A milestone

[longhornwino]

We passed the one year anniversary of losing Cate on June 22. H and I both took the afternoon off from work, took O to her 9-month checkup, and then celebrated C with dinner at one of our favorite places. The anticipation of the day was worse than the actual day itself.

Something I noticed, though, that rubbed me wrong was that neither of our sets of parents made mention of the day. Seeing as how they both sat at our house while we had the procedure, they knew it was that day. They mentioned the next day that they knew it was a "hard week for us," but that was it. I thought they might at least send a card or some flowers or something. But no. I guess everyone else's world gets to keep spinning effortlessly while H and Iwork hard to keep ours going day in and day out.

Sorry I'm so spotty on here. Work is draining the life out of me. I need to find a way out of here and into advocacy work ASAP.

[jrun2013]

I'm sorry your parents didn't acknowledge today. I think my parents (and anybody else for that matter) doesn't know how to talk to me about losing my baby. I think it's such a huge loss that they don't want to bring it up for fear of upsetting me, which is absurd because my daughter is always on my mind. Anyway, I say all this to say that I could see my parents doing the same thing. Not because they don't care, but because they don't know how.

((((Hugs)))) everything about this is so hard.

[LED]

I'm sorry no one acknowledged it. It's so hard to feel like our babies aren't remembered. *Hugs*

[fikafairy]

((Hugs)) to you. It sounds like a lovely way to remember C.

[longhornwino]

Thanks everyone <3

[peaseblossom55]

I'm so sorry, it can be so upsetting when the loss milestone is not acknowledged.

[rslh10]

I'm late to the game, but I'm so sorry it wasn't acknowledged the way it should have been. ((Hugs)) momma. I hope you were able to have a healing day remembering her. Xoxo.