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Post by sheilathetank on Dec 26, 2019 11:44:50 GMT -6
piratecat I find that changes in routine and overstimulation are what really trigger the meltdowns. The holidays are the worst for being a ginormous combo of both. DD was an fn monster yesterday morning and I ended up in tears because of it. So it's not just your kid, even though it may seem like it because the other kids around you are fine. Are you able to remove him to a quiet place and just hold/hug until he calms down? I've started doing the "tell me something you can see/touch/taste/feel/ smell" with DD when she gets really wound up. It has helped immensely with at least getting the tears to stop and for her brain to click from primal mode to verbally receptive mode. However i understand you're not always in a position to do all that. Especially when pressed for time or need to get something done, like I was in yesterday.
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Post by billyhorrible on Dec 26, 2019 16:17:35 GMT -6
lildiamondeyes thinking of you today, hope everything went incredibly smoothly. And you've got a couple days for your husband to get the croup under control while you're at the hospital right? Thinking good thoughts that it'll be over by the time you head home.
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Post by billyhorrible on Dec 26, 2019 16:19:15 GMT -6
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Post by billyhorrible on Dec 26, 2019 16:26:10 GMT -6
piratecat my kids are always a mess for Christmas at the inlaws. There's so much anticipation, change of routine, and for us, much less physical activity. We've found that they work better if we can sneak in some solo family playground time. They burn off some of that extra anxiety and energy, they can be as wild and crazy as they want, and seem more "normal" (whatever that means) after. We only discovered this last year and my oldest is 8, so we've had our fair share of misery. Also, even doing this we still have meltdowns.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Dec 26, 2019 21:09:01 GMT -6
billyhorrible, Haha, Dh is staying at the hospital with me. In-laws get to deal with the sickies. I should feel bad about that but I'm too exhausted right now.
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Post by billyhorrible on Dec 26, 2019 22:45:36 GMT -6
billyhorrible, Haha, Dh is staying at the hospital with me. In-laws get to deal with the sickies. I should feel bad about that but I'm too exhausted right now. Nothing to feel bad about! They're the best people to deal with it because they've got years of good sleep under their belt! They're rested and probably more patient and at the end... they get to go home to a quiet house!
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Post by gingy on Dec 27, 2019 8:38:13 GMT -6
Wrapping up week one of two of being home solo with DS. He refuses to play independently. Even all of the super fun activities I found on Busy Toddler. He loves them but abandons them if I stop actively participating. I can’t get anything done and it’s making me crazy. I can’t even wash my damn face without him clinging to the backs of my legs. I can’t wait for SD to get home on Sunday.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Dec 27, 2019 11:08:31 GMT -6
billyhorrible, Haha, Dh is staying at the hospital with me. In-laws get to deal with the sickies. I should feel bad about that but I'm too exhausted right now. Nothing to feel bad about! They're the best people to deal with it because they've got years of good sleep under their belt! They're rested and probably more patient and at the end... they get to go home to a quiet house! Haha we currently live with the inlaws... So no quiet time at their house, like ever.
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Post by billyhorrible on Dec 27, 2019 11:09:22 GMT -6
Wrapping up week one of two of being home solo with DS. He refuses to play independently. Even all of the super fun activities I found on Busy Toddler. He loves them but abandons them if I stop actively participating. I can’t get anything done and it’s making me crazy. I can’t even wash my damn face without him clinging to the backs of my legs. I can’t wait for SD to get home on Sunday. This is and has always been my oldest. We joked that the reason we had another kid was so we could have another person to sit with him and give us a break.
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Post by gingy on Dec 27, 2019 11:16:56 GMT -6
Wrapping up week one of two of being home solo with DS. He refuses to play independently. Even all of the super fun activities I found on Busy Toddler. He loves them but abandons them if I stop actively participating. I can’t get anything done and it’s making me crazy. I can’t even wash my damn face without him clinging to the backs of my legs. I can’t wait for SD to get home on Sunday. This is and has always been my oldest. We joked that the reason we had another kid was so we could have another person to sit with him and give us a break. I have actually recently mentioned this to DH. We’re pretty firmly done, but I envy my friends with kids close in age who play together.
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Post by sheilathetank on Dec 27, 2019 13:24:38 GMT -6
Nothing to feel bad about! They're the best people to deal with it because they've got years of good sleep under their belt! They're rested and probably more patient and at the end... they get to go home to a quiet house! Haha we currently live with the inlaws... So no quiet time at their house, like ever. I hope everything went well and you are enjoying new squish cuddles!
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Post by ttcbabyj on Dec 27, 2019 16:51:13 GMT -6
Potty training is not going well. She is flat out refusing and tell me to “go away” when I ask her about it. 🤦🏽♀️
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