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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2020 6:24:26 GMT -6
Hi 👋
I come from a long line of onlies so I'm happy to chime in on any issues of only children. (I also have an only in case that wasn't clear 😆)
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Post by bellatrix on Sept 6, 2020 6:51:09 GMT -6
Welcome!
This board used to be pretty active, but it's died down quite a bit.
I'm happy to see "new" posters. ☺️
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Post by coconutbacon on Sept 6, 2020 7:18:03 GMT -6
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Foxy
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Post by Foxy on Sept 6, 2020 8:38:15 GMT -6
Hi! I'll join too!
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Post by Pumpkinwest on Sept 6, 2020 8:43:54 GMT -6
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NamasteBirches
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Post by NamasteBirches on Sept 6, 2020 9:22:08 GMT -6
I made a new thread 😁😁😁😁
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Post by orangehibiscus on Sept 6, 2020 14:24:12 GMT -6
I’m (we’re) debating on being OAD. Can I hang here until we decide for sure? If y’all aren’t ok with that (which is completely fine), just let me know.
I just turned 33. H will be 36 in October. Our DD is 17.5 months. Here’s our backstory...
TW Losses (just in case)
It took us 2.5 years to have DD. We spent 1.5 year of that time with our RE who we love. We had 2 losses before I got pregnant with DD. The second loss was confirmed ectopic and required surgery during which I lost my left tube. I have PCOS and endometriosis. H has a varicocele, low morph, and abnormal semen viscosity.
I struggle with the decision to be OAD or to try for another. I would only want one more. H wants another based on past conversations, but isn’t dead set on having another.
I technically have 2 siblings, but I don’t speak to either, and I wished I was an only child. I think about all of the what if’s. What if DD and the sibling don’t get along? I mean I wished I didn’t have siblings, so why would I have another child. What if we have more losses (those 2 were so hard to handle emotionally for me)? What if I get pregnant with twins (or more!)? How will our family dynamic change? Can I be an amazing mom to 2 kids?
I just can’t decide. I could be perfectly happy with just DD. I’m not necessarily opposed to having another, especially if that is what H really wants. If we do have another, we can’t take it back. I wish I had a clear feeling/answer one way or the other.
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2020 19:07:10 GMT -6
orangehibiscus Thanks for sharing your story. I’m sorry for your losses. My loss made me completely reevaluate the number of kids I wanted and it really fucked with my mental health. I don’t know that I could go through another loss, or the infant stage again, so I’m going through a similar OAD or not thing right now (I made a thread on GD).
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Post by orangehibiscus on Sept 6, 2020 21:13:15 GMT -6
orangehibiscus Thanks for sharing your story. I’m sorry for your losses. My loss made me completely reevaluate the number of kids I wanted and it really fucked with my mental health. I don’t know that I could go through another loss, or the infant stage again, so I’m going through a similar OAD or not thing right now (I made a thread on GD). Thank you! I’m sorry for your loss too. I read your thread, and I related to it so much! That’s actually why I posted here. It’s nice to not feel alone with a major decision like this.
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NamasteBirches
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Post by NamasteBirches on Sept 7, 2020 4:28:10 GMT -6
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Post by orangehibiscus on Sept 7, 2020 20:04:23 GMT -6
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