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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 6, 2021 7:13:50 GMT -6
I feel all the ones I know about and am onto know that I know. We're in a silent treaty. Lol. Silent treaty killed me.
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Post by sweptaway on Mar 6, 2021 7:17:48 GMT -6
I'm a hungover puker too and it's the worst. And I hate throwing up. The knowledge of how awful that is has kept me from getting drunk for years In college I had a friend who would make herself puke and then KEEP DRINKING Puke and rally! Ugh. Never could
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 6, 2021 7:18:06 GMT -6
I stopped paying attention last night to go have sex and I come back to puke stories. Fuckers. I fell asleep early and woke up to a bunch of new pages and thought—big reveal?? No. Just puke.😑
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Post by Sweetjane on Mar 6, 2021 7:32:44 GMT -6
I mean you're pretty much going to win HIH bingo with a 208+ page thread. I feel like we don’t need actual shit stories and vomit in every thread. We just don’t. Just like how we don’t need death in the drinking threads Just stating a fact. I never need those stories. Even when I quoted Cher I refraining from typing those words. I'm an avoider.
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Post by Eagles on Mar 6, 2021 7:37:21 GMT -6
I never had a spread sheet. I did have a white board and note in a notebook and then a friend said, "but do you want to be known as the poster who outed _____?“ And I threw away my notes. I was all the way back to 2016. I'm sad that your filing cabinet with color coded manila folders only exists in my mind.
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Post by Eagles on Mar 6, 2021 7:37:50 GMT -6
Trying to get this train off of the gross track.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 6, 2021 7:44:46 GMT -6
I can only think of one person who probably isn’t on the up and up. I’m not around enough to catch the little shit with posters.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 7:52:53 GMT -6
It was at my in-laws house too. I got out bonged by two 65+ year olds. That part was more embarrassing You are my favorite poster ever
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 8:19:00 GMT -6
I just wanna say, for the spreadsheets, if somebody thinks I'm lying about my life, so be it. I live with an extreme hatred of liars, & because of that I know it's very hard to convince someone otherwise once they've labeled you as a liar.
I'm not actually worried about it tho. I don't know what I've posted that is interesting enough to be a lie, but liars be lying about all the things so I get it, also.
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Post by Nonniedee on Mar 6, 2021 9:48:36 GMT -6
None of this matters without naming names which isn't going to happen. All this accomplishes is making people feel like it's them and making them uncomfortable when they post. I absolutely get not publicly calling someone out, but maybe a private I see you message is better than all of this. I’m always very confused why people feel like it’s them. I’m not being snarky at all, I’m genuinely confused by it.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 10:10:07 GMT -6
None of this matters without naming names which isn't going to happen. All this accomplishes is making people feel like it's them and making them uncomfortable when they post. I absolutely get not publicly calling someone out, but maybe a private I see you message is better than all of this. I’m always very confused why people feel like it’s them. I’m not being snarky at all, I’m genuinely confused by it. Speaking for me only, it's just a fucked up sense of security. I question myself all the time so of course I question if your questioning me & my words, & so on & so forth. It's the whole I haven't done cocaine since 2000ish but omg what if there is a little baggie stuck in my bag I forgot about & I'm about to get arrested at the airport. Logical me knows that that bag is newer than 2000 & it's just simply not possible, but still it's there, in my head. *I know* it doesn't make sense, but I can't explain it any other way than insecurities within myself. I've gained a very push through & release it attitude, but it's not that easy for everyone. & obviously it's not 100% great for me, either, since it's still there in the mind for me, too.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 6, 2021 10:22:39 GMT -6
from childhood experiences, but maybe not really curiosity but paranoia. In school whispered talks were too often ending with saying they were talking about me and pointed and laughed at by the in crowd. Bullying that didn't end til I graduated top of the class and went away to college to get away from them all. Im not friends with anyone from my school for a reason.
And the paranoia Like caught with drugs at the airport but I dont do drugs or have them on my at the airport. A bit of anxiety of being falsely accused with no way to prove innocence.
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Post by hawkward on Mar 6, 2021 10:25:31 GMT -6
I think it should go without saying that no one is talking about the time you called your car blue but it’s really sea foam green. No one cares. It’s when someone repeatedly engages in emotional vampirism that their behavior starts pinging radars.
I understand insecurity. It took me a long time to share what was going on with DS1 because I was afraid people would think I was making it up, and since I was already getting blown off by ER doctors IRL I knew I couldn’t handle having that here too. But y’all don’t need to insist you were telling the truth or whatever. I mean this in the kindest possible way: no one is talking about you.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 6, 2021 10:29:10 GMT -6
I think it should go without saying that no one is talking about the time you called your car blue but it’s really sea foam green. No one cares. It’s when someone repeatedly engages in emotional vampirism that their behavior starts pinging radars. I understand insecurity. It took me a long time to share what was going on with DS1 because I was afraid people would think I was making it up, and since I was already getting blown off by ER doctors IRL I knew I couldn’t handle having that here too. But y’all don’t need to insist you were telling the truth or whatever. I mean this in the kindest possible way: no one is talking about you. But thats not a universal you. Its a most of you, cause they talking about somebody.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 10:32:25 GMT -6
I think it should go without saying that no one is talking about the time you called your car blue but it’s really sea foam green. No one cares. It’s when someone repeatedly engages in emotional vampirism that their behavior starts pinging radars. I understand insecurity. It took me a long time to share what was going on with DS1 because I was afraid people would think I was making it up, and since I was already getting blown off by ER doctors IRL I knew I couldn’t handle having that here too. But y’all don’t need to insist you were telling the truth or whatever. I mean this in the kindest possible way: no one is talking about you. Yes! ❤ This is my push through & release it with this place. Logically it is *likely not me * because insecure always & forever because reasons
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2021 10:34:05 GMT -6
I think it should go without saying that no one is talking about the time you called your car blue but it’s really sea foam green. No one cares. It’s when someone repeatedly engages in emotional vampirism that their behavior starts pinging radars. I understand insecurity. It took me a long time to share what was going on with DS1 because I was afraid people would think I was making it up, and since I was already getting blown off by ER doctors IRL I knew I couldn’t handle having that here too. But y’all don’t need to insist you were telling the truth or whatever. I mean this in the kindest possible way: no one is talking about you. You think they mean me? Lol Plenty of people have vocally called me a liar so I assumed this was someone that was well liked. McBenny even said she would get chastised or told she was a liar if she talked about it. I doubt they're referring to someone who is vocally, regularly called out.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 6, 2021 10:36:32 GMT -6
In general I just dont take this stuff very seriously. I love most of you, & it's not that I don't care, but life is hard. If someone on the internet hates me, I just can't spend the mental energy to spiral on it.
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Post by TheoV2 on Mar 6, 2021 10:38:16 GMT -6
I think AmyG hits on a good point. There is a level of insecurity and some of us have a past where there were a lot of times we were the one being talked about. Growing up poor in a gay household in a conservative area I was the kid who did not have nice clothes or things who was often made fun of and talked about. I'm not that kid anymore, but sometimes that insecure feeling comes back. Do I think that anyone thinks I'm lying about my life? No probably not. Do I have some level of insecurity about what people think or say about me? Yes, I'm working on it though. I just think when these topics come up where "someone" is doing something and it seems like a bunch of people are in the know and talking about it openly, but not willing to say who it is... It makes people feel uncomfortable. It takes many of us back to that schoolyard feeling of being talked about and on the outside. I feel like I have to explain my feelings on this because I feel like other people feel the same way and aren't comfortable enough to say so.
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Post by wasabi on Mar 6, 2021 10:38:23 GMT -6
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Post by hawkward on Mar 6, 2021 10:39:12 GMT -6
I think it should go without saying that no one is talking about the time you called your car blue but it’s really sea foam green. No one cares. It’s when someone repeatedly engages in emotional vampirism that their behavior starts pinging radars. I understand insecurity. It took me a long time to share what was going on with DS1 because I was afraid people would think I was making it up, and since I was already getting blown off by ER doctors IRL I knew I couldn’t handle having that here too. But y’all don’t need to insist you were telling the truth or whatever. I mean this in the kindest possible way: no one is talking about you. But thats not a universal you. Its a most of you, cause they talking about somebody. I am quite confident that none of the people who have said they feel insecure in this thread are the poster being spoken of. If you have not recently told a fantastical lie that can be proven wrong, you don’t need to worry.
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Post by zoeylucy on Mar 6, 2021 10:44:05 GMT -6
Just wanted to say love you, TheoV2.
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Post by hawkward on Mar 6, 2021 10:48:06 GMT -6
I think it should go without saying that no one is talking about the time you called your car blue but it’s really sea foam green. No one cares. It’s when someone repeatedly engages in emotional vampirism that their behavior starts pinging radars. I understand insecurity. It took me a long time to share what was going on with DS1 because I was afraid people would think I was making it up, and since I was already getting blown off by ER doctors IRL I knew I couldn’t handle having that here too. But y’all don’t need to insist you were telling the truth or whatever. I mean this in the kindest possible way: no one is talking about you. You think they mean me? Lol Plenty of people have vocally called me a liar so I assumed this was someone that was well liked. McBenny even said she would get chastised or told she was a liar if she talked about it. I doubt they're referring to someone who is vocally, regularly called out. Do you feel like you’re an emotional vampire?
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Mar 6, 2021 10:51:57 GMT -6
I’m always very confused why people feel like it’s them. I’m not being snarky at all, I’m genuinely confused by it. Speaking for me only, it's just a fucked up sense of security. I question myself all the time so of course I question if your questioning me & my words, & so on & so forth. It's the whole I haven't done cocaine since 2000ish but omg what if there is a little baggie stuck in my bag I forgot about & I'm about to get arrested at the airport. Logical me knows that that bag is newer than 2000 & it's just simply not possible, but still it's there, in my head. *I know* it doesn't make sense, but I can't explain it any other way than insecurities within myself. I've gained a very push through & release it attitude, but it's not that easy for everyone. & obviously it's not 100% great for me, either, since it's still there in the mind for me, too. I can’t related to that cocaine analogy at all beloved. Not at alll.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2021 10:53:46 GMT -6
You think they mean me? Lol Plenty of people have vocally called me a liar so I assumed this was someone that was well liked. McBenny even said she would get chastised or told she was a liar if she talked about it. I doubt they're referring to someone who is vocally, regularly called out. Do you feel like you’re an emotional vampire? Of course not silly but people have called me that here before and I haven't seen that phrase used towards anyone else. If there's someone else here that people are calling that then I have never seen it.
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Post by sudsy on Mar 6, 2021 10:55:00 GMT -6
I’m guilty of being an emotional vampire over the years. I fully admit being in a bad place and taking advantage of support from an emotional perspective because I literally had no one else to turn to. . I’ve learned from that, and I’ve really tried to rectify that aspect of myself because I never meant to be a shitty person. I would hope that no one questioned me over the years, but I know my truth, and I haven’t been untruthful.
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Post by pobre on Mar 6, 2021 10:55:51 GMT -6
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Post by starbuck on Mar 6, 2021 10:56:25 GMT -6
The drug stash analogies are very Brokedown Palace. And now I'm sure one of you is Claire Daines.
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Post by McBenny on Mar 6, 2021 10:56:26 GMT -6
I’m always very confused why people feel like it’s them. I’m not being snarky at all, I’m genuinely confused by it. Speaking for me only, it's just a fucked up sense of security. I question myself all the time so of course I question if your questioning me & my words, & so on & so forth. It's the whole I haven't done cocaine since 2000ish but omg what if there is a little baggie stuck in my bag I forgot about & I'm about to get arrested at the airport. Logical me knows that that bag is newer than 2000 & it's just simply not possible, but still it's there, in my head. *I know* it doesn't make sense, but I can't explain it any other way than insecurities within myself. I've gained a very push through & release it attitude, but it's not that easy for everyone. & obviously it's not 100% great for me, either, since it's still there in the mind for me, too. Oh wow
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Mar 6, 2021 10:58:10 GMT -6
But I will say this. Until someone tag you that bitch isn’t taking to you. You don’t answer to subliminales. Tel a bitch to say it with her entire chest and tag you!!!
Y’all need to approach everything like this
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Post by hawkward on Mar 6, 2021 10:58:53 GMT -6
Do you feel like you’re an emotional vampire? Of course not silly but people have called me that here before and I haven't seen that phrase used towards anyone else. If there's someone else here that people are calling that then I have never seen it. Then stop trying to center yourself, silly.
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