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Post by Kida on Mar 11, 2020 11:18:43 GMT -6
All of you that attended or have kids that attend a faith based private school, are you happy with that experience? We are strongly considering sending dd to one when she starts school. We have just about 99% decided on a local Christian school, though we still have a year to decide. It's number two in the whole distract including public schools and I really love that they have a uniform. The reviews are great and the only difference is that they have a mandatory bible class, which I love. What can I expect, pros and cons? I'd love to hear anecdotes. Weāve chosen a Christian school for my upcoming Kindergartener. It was driven less by faith and more by his individual needs. (Ie, smaller classes.) We have amazing public schools but I donāt think itās the best option for him. Then, when we started looking at private schools I quickly realized a lot of the non-religious schools were v v v very expensive. We have multiple kids and there was no way weād be able to cover that. From there, we started visiting schools. We settled on one and weāre very happy so far with the enrollment process and visiting the school. We were lucky that we know people that send their kids to the school so we were able to get some good feedback on the school. Less than 25% of the students that go there attend the church associated with the school and I like that. Do you know anyone that attends the school youāre interested in? If so, definitely talk to them. And visit the school. We went more than once. š We don't know anyone that goes there but it's k-12 and they also have a daycare/preschool that we were considering sending her to next year to get acquainted with everyone and see how they tend to do things. There are a few different things that are driving this decision, faith is just one on the list.
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Post by vino on Mar 11, 2020 11:20:49 GMT -6
Kida I had mentioned that my kids are in the Catholic system, but here where I am in Canada it is publicly funded so the difference between public and Catholic schools are specifically that faith is part of the teachings, whereas the fees, class sizes, teacher quality etc are generally the same.
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Post by Kida on Mar 11, 2020 11:20:50 GMT -6
Hello! Iām Methodist. H and I were raised in the same church growing up, left it at the same time (as teens) for a whole host of reasons, and recently returned to it. We found a lovely liberal leaning UMC church. I havenāt been baptized but DS2 and I are both about to be. Awesome, I've never been baptized either but it's something I'm looking into for this spring or summer in light of my new reconciliation with God. I this point I feel like this is just more of God's plan that I haven't been baptized yet, maybe it's something that will help me along my way now that I'm back on track.
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Post by Kida on Mar 11, 2020 11:23:47 GMT -6
Kida I had mentioned that my kids are in the Catholic system, but here where I am in Canada it is publicly funded so the difference between public and Catholic schools are specifically that faith is part of the teachings, whereas the fees, class sizes, teacher quality etc are generally the same. I really want dd to have faith in her background, I think the little bit that I experienced in my younger years is what planted the seed for me to grow at this point in my life. I wish I had had more, maybe I wouldn't have made some of the choices I've made lol. I don't want to shove it down her throat, more have it for her to have the info and to later on make the decision for herself.
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Post by hawkward on Mar 11, 2020 11:30:10 GMT -6
Hello! Iām Methodist. H and I were raised in the same church growing up, left it at the same time (as teens) for a whole host of reasons, and recently returned to it. We found a lovely liberal leaning UMC church. I havenāt been baptized but DS2 and I are both about to be. Awesome, I've never been baptized either but it's something I'm looking into for this spring or summer in light of my new reconciliation with God. I this point I feel like this is just more of God's plan that I haven't been baptized yet, maybe it's something that will help me along my way now that I'm back on track. Thatās kind of how I feel too! My older siblings were all baptized but my mom said for some reason she felt like I wasnāt supposed to be baptized in that church. The minister who married my parents also married H and me and baptized DS1. He was such a sick baby we felt this big urgency to do it and actually flew back to IA from England to do it, but I didnāt feel like it was right for DS2 for some reason. I told our current minister DS2 and I needed baptized and asked if he would do it privately because being a military family, it always feels weird to ask for support from a church knowing weāll move away all the time. He asked me to please do it with the congregation because it means a lot to them to do it for their military families. He said they feel like theyāre sending families out into the world with blessings and love, and it was a big āOH this is where weāre supposed to be right nowā moment. Iām going to be so sad when we leave them next year.
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Post by Kida on Mar 11, 2020 11:35:49 GMT -6
Awesome, I've never been baptized either but it's something I'm looking into for this spring or summer in light of my new reconciliation with God. I this point I feel like this is just more of God's plan that I haven't been baptized yet, maybe it's something that will help me along my way now that I'm back on track. Thatās kind of how I feel too! My older siblings were all baptized but my mom said for some reason she felt like I wasnāt supposed to be baptized in that church. The minister who married my parents also married H and me and baptized DS1. He was such a sick baby we felt this big urgency to do it and actually flew back to IA from England to do it, but I didnāt feel like it was right for DS2 for some reason. I told our current minister DS2 and I needed baptized and asked if he would do it privately because being a military family, it always feels weird to ask for support from a church knowing weāll move away all the time. He asked me to please do it with the congregation because it means a lot to them to do it for their military families. He said they feel like theyāre sending families out into the world with blessings and love, and it was a big āOH this is where weāre supposed to be right nowā moment. Iām going to be so sad when we leave them next year. I love this! That is def where you guys are supposed to be!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2020 12:08:56 GMT -6
Awesome, I've never been baptized either but it's something I'm looking into for this spring or summer in light of my new reconciliation with God. I this point I feel like this is just more of God's plan that I haven't been baptized yet, maybe it's something that will help me along my way now that I'm back on track. Thatās kind of how I feel too! My older siblings were all baptized but my mom said for some reason she felt like I wasnāt supposed to be baptized in that church. The minister who married my parents also married H and me and baptized DS1. He was such a sick baby we felt this big urgency to do it and actually flew back to IA from England to do it, but I didnāt feel like it was right for DS2 for some reason. I told our current minister DS2 and I needed baptized and asked if he would do it privately because being a military family, it always feels weird to ask for support from a church knowing weāll move away all the time. He asked me to please do it with the congregation because it means a lot to them to do it for their military families. He said they feel like theyāre sending families out into the world with blessings and love, and it was a big āOH this is where weāre supposed to be right nowā moment. Iām going to be so sad when we leave them next year. I love this. FTR my church is mostly military families (we are adjacent to a USMC base) and very transient and I have never once thought about the fact that the family may leave soon. If anything it makes us feel closer to them while they are here. My son was just baptized a few weeks ago and it was with water our Pastor had brought back from the Jordan River (he'd been there a couple of weeks prior), which was an awesome touch!
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Post by spicysalmonroll on Mar 11, 2020 12:25:09 GMT -6
Kida, my parents and I are agnostic but they sent me to Catholic school from grades 4-7 just because it was better academically than our public school at the time. I really liked it. When I was in public school K-3 there was distinct bullying happening even that young. Like I actually remember showing up at the new school and asking my friend (from town soccer) "So who is the smelly kid that we don't like?" and she was like "WHAT?" There was none, everyone in the small classes were friends with everyone and it was just a more positive environment. I also remember getting to the public high school and having better English, grammar, spelling skills than all my counterparts who had been at the public middle school. I doubt we will send DS only because our options are further away from home now but overall I liked going there, even not being Catholic.
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Post by notexactly on Mar 11, 2020 12:50:35 GMT -6
Fun fact: when I was a kid we had religion lessons on both Saturday and Sunday. We'd walk to the mosque every weekend and we would recite our prayers on the way there. Some of my best childhood memories are from that time as the girls I went to the mosque with became my closest friends. We learned all the basics of the religion and those of us who were good learners moved onto the more advanced topics and eventually learning the Arabic letters so that we could read the Qur'an. šāāļø I was one of the kids in that group and we ended up going to this religious competition. I can't remember what place we ended up being, but I know we got books out of it and some money. š
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Post by Nonniedee on Mar 11, 2020 13:18:08 GMT -6
Fun fact: when I was a kid we had religion lessons on both Saturday and Sunday. We'd walk to the mosque every weekend and we would recite our prayers on the way there. Some of my best childhood memories are from that time as the girls I went to the mosque with became my closest friends. We learned all the basics of the religion and those of us who were good learners moved onto the more advanced topics and eventually learning the Arabic letters so that we could read the Qur'an. šāāļø I was one of the kids in that group and we ended up going to this religious competition. I can't remember what place we ended up being, but I know we got books out of it and some money. š Have you seen the HBO doc Quran by heart? It's such a good watch.
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Post by wakemom on Mar 11, 2020 13:26:16 GMT -6
Hi! I posted on the other page first on accident. I was raised southern baptist and married a Pentecostal. Now we do non-denominational because we donāt feel we fit into either religion and want to keep it that way. We havenāt been practicing anything for a few years and are just now looking To get back into church because we both feel weāre missing that part of our lives.
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Post by sakura on Mar 11, 2020 19:36:12 GMT -6
Hi! I love a good religion chat! Iām Jewish, and we currently live in an area with almost no Jewish community, which is really hard for me. I desperately miss our old synagogue - I miss the services, I miss the celebrations, and I miss the community
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2020 19:38:05 GMT -6
I was raised Catholic, but no longer consider myself Catholic. I am more Agnostic, with some Catholic/Buddhism sprinkled in. I find all religions fascinating, though, so I may lurk all over the place. Hi, me! I went to a catholic school until I asked to switch in 5th grade. I honestly don't know if I ever felt connected to Catholicism even as a child though. I did like my priest a lot. I was baptized at the age of 7 and the eventually confirmed into the church. But after that I just stopped. I considered myself agnostic for the longest time. I waffle between agnostic and atheist still. I have lots of thoughts and feelings. If I had to pick a religion I'd lean towards pagan. I just can't come to terms to one almighty being at this point. Anyway. Hi, me lol.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2020 19:39:48 GMT -6
Kida, my parents and I are agnostic but they sent me to Catholic school from grades 4-7 just because it was better academically than our public school at the time. I really liked it. When I was in public school K-3 there was distinct bullying happening even that young. Like I actually remember showing up at the new school and asking my friend (from town soccer) "So who is the smelly kid that we don't like?" and she was like "WHAT?" There was none, everyone in the small classes were friends with everyone and it was just a more positive environment. I also remember getting to the public high school and having better English, grammar, spelling skills than all my counterparts who had been at the public middle school. I doubt we will send DS only because our options are further away from home now but overall I liked going there, even not being Catholic. I do not consider myself catholic at this point but I have strongly considered parochial school for DD. We have one here with an amazing education. The one I went to myswlf was not that good and we were behind. That school has since closed.
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Post by overboard on Mar 11, 2020 20:04:08 GMT -6
Hello! I was raised as a Jehovahās Witness. My great grandmother converted and the majority of my family are still in. Iām happy to answer any questions anyone has. Iām here because Iām interested in learning about other religions although I consider myself agnostic now.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 11, 2020 23:22:44 GMT -6
Hi! I am a born and raised Methodist. Inconsistent churchgoer, but I have a small group now that I feel really connected to and feel really drawn to scripture and worship these days.
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Post by teraiin on Mar 12, 2020 5:17:16 GMT -6
Christian, Protestant specifically.
Our church has been going through some upheavels in the last few years and itās made things hard.
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Post by Kida on Mar 12, 2020 5:19:38 GMT -6
Hi! I am a born and raised Methodist. Inconsistent churchgoer, but I have a small group now that I feel really connected to and feel really drawn to scripture and worship these days. Same! I'd love to hear verses and passages that resonate with you. I'm kind of doing my own little bible study that I've put together from pinterest lol plus actually reading the word, I'd love to chat and discuss with you.
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Post by beepers on Mar 12, 2020 5:55:10 GMT -6
Hi! šš» Iām a Christian and have grown up in non-denominational church Kida we put DS into preK at a local Christian private school at the last minute back in the fall after we had some reservations with the PreK he was going to attend (some grown up topics with no grown up input or discussion) We have been so happy. His class is small, he is thriving. I love that he comes home talking about Chapel or his new bible verse and we can carry on that topic at home. We have a great public elementary school here but we are keeping him at his private school for K next year. He has just done SO well. To us it is worth it.
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Post by willow on Mar 12, 2020 6:07:12 GMT -6
I considered myself non-denominational Christian at this point. I was raised Lutheran-lite. I donāt currently attend a church.
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Post by poptarts on Mar 12, 2020 6:10:25 GMT -6
Hi! I was raised Christian-Presbyterian PC(USA) and my dad is a retired minister. My step-mom is also a Presbyterian minister. I havenāt practiced in a while, but I still have faith. I havenāt found a church that I like so that has to do with the non-practicing.
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Post by McBenny on Mar 12, 2020 6:12:05 GMT -6
Kida I had mentioned that my kids are in the Catholic system, but here where I am in Canada it is publicly funded so the difference between public and Catholic schools are specifically that faith is part of the teachings, whereas the fees, class sizes, teacher quality etc are generally the same. I really want dd to have faith in her background, I think the little bit that I experienced in my younger years is what planted the seed for me to grow at this point in my life. I wish I had had more, maybe I wouldn't have made some of the choices I've made lol. I don't want to shove it down her throat, more have it for her to have the info and to later on make the decision for herself. Check local churches and see what they have in place. It doesn't have to be classes. I know I was bringing DS to something. They met 2 times a month so not enough time to be considered faith formation. They played games and did all kinds of things but he was learning something every time.
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Post by overboard on Mar 12, 2020 8:06:35 GMT -6
Also-my husband grew up Buddhist and didnāt celebrate Christian holidays growing up. It was funny at first for us to try to figure out the way to do things and establish our own traditions. Now he is leaning back into Buddhist teachings. I need to read up on it. I only know basics.
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Post by kittyriot on Mar 12, 2020 18:31:07 GMT -6
I was raised in a large Irish-Catholic, and a large Portuguese-Catholic family. Grew up in the largest church in town, was a lay reader, usher, youth group member and then a choir member in my 20ās.
I left the church around the age of 25, when Canada was in the throes of legalizing same sex marriage, I couldnāt listen to another sermon from an non married man, explaining why a faith-filled household has a man who leads the way, and a woman to āturn the neckā.
Since having DD, and truly settling into myself, Iāve come to better understand my personal understanding of faith and Catholicism. Iām slowly making my way back to being a practicing Catholic. I love the solemnity, and the meditative solace that is Sunday mass.
I also watch H, who was baptized Anglican, and raised without church, and see how scared he is of the unknown. My faith, maybe irrationally, grounds me. But I donāt really care, it allows me to enjoy this life Iāve been given and drives me to find meaning in the work I do, the way I live, the way I parent.
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Post by olenka on Mar 13, 2020 9:30:57 GMT -6
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Post by mrsweasley on Mar 15, 2020 23:46:58 GMT -6
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My mom just gave me my 1st communion dress she made and I want to see if I can alter it to make it less 90s for DD next year š¬
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Post by kimwexler on Mar 16, 2020 7:42:27 GMT -6
Iām Catholic. I have a masterās degree in theology. I go to mass every week but I hate liturgical music so I tend to go to the earliest one so itās quiet. Thatās my time for myself. I go to confession every month (more if Iāve been on one) I have never struggled with my faith until the last 2-3 years where I have grown v. impatient with the preaching. I really check out if the homily is poor. I have a lot of feelings about the audacity of some priests and how they preach given the scandal we find ourselves in. Donāt lecture the congregation about sin. Itās not all of them but read the damn room. Thatās when I want to fight. 5 minutes on the readings and get to consecrating. If you canāt do that, Iām sitting in the front making a land the plane motion and I donāt care who sees me.
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Post by dc2london on Apr 9, 2020 7:17:32 GMT -6
Mind if I jump in? I forgot this board got started.
I was raised Anglican, baptized and confirmed. As a teenager I wanted to switch to a nearby Lutheran church bc a bunch of my friends went there. After awhile I felt that church was Hella judgmental and hemophobic and I pretty much stopped attending any church. My mother experienced a traumatic incident at the church I was raised in, and we were both pretty angry with the church in general for awhile.
After college, when H and I moved here, i found an Episcopal church i loved. H has gradually come to identify as atheist and in the chaos of having young kids I stopped attending religious services.
I'd like to find a new place of worship, especially for the fellowship and volunteerism. It's a tricky line to walk because my H has strong feelings against organized religion, and I respect that he doesn't want our kids forced into a faith the way he feels he was. But I also know he will be supportive of what I want and need for myself.
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Post by chocolatecake on Apr 9, 2020 9:56:53 GMT -6
dc2london I want to say sorry that youāre first experiences with organized religion have not been positive. Unfortunately, you are not alone, although Iām not trying to minimize whatever happened. Religion/faith can be tricky to navigate even in the best circumstances. I was raised in one faith and chose to go a different route while in adulthood. The more I learn about different religions & faiths the more I realize there is no one correct or right way. Itās all a very personal decision. Would your DH be open to visiting different places of worship/faiths with no strings attached? Church shopping so to speak? Maybe just being an observer and being able to talk talk /share thoughts afterwards. Iāve learned a lot about different religions by just being invited by a friend/coworker to join them in their worship. I think the process itself may present a opportunity for you and your family to get involved when you make the right connection that fits with your own personal views. Praying for you on this journey!
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Post by dc2london on Apr 9, 2020 10:12:10 GMT -6
dc2london I want to say sorry that youāre first experiences with organized religion have not been positive. Unfortunately, you are not alone, although Iām not trying to minimize whatever happened. Religion/faith can be tricky to navigate even in the best circumstances. I was raised in one faith and chose to go a different route while in adulthood. The more I learn about different religions & faiths the more I realize there is no one correct or right way. Itās all a very personal decision. Would your DH be open to visiting different places of worship/faiths with no strings attached? Church shopping so to speak? Maybe just being an observer and being able to talk talk /share thoughts afterwards. Iāve learned a lot about different religions by just being invited by a friend/coworker to join them in their worship. I think the process itself may present a opportunity for you and your family to get involved when you make the right connection that fits with your own personal views. Praying for you on this journey! Thank you I think he would be open to attending a UU church, which I would be fine with. I am old fashioned and really enjoy the rituals of the classic eucharistic, but I'm fine with branching out. It just not, for me, big on contemporary style services with rock bands and whatnot (truly just mean for my own self, not in any way knocking it for the many many people who love that). I think he would be fine if I were going to church on my own and the kids expressed an interest for themselves. He just doesn't want a parent-forced belief system that revolved around constant fear and shame (which is what he feels he grew up with). I actually give my parents a lot of credit in that they left a lot of it up to me. Confirmation was my choice. Trying out a different denomination was my choice. They said they hoped I would maintain a Christian faith but felt it would be more meaningful if I found it of my own volition.
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