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Post by doodlemommy on Apr 26, 2020 14:47:56 GMT -6
My tire is not repairable They are bringing a new one in today so at least I can have the van back Bummer! Must have been a bad rip through. Did your hot water valve resolve itself? Hope you've had no other issues since then. It had side wall damage. I have a new one on the van now so all good. Turning the hot water tank down fixed that problem and all is good thankfully. However...my MiL is in the hospital. She went in for a gallbladder attack, got a chest X-ray (no one seems to know who ordered that) and they found nodules in both her lungs. She is waiting for a biopsy on Monday (which happens to be her birthday) to see what they are. She won’t get results for a week. Could be cancer, could be benign, could be nodules related to her rheumatoid arthritis, probably other options too but those at the only ones I know. Due to covid no visitors so she is there alone and FIL is home alone. We have been in daily contact with both on the phone but it’s very stressful and is going to be a long week of waiting. She is pretty healthy and in good shape and had no respiratory symptoms so hopefully whatever it is can be treated and she does well
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Post by Taitai on Apr 27, 2020 7:20:31 GMT -6
doodlemommy Oh no - I’m so sorry to hear about your MIL. I hope that it is just something benign. It must be so hard for her to just wait there with no visitors allowed, and you can’t be with your FIL either. Very tough. Please keep us updated - I’ll be thinking of her. curmudgeon Wow - your ILs sound great! Mine would not be able to keep boundaries like that AT ALL. They would CONSTANTLY be coming over and interfering with our lives. This is not why we live on the other side of the world from them...but...it’s a perk I guess! 🤣😂
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Post by CoachTsWife on Apr 27, 2020 10:19:44 GMT -6
doodlemommy , sorry to hear about your MIL. Please keep us posted. Our DCP notified us over the weekend that she is closing until August. She has several teacher-kids who don't really need care over the summer (typically they have to bring them 1-2 days a week over the summer to keep their spot) and with everything going on with the pandemic, she doesn't have enough clients who need care, or are comfortable sending their kids, to stay open. Our boys go down to 4 days a week during the summer because DH has so many summer football commitments, we can't pull them or only send them 1-2 days. We are not the normal teacher family that doesn't need summer care. On one hand, I'm super worried about what we're going to do if the state allows summer sports and DH is gone a lot. But I also understand her side - she's going to do online contract work to make money until August. If we can limp along until August, with the help of our parents and maybe other occasional sitters, we will save a ton of money. I'm sad that DS1 has had his last day with his friends at her house since he's starting all-day preschool in August. It feels like a huge milestone that we didn't get to properly celebrate/acknowledge. I know there are much bigger milestones that people are missing out on, but it still makes me sad.
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Post by August Blooms on Apr 27, 2020 12:01:41 GMT -6
doodlemommy Fingers crosses and sending you positive thoughts that it’s nothing. curmudgeon So jealous of that pool situation for so many reasons! CoachTsWife it’s really hard with the kids missing these little milestones and worrying about the logistics going forward when everything is up in the air. I may have to take leave from work if things start opening up again but there’s no daycares or schools open. It totally sucks.
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Post by August Blooms on Apr 27, 2020 13:17:04 GMT -6
I will try the poop celebration strategy for the next time, we have to wait for my grocery order on Wednesday for more of the motivational jelly beans. Taitai we have the ikea potty but ‘she’s a big girl’ and does not want to use it. She hasn’t pooped today so I’m hoping for a win. I went to work a few days ago and it was magical, I got to use the bathroom in peace, drink coffee in peace and eat my meals with no one asking me for anything. I feel like I’m on mat leave again, no time alone and feeling very touched out. I know it sounds bad but I was kind of hoping my H’s work would shut down for a few weeks so he could get a taste. That doesn’t look like it will happen since they are talking about how to reopen things now.
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Post by doodlemommy on Apr 27, 2020 20:47:42 GMT -6
Thanks guys. Unfortunately she couldn’t get the biopsy today as the radiologist that needed to do it wasn’t in. She’s hoping for tomorrow morning
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Post by cythe on Apr 27, 2020 21:46:58 GMT -6
Tapa is being super dumb so ive been putting off updating about my projects. Anyway, i finished my bathroom a bit ago. It still needs some finishing touches but is functional and mostly done. Kitchen is slow. The cabinets are a ton of work but I think im making progress. I made a door tonight! So as you can see, the cabinets are a mess. The door needs to be sanded and primed but im very proud of it!
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Post by duskymonkey on Apr 27, 2020 22:44:04 GMT -6
doodlemommy oh man....so sorry about your MIL. Please update us. Will be thinking of her and your family. The wait is definitely the worst. August Blooms... I’m so glad you had some alone time even if it was to be at work. I remember looking forward so much to go into the studio for work and so guilty at the same time but it really helped me mentally to be away from the kids. Hang in there, you’re a great mom and it really is hard. We can all relate. Big hugs. CoachTsWife TBH I’m nervous about group gatherings too soon and I think especially schools, should keep it on the down low over the summer to help with the community spread so things can actually go back to a somewhat normal schedule. I’m predicting outbreaks are going to happen soon again as we’re rushing to go back to normal too soon and then we have to SIP again and just prolong the current situation. 🤷🏻♀️ Hoping the school board will do this so at least you won’t have to worry about childcare. Big hugs too about being unable to acknowledge your ds’ transition to the next level. IMHO for me it’s huge.
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Post by duskymonkey on Apr 27, 2020 22:45:24 GMT -6
doodlemommy Oh no - I’m so sorry to hear about your MIL. I hope that it is just something benign. It must be so hard for her to just wait there with no visitors allowed, and you can’t be with your FIL either. Very tough. Please keep us updated - I’ll be thinking of her. curmudgeon Wow - your ILs sound great! Mine would not be able to keep boundaries like that AT ALL. They would CONSTANTLY be coming over and interfering with our lives. This is not why we live on the other side of the world from them...but...it’s a perk I guess! 🤣😂 Admit it Taitai you wanted to move away 😜
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Post by duskymonkey on Apr 27, 2020 22:46:53 GMT -6
cythe seriously GF! Supah impressed! Looking good and is that why you’ve been MIA lately?
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Post by duskymonkey on Apr 27, 2020 22:59:40 GMT -6
I have big news!! Yesterday DS took off on his pedal bike! I literally was this. The entire street I’m sure heard me screaming, jumping, hopping like a lunatic! We ended up picking up another slightly smaller bike on Saturday from a LBS which fit better and after breakfast we put him on it and 15 minutes later, he was off n his own! HUGE milestone!
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Post by Taitai on Apr 28, 2020 1:55:19 GMT -6
doodlemommy Oh no - I’m so sorry to hear about your MIL. I hope that it is just something benign. It must be so hard for her to just wait there with no visitors allowed, and you can’t be with your FIL either. Very tough. Please keep us updated - I’ll be thinking of her. curmudgeon Wow - your ILs sound great! Mine would not be able to keep boundaries like that AT ALL. They would CONSTANTLY be coming over and interfering with our lives. This is not why we live on the other side of the world from them...but...it’s a perk I guess! 🤣😂 Admit it Taitai you wanted to move away 😜 I’ll take the 5th, lol 😂
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Post by Taitai on Apr 28, 2020 2:02:25 GMT -6
cythe Wow - you have been so productive! How do you have time to do that?? Do you get to work on it during E’s naps? There is zero way I could achieve any of it - I’m so impressed! August Blooms I’m so glad you were able to get some time to yourself - even if it was at work! I really need the time at work to be by myself - focus on non-kid things. I don’t think it could be a SAHM. It would be really difficult for me. duskymonkey Yay for your DS starting on his pedal bike! Our DS1 has also started riding a regular pedal bike, and we are so proud of him! He’s had a few spills, but that is because there is some mud/uneven surfaces on the path that goes around our compound. It’s amazing to see the kids reach these milestones! CoachTsWife That’s a tough situation about daycare - hugs about you missing the last day before your kid moves up to pre-school too. It’s so hard. Is it terrible that I hope they don’t do football this next year, so your H can help more with childcare over the summer? Football is such a close contact sport - I just don’t see how it’s a good idea to start that up again....especially since the flu season starts in October and with the COVID second wave risks...
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Post by danvers on Apr 28, 2020 6:22:50 GMT -6
doodlemommy, sending good thoughts you all's way this morning. CoachTsWife, we use a small church daycare that has a lot of teachers' kids as well. We have to pay through the summer to hold a spot so we usually end up sending them a few days a week just because. However DD1 will be in K in the fall so we may just not send her and I'm sad at the idea that she may have already had her last day at daycare and we didn't know it (not sad about the $$$ we will be saving though!). I hope cythe, The bathroom looks so good! We are looking at possibly buying a house this summer - come teach me how to DIY like you do! August Blooms, I totally go into my empty classroom to work at least once a week because it's quiet and no one is touching me.
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Post by danvers on Apr 28, 2020 7:00:21 GMT -6
I took the girls on a 2 mile hike yesterday at a nearby state park. The park did seem to some people in it but it looked like everyone was social distancing (I think most were out on the lake fishing). We saw one other couple on our trail and that was it! The girls did great and I think they were just happy to be outside doing something somewhere besides our yard. They slept hard last night too and bother didn't wake up till after 8:30!
I'm headed into my school today for some peace and quiet to work. I am continuing to pretend we will return as normal in the fall, mostly because I don't see how our parents will return to work but not have schools open to care for students during the day. The elementary age kids of 5-12 year olds can't stay home by themselves safely and the different options I've seen tossed around (care centers for kids!) defeat the purpose of social distancing. Even alternative schooling schedules don't work if parents are still expected to go into their job everyday as normal. *Please don't think I am not out protesting that life return to normal. We live in a fairly rural, high poverty area and internet learning isn't super feasible (or even equitable) here. The district is continuing to provide all meals (breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a snack) to kids under 18 through a grant but it still doesn't feel like enough for some of the kids we teach.
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Post by Taitai on Apr 28, 2020 7:35:20 GMT -6
danvers I totally understand what you are saying about the school situation for your community. It’s the same thing where I live and throughout the developing world. Most kids here don’t have access to the internet or tablets/laptops for remote learning, and their parents have to work (otherwise they will starve - there are limited social safety nets here). I think for lower income/developing areas, it’s simply not possible to adopt social distancing/school/work closures for an extended period of time. The economic effects are too devastating on the working class/poor. It’s hard to make those kinds of trade-offs from a policy perspective, but it’s the reality.
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Post by CoachTsWife on Apr 28, 2020 7:53:49 GMT -6
Thanks, guys. We're definitely glad we don't have to make the call on when to send them back. We've added our parents to our germ circle because we had all been social distancing for weeks and we felt it was safe enough. IT HAS DONE WONDERS FOR ALL INVOLVED. The grandparents couldn't hardly wait to see the boys and the boys were so hyper when they realized they were going to see them. My mom has started coming once a week on days DH has back-to-back online meetings with his students. It's a huge help since I work all day every day. We do grocery pickup on the days she comes so that we can get her groceries as well because she lives in a rural area where pickup isn't as available. We knew if we sent the boys to daycare we'd have to stop seeing our parents since we'd be exposing ourselves to each family at daycare. So that worry is gone, at least. DS1's best friends are at daycare and he misses them and IDK how to tell him he won't be going back to play with them. Taitai, duskymonkey I have very conflicted feelings about summer ball and fall sports. I played volleyball in HS and if I was to lose a season, especially my senior season, I would have been DEVASTATED. I feel for the kids missing their senior season this spring. We are a football family - it will be heartbreaking if DH doesn't get to coach this fall. It is his love - he became a teacher so he could coach. We'll obviously understand if that's the case and we'll be fine, but it would be incredibly sad and weird. Def a first world problem, and we get that.
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Post by doodlemommy on Apr 28, 2020 13:21:41 GMT -6
Ugh, the radiologist is out sick this week so they discharged MIL and her biopsy is now scheduled for next Tuesday morning. Hopefully it actually happens then
We also have a germ circle that is us, my parents and my sister/BIL/niece. It has been so great for everyone’s mental health. None of us see anyone else outside the circle except in places like the grocery store. DH is at work in a mask and with extremely limited contact and BIL works (masked) with his one business partner but they keep their distance as much as possible. My parents take my kids 1 day/week which is huge. Last week they took the older 2 overnight and this week they are doing individual play dates to get time away from each other. Tomorrow am they will take DS, pm they will take DD, and then late afternoon I will drop both boys off so I can go to Costco with DH. Usually only one of us goes to the store but we are buying a couple of wooden Adirondack chairs and I can’t manage those on my own.
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Post by doodlemommy on Apr 28, 2020 13:23:44 GMT -6
Outdoor community league soccer is the only thing not cancelled/refunded. They sent an email a while ago saying they are confident we will still be able to play the whole season just on a different time frame and with accommodations. Our provincial chief medical doctor lady says that restrictions on gatherings greater than 15 people will continue through the summer so I have no idea how soccer thinks that is going to happen. It’s only $100 so whatever but seriously just cancel it, I highly doubt it’s happening
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Post by cythe on Apr 28, 2020 17:29:18 GMT -6
cythe Wow - you have been so productive! How do you have time to do that?? Do you get to work on it during E’s naps? There is zero way I could achieve any of it - I’m so impressed! August Blooms I’m so glad you were able to get some time to yourself - even if it was at work! I really need the time at work to be by myself - focus on non-kid things. I don’t think it could be a SAHM. It would be really difficult for me. duskymonkey Yay for your DS starting on his pedal bike! Our DS1 has also started riding a regular pedal bike, and we are so proud of him! He’s had a few spills, but that is because there is some mud/uneven surfaces on the path that goes around our compound. It’s amazing to see the kids reach these milestones! CoachTsWife That’s a tough situation about daycare - hugs about you missing the last day before your kid moves up to pre-school too. It’s so hard. Is it terrible that I hope they don’t do football this next year, so your H can help more with childcare over the summer? Football is such a close contact sport - I just don’t see how it’s a good idea to start that up again....especially since the flu season starts in October and with the COVID second wave risks... H got a new gig working from home full time now. He doesnt end up working most of the day because #reasons I guess so I get to leave the parenting to him to finish some of it. The bathroom I got done during nap times, the cabinets not so much because I'm sawing in my basement.
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Post by curmudgeon on Apr 28, 2020 20:00:39 GMT -6
cythe that is super impressive!! Awesome job on the shower and cabinets!
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Post by Taitai on Apr 29, 2020 7:48:15 GMT -6
cythe That’s awesome your H is able to WFH, which has freed up more time for you to work on home reno stuff. Seriously - your work looks professional. So awesome.
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Post by August Blooms on Apr 29, 2020 12:09:42 GMT -6
I am waiting for my grocery order at Walmart while the kids nap. I may do this all the time, game changing.
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Post by Taitai on Apr 30, 2020 3:09:02 GMT -6
I am waiting for my grocery order at Walmart while the kids nap. I may do this all the time, game changing. Grocery delivery/pickup is the best. Even before COVID, it was pretty common where we live. I hate grocery shopping, so saves us a lot of time. Some things like perishables, I still like to go to the store for, but non-perishables and paper goods, it’s a no brainer
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Post by cythe on Apr 30, 2020 13:32:22 GMT -6
guys, tapatalk is being so SO awful. I know we complain about it a lot but this is super bad. I cant really access the boards on my phone so thats why I'm MIA a bit.
Thanks for all the love on the projects, I'm feeling really good about them and cannot wait to finish the cabinets. They're a ton of work and honestly, I'm not sure it will be worth it in the end. Some of the cabinets are not quite square and I'm worried they will hang really poorly on the walls, but nothing to be done about that now. All I can do is try it and see if I can fix it once they're hanging.
E is doing great, she's turned into a little daredevil and has basically no fear. She's the poster child for toddler "bull in a china shop" and falling down doesn't phase her in the slightest. Her knees are all banged and bruised and even a little cut up so that's fun. Her language is coming along, words are still hard to determine but she's really trying to make sounds, she just isnt there yet. Previously when I'd ask her something, she would just laugh or smile in response but now she just makes up sounds/words if she doesnt know the answer. Its cute, but frustrating haha. At least she's trying now!
For me, I'm thinking about taking some time and going to see my mom. We've been doing the quarantine thing, everyone works from home and E hasnt left the house in... forever. My mom lives alone and, uh, has been trying really really hard to social distance. She's extremely extrovert and lives in a rural area so she hasnt had a good history of following the social distancing/self isolation rules. But, nonetheless, I really miss her and E would love to go run around her house. I need to talk to H about it, I think with his new job we can get away with taking some time to get away. His job can be done at my moms house just the same as it could at ours.
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