodily functions of shit annoying and that keeps happening. Yβall can scroll on by
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 11:04:26 GMT -6
Also for me, there is no in group out of groupness.
I don't know what or who y'all are talking about.
My retired liars go back years.
Y'all get stuck on this cloak and dagger shit some people just lie to lie. Make themselves feel a way. π€·π»ββοΈ
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fb
Platinum
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Post by fb on Mar 6, 2021 11:04:42 GMT -6
Iβd imagine if the person or person being lauded to came in here and did the whole itβs not me cause Iβm not a liar but, at this point theyβd probably be outed. But because they arenβt, it isnβt happening. Again, the secret treaty persists.
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Post by PandaWatch on Mar 6, 2021 11:04:45 GMT -6
I find death in the drinking thread annoying. Itβs still happening. pf course. I donβt run shit. Just speaking my mind. I know nothing will change.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 11:05:59 GMT -6
Today itβs not within my Ministry to assure each and everyone of you that no one is talking about you. Definitely not your job, love. It would be hard to change most peopleβs minds anyway. exactly Even if a signed letter saying it is not you was given to the insecure, they would not accept it. Still think it's about me. I can't bear that cross for them. Nor will I.
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Post by miawallace on Mar 6, 2021 11:06:12 GMT -6
Omg guys. Itβs always the people you medium suspect.
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Eagles
Opal
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Post by Eagles on Mar 6, 2021 11:06:15 GMT -6
Honest to God people who engage with her are starting to go on my mental list.
The rest of us are trapped on a fucking merry go round from hell.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 11:06:26 GMT -6
I find death in the drinking thread annoying. Itβs still happening. amen
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π π Fineapple π π
Emerald
I never gossip, I observe...And then relay my observations to practically everyone.β
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Post by π π Fineapple π π on Mar 6, 2021 11:07:02 GMT -6
Person - you know who you are. I truly donβt care. Itβs more entertaining. I pledge from henceforth to say nothing further.
Matter of fact donβt start 1 gofundme, start 2. :-)
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 11:07:05 GMT -6
I find bodily functions of shit annoying and that keeps happening. Yβall can scroll on by vomiting as well
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 11:07:37 GMT -6
Speaking for me only, it's just a fucked up sense of security. I question myself all the time so of course I question if your questioning me & my words, & so on & so forth. It's the whole I haven't done cocaine since 2000ish but omg what if there is a little baggie stuck in my bag I forgot about & I'm about to get arrested at the airport. Logical me knows that that bag is newer than 2000 & it's just simply not possible, but still it's there, in my head. *I know* it doesn't make sense, but I can't explain it any other way than insecurities within myself. I've gained a very push through & release it attitude, but it's not that easy for everyone. & obviously it's not 100% great for me, either, since it's still there in the mind for me, too. I canβt related to that cocaine analogy at all beloved. Not at alll. π it made sense in my head lol
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hawkward
Global Moderator
Loss, Infertility
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Post by hawkward on Mar 6, 2021 11:08:44 GMT -6
Honest to God people who engage with her are starting to go on my mental list. The rest of us are trapped on a fucking merry go round from hell. Youβre right. Iβm going back to ignoring her. I have not engaged in her fuckery in days and days, and it is a much happier way to live.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 11:09:37 GMT -6
But I will say this. Until someone tag you that bitch isnβt taking to you. You donβt answer to subliminales. Tel a bitch to say it with her entire chest and tag you!!! Yβall need to approach everything like this This is what I'm working towards for my life.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 11:10:09 GMT -6
Iβd imagine if the person or person being lauded to came in here and did the whole itβs not me cause Iβm not a liar but, at this point theyβd probably be outed. But because they arenβt, it isnβt happening. Again, the secret treaty persists. Let me tell you what I see with this comes up. The same people talk about it. The same people get the fuck and don't comment on thr topic. The same people are like I know it's not me. The same be name names. The same say omg not this. The same avoid it like the plague.
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pobre
Ruby
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Post by pobre on Mar 6, 2021 11:12:24 GMT -6
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Post by angelashly on Mar 6, 2021 11:13:09 GMT -6
Definitely not your job, love. It would be hard to change most peopleβs minds anyway. exactly Even if a signed letter saying it is not you was given to the insecure, they would not accept it. Still think it's about me. I can't bear that cross for them. Nor will I. I know Iβm only one but I would believe you. This is not an ask to tell because I donβt think you need to Iβm just saying
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Radley
Sapphire
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Post by Radley on Mar 6, 2021 11:17:36 GMT -6
Not at all in a snarky way but I guess I donβt see the point in bringing up liars if it isnβt to out them? If itβs an βI see youβ why not PM it? Otherwise it sets people on edge, people who wonder if for some reason you arenβt believing them (because itβs been seen before that *you can think some is 100% lying and it ends up being a mistake), or people who think maybe they are falling for a liarβs lies, which is unsettling or they feel FOMO. So I truly donβt get mentioning it if it isnβt to out them.
Seriously not being snarky
Edit to add: *general you.
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π π Fineapple π π
Emerald
I never gossip, I observe...And then relay my observations to practically everyone.β
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Post by π π Fineapple π π on Mar 6, 2021 11:19:01 GMT -6
Not at all in a snarky way but I guess I donβt see the point in bringing up liars if it isnβt to out them? If itβs an βI see youβ why not PM it? Otherwise it sets people on edge, people who wonder if for some reason you arenβt believing them (because itβs been seen before that you can think some is 100% lying and it ends up being a mistake), or people who think maybe they are falling for a liarβs lies, which is unsettling or they feel FOMO. So I truly donβt get mentioning it if it isnβt to out them. Seriously not being snarky If youβre not lying about going to WDW while thereβs pictures of you going to WDW, donβt worry about it.
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π π Fineapple π π
Emerald
I never gossip, I observe...And then relay my observations to practically everyone.β
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Post by π π Fineapple π π on Mar 6, 2021 11:19:29 GMT -6
If your not posting about fuck Trump here but MAGA profile picture on FB. Donβt worry about it
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Post by miawallace on Mar 6, 2021 11:20:01 GMT -6
Lol Good Lord
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starbuck
Emerald
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Post by starbuck on Mar 6, 2021 11:21:29 GMT -6
Everyone take a deep breath. You're all lovely.
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sudsy
Opal
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Post by sudsy on Mar 6, 2021 11:21:33 GMT -6
If your not posting about fuck Trump here but MAGA profile picture on FB. Donβt worry about it Whoa.
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