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Post by ovenrack on Apr 3, 2020 12:44:58 GMT -6
Okay, everyone. We are all stressed by different things. This is absolutely not about who has it worse, so please don't make it that. I assure you, someone who is already dead from Covid has it the worst in this situation. End of contest.
We all have hard things happening which others' in this group don't have experience with. We aren't all aware of everything about each others' lives. Please just show empathy for one another, and drop it.
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Post by tj on Apr 3, 2020 13:31:17 GMT -6
I forgot you all have no concept of what it's like to be stressed over your own adult children. #blessed I guess I forgot that you have no concept of empathy for others. If you can't see how you were basically telling her haha, that's your problem, not mine, then I guess I can't help you. stringy tried to be nice about it. And you didn't even try to listen to what she was saying. I'm not nice like her. You were rude. You deserved to be called out. Know better, be better.
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Post by tj on Apr 3, 2020 13:32:08 GMT -6
Sorry Oregon. I'm not taking the high road on this one. I'm protecting a friend who was treated poorly. I am who I am.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 3, 2020 13:58:38 GMT -6
Thanks for lookin' out tj. I'm so glad you're back.
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Post by nikkipal on Apr 3, 2020 16:29:03 GMT -6
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Post by milano on Apr 4, 2020 15:44:18 GMT -6
I'm having a rough mental day. I've gotten into some wine which will either make it better or worse.
THIS IS ALL SO SCARY AND HARD. Hard in different ways for everyone, but overall still hard.
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Post by tj on Apr 4, 2020 16:18:41 GMT -6
Hugs milano. It really is all so very hard. Nothing is ok. And that makes everything so fucking hard. And not having an end date for this madness is excruciating. We’re in this together is all I got.
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Post by ovenrack on Apr 4, 2020 16:30:01 GMT -6
Covid19 and this pandemic is turning on everyone's fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses. They're all legit responses to this very abnormal time we're in. I'm glad you PMed. I'm glad we're all here to have space to lay out some of our shit.
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Post by stringy on Apr 4, 2020 21:09:18 GMT -6
Pretty sure what I wrote was as far from an attack as you can get. But ok.
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Post by rugger on Apr 5, 2020 7:07:17 GMT -6
Annnd just when I thought we were all good, and my anxiety over illness had gone down, R goes to bed with a headache, and wakes up with a low grade fever of 100.3°F (37.9°C). 😩
We assumed dehydration last night, but dehydration headaches don't result in a fever. What the heck?? She's been home for 3 weeks!
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Post by tj on Apr 5, 2020 10:45:38 GMT -6
rugger it is probably just a typical cold. Do all the usual stuff. Check her temp twice a day, meds to keep comfortable. Everyone hand wash hand sani like crazy. No sharing food/drinks. Take some comfort in knowing that kids seem to be handling the virus pretty well, and even if she has it, it will probably be like a mild cold. If her fever won’t stay down, if she starts having vomiting and diarrhea along with respiratory symptoms, or if her lips/fingernails start looking bluish (hypoxemia) then call your doctor for instructions or go to the ER trusting your mom gut. And you can always call or text me if you need to talk.
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Post by rugger on Apr 5, 2020 12:32:24 GMT -6
rugger it is probably just a typical cold. Do all the usual stuff. Check her temp twice a day, meds to keep comfortable. Everyone hand wash hand sani like crazy. No sharing food/drinks. Take some comfort in knowing that kids seem to be handling the virus pretty well, and even if she has it, it will probably be like a mild cold. If her fever won’t stay down, if she starts having vomiting and diarrhea along with respiratory symptoms, or if her lips/fingernails start looking bluish (hypoxemia) then call your doctor for instructions or go to the ER trusting your mom gut. And you can always call or text me if you need to talk. Thanks, friend. The Tylenol definitely helped because she was feeling better and went outside in the back yard for a bit. But at the 4hr mark, she said her headache was back, so I took her temp, and it was at 99.0°. I gave her another dose to help with the headache. And we're pushing all the water.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 5, 2020 17:12:19 GMT -6
I have had a really tough day, mentally. The only thing I seem to be able to do is stress eat.
Tonight I saw that a couple of the Libby books I’ve had on hold are available, so I’m going to dive into those for some escapism.
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Post by stringy on Apr 5, 2020 17:30:25 GMT -6
Today I felt like lying under a blanket all day. Just sucked.
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Post by milano on Apr 5, 2020 20:32:36 GMT -6
sorry charlotte and stringy. That was my day yesterday and today was better. Hopefully tomorrow is better for you too.
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Post by nikkipal on Apr 6, 2020 9:39:09 GMT -6
Yesterday I got totally overwhelmed and felt terrible. I took a brisk walk and listened to podcasts and it was very helpful. Usually I walk while M bikes, and I underestimated how good it was for me to get some time alone.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 7, 2020 7:17:38 GMT -6
I had a full blown panic attack yesterday. It was awful and I had to go sit in my car for an hour to try to chill the fuck out.
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Post by tj on Apr 7, 2020 8:24:59 GMT -6
I'm so sorry snowmoon. I forget, do you take anything for anxiety? Do you have anything for panic attacks? Did something specific set it off (you don't have to say what it was.) Is it something that you can avoid for right now? See if you can take some time today to do something special just for yourself. Can you do an online yoga class? Or take a bubble bath with candles and a glass of wine or sparkly water with sliced fruit, and a book? (If you're into that kind of thing.) Maybe give yourself a manicure or take a long walk outside?
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 7, 2020 10:09:10 GMT -6
I'm so sorry snowmoon. I forget, do you take anything for anxiety? Do you have anything for panic attacks? Did something specific set it off (you don't have to say what it was.) Is it something that you can avoid for right now? See if you can take some time today to do something special just for yourself. Can you do an online yoga class? Or take a bubble bath with candles and a glass of wine or sparkly water with sliced fruit, and a book? (If you're into that kind of thing.) Maybe give yourself a manicure or take a long walk outside? I don't take anything right now and it's been a few years since I've had one. I could feel it building up over the last few days so I knew it was inevitable. Just everything is hard right now. Parenting is hard and work is hard and they're both just a lot of care taking and managing behaviours.
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Post by tj on Apr 7, 2020 11:29:47 GMT -6
I'm so sorry snowmoon . I forget, do you take anything for anxiety? Do you have anything for panic attacks? Did something specific set it off (you don't have to say what it was.) Is it something that you can avoid for right now? See if you can take some time today to do something special just for yourself. Can you do an online yoga class? Or take a bubble bath with candles and a glass of wine or sparkly water with sliced fruit, and a book? (If you're into that kind of thing.) Maybe give yourself a manicure or take a long walk outside? I don't take anything right now and it's been a few years since I've had one. I could feel it building up over the last few days so I knew it was inevitable. Just everything is hard right now. Parenting is hard and work is hard and they're both just a lot of care taking and managing behaviours. It really is. Just know that your feelings are real and true and valid. Everything is hard and scary and sucks right now. Hang in there.
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Post by DGM on Apr 7, 2020 14:37:18 GMT -6
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Post by charlotte on Apr 7, 2020 16:25:02 GMT -6
ILY snowmoon this is a really shitty time. It just feels like chaos/instability 24/7 and that would wear on anyone’s mental state. Like stringy posted a few days ago, I feel like I’m totally on this 2-3 day emotional cycle of ups and downs. I have cried, yelled, lost sleep, ran to my car to be alone. I’m glad we all have each other to vent to.
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Post by mimsy on Apr 8, 2020 16:51:27 GMT -6
I’ve entered stress anorexia days. I eat. Maybe 2x a day. I don’t think I hit 1100 calories. I just don’t care?
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Post by stringy on Apr 8, 2020 19:28:19 GMT -6
So my dad spent the week in the hospital. He's home now. Had minor but real surgery today on his hand. They then got him out of there asap.
And now my friend is telling my about her nurse friend at the same hospital who lost 6 covid patients yesterday and I'm starting to hyperventilate, since now my dad is home with my mom. Both in their 70s. Him with many complications. UGH.
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Post by DGM on Apr 8, 2020 19:52:45 GMT -6
Oh stringy. That's tough. Your parents will be in my T&P.
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Post by Speedy on Apr 8, 2020 20:00:55 GMT -6
mimsy oh hi me. I gained a whopping 1 pound in the past month 😩 stringy I'll keep your dad in my thoughts. Hopefully they were able to keep things separate.
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Post by milano on Apr 8, 2020 20:45:40 GMT -6
stringy ugh. I'm sorry. *try* to remember that being anxious about the possibilities won't help. I know that's easier said than done. Hospitals are being extremely cautious to prevent exposure to non-covid patients. I'll send all my good vibes/thoughts your parents' way. I hope they stay healthy!
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Post by milano on Apr 8, 2020 20:48:08 GMT -6
I'm absolutely using food and alcohol to cope with this. The scale is starting to show it, that has at least kicked my butt to start exercising again. My old standby rule of "no alcohol unless you've exercised today" is back in effect.
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Post by tj on Apr 8, 2020 21:06:37 GMT -6
Oh strings. Sending all my thoughts. Not being able to go see him must really hurt right now.
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Post by pbandj714 on Apr 9, 2020 7:50:19 GMT -6
Thinking of your family stringy!
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