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Post by king26 on Oct 14, 2019 9:37:57 GMT -6
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Post by king26 on Oct 14, 2019 9:41:15 GMT -6
I feel so out of the loop! Work and life are kicking my butt.
J is really testing limits and struggling with speech. He is hitting and throwing toys all the time. We are doing time outs but not sure they re working. He doesnt say much so now he grabs our hand and pulls us where he wants us. I hate that his speech isnt coming and that he isnt getting services.
Otherwise we made it to church yesterday and he did well. Hes doing wrll in daycare and seems to like it.
Hes just wearing me out these days...anyone else?
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 15, 2019 10:27:08 GMT -6
king26, sorry for the speech struggles. Remind me what the situation was again, did he get evaluated and just didn't qualify? YES, this kid kills me daily. I'm wiped. I feel your pain, hang in there!
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Post by king26 on Oct 15, 2019 10:47:45 GMT -6
king26, sorry for the speech struggles. Remind me what the situation was again, did he get evaluated and just didn't qualify? YES, this kid kills me daily. I'm wiped. I feel your pain, hang in there! Yes tested but did not qualofy for a 25% delay. Theres a place in town that will still service him so we might go there. The speech therapist at school has been giving me some pointers but so far its not helping. |
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 15, 2019 11:22:52 GMT -6
king26, sorry for the speech struggles. Remind me what the situation was again, did he get evaluated and just didn't qualify? YES, this kid kills me daily. I'm wiped. I feel your pain, hang in there! Yes tested but did not qualofy for a 25% delay. Theres a place in town that will still service him so we might go there. The speech therapist at school has been giving me some pointers but so far its not helping. That’s so frustrating, I’m sorry. I would probably try the place in town as it definitely can’t hurt and would only benefit him. |
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Post by addymac on Oct 15, 2019 16:12:40 GMT -6
Welp N is better from the fever but still has a random cough. I had to hide the iPads yesterday bc he had full meltdowns if I tried to feed him without them so bye bye iPads! Minimum a week. I even had to delete the YouTube app off my phone just in case. Oh well.
I also emailed a few sleep consultants because I am at the end of my rope. I don’t even care if I have to work a bunch of OT to afford it. My body mentally and physically needs this shit to stop.
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Post by addymac on Oct 15, 2019 16:16:34 GMT -6
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Post by king26 on Oct 15, 2019 16:39:33 GMT -6
Welp N is better from the fever but still has a random cough. I had to hide the iPads yesterday bc he had full meltdowns if I tried to feed him without them so bye bye iPads! Minimum a week. I even had to delete the YouTube app off my phone just in case. Oh well. I also emailed a few sleep consultants because I am at the end of my rope. I don’t even care if I have to work a bunch of OT to afford it. My body mentally and physically needs this shit to stop. Im so sorry sleep is still shit. We have our time every few months where j has a week or 2 of shit sleep and it sucks and as you know he didnt sttn until 18 months so I feel you. I hope the sleep consultant can help! |
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Post by king26 on Oct 15, 2019 16:41:12 GMT -6
We have that book...i think you recommended it and he loves it. He will point to objects when i name them but wint say the word. I might try those cards....i actually think i have something similar in my classroom..duh. sometimes im dumb but i havent taught prek in a while! |
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Post by yellowcat on Oct 16, 2019 7:43:08 GMT -6
I hear you on sleep. J is much better in his own bed but still had at least one wake up. He is going for a sleep study in December. |
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Post by addymac on Oct 16, 2019 7:49:21 GMT -6
yellowcat Sleep study? How/ why did you get this to happen?
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Post by addymac on Oct 16, 2019 10:35:23 GMT -6
Do you guys have your kids in things like music class etc?
We have N in a music class and he will not. Sit. Still. He just wants to go into the other play space and play with the trains or cars or whatever. It’s so frustrating.
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Post by king26 on Oct 16, 2019 10:43:32 GMT -6
Do you guys have your kids in things like music class etc? We have N in a music class and he will not. Sit. Still. He just wants to go into the other play space and play with the trains or cars or whatever. It’s so frustrating. J does toddler time at the library every week. He sits for like 5 minutes with DH then he is up roaming and trying to get the trains. At daycare they have circle time and same deal he sits or stands at the edge of the carpet for 5 minutes then hes off doing his own thing. |
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 16, 2019 10:51:16 GMT -6
Do you guys have your kids in things like music class etc? We have N in a music class and he will not. Sit. Still. He just wants to go into the other play space and play with the trains or cars or whatever. It’s so frustrating. Nope, this kid would be a disaster 🤣 I figure she plays with D1 or her cousins enough right now. She also is a maniac and would never sit still sooooo maybe someday? Lol |
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Post by addymac on Oct 16, 2019 11:24:03 GMT -6
Oh this makes me feel better lol
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Post by pennylane on Oct 16, 2019 13:01:53 GMT -6
addymac Haha, no, to taking this honey badger toddler to a music class or even Storytime. We’re going to try gymnastics but she pretty much thinks she can do what she wants so I don’t know how it’ll go. I’ve tried letting her play in the kids area at the library but she just runs laps through the shelves screeching with glee.
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Post by king26 on Oct 16, 2019 13:15:50 GMT -6
Im glad all of our kids are nuts. Sometimes I think, Am I that parent that I talk about at work because my kid just does whatever he wants? Its so hard to keep him sitting for more than a few minutes unless he is doing something he wants to do.
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Post by yellowcat on Oct 17, 2019 18:24:12 GMT -6
yellowcat Sleep study? How/ why did you get this to happen? We took him to an ent and they suggested that he might have sleep apnea and that is why he wakes suddenly in the night. He is on flonez for allergies which has helped. |
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Post by addymac on Oct 17, 2019 20:10:46 GMT -6
yellowcat Sleep study? How/ why did you get this to happen? We took him to an ent and they suggested that he might have sleep apnea and that is why he wakes suddenly in the night. He is on flonez for allergies which has helped. How did you end up at the ENT? |
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Post by addymac on Oct 17, 2019 20:17:58 GMT -6
Ns sleep is killing me, guys.
His latest thing is waking up between 12:30-3am and just being inconsolable and scream crying for about an hour, no matter what we do. Bring him into our bed, scream cries. Living room, SC. His room, SC. Give him water , ive even warmed milk up in the past, walked around with him. He doesn’t want me to touch him but he doesn’t want me to leave. He doesn’t want to lay down he doesn’t want to sit. It’s just screaming nonstop. For a good hour. Sometimes he’ll slow down the crying if I just talk to him but literally have to talk nonstop and if I stop he gets upset and my throat is killing me bc I’m sick and it’s not sustainable at 2am. But he always starts up again and then it’s another half hour to hour. I tell him I will do what he wants but he can’t cry or scream so he stops for a minute but then starts again. I try setting boundaries like you need to stop crying or mommy won’t help you but nothing helps.
Last night I ended up carrying him into his room and shutting the door and running down the hall and shutting and locking my door because he came running after me. And then DH was able to talk to him through the door to calm down and stop screaming and go back to his room and then DH went and laid down with him. But that was after an hour of him screaming in our faces.
I’m truly at a loss and I’m so sick right now I have even less patience.
I’m also trying to figure out if this lexapro is Helping and I can’t decide. I don’t think it is but it’s only been two weeks so I don’t want to say no and increase my dose and then be overdosed. But my pcp is leaving the practice in a week so we are trying to figure it out quickly.
Sigh.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 17, 2019 20:35:42 GMT -6
I’m so sorry addymac, not going to lie, that sounds unbearable 😞. Initially I was going to say maybe night terrors but the fact that he will stop if you are talking nonstop doesn’t make sense it would be that. How is he during the day? Does he seem super cranky from lack of sleep? I wonder if the nighttime thing is being in a perpetual cycle of overtired or just habit. I swear M is trying to drop napping and MH is not pushing it when he is home with her and I.just.cant deal with a 2 year old dropping naps all together like wtf. Why don’t these kids want to sleep?!!! She doesn’t even seem that tired or cranky and still goes to bed at like 9:00 ugh! So maybe they are just in some weird phase right now but man I know how bad it sucks when you are sick and your kid is being a dick. Have you made any progress with the sleep consultants? At least it sounds like YH is somewhat helpful with the sleep woes. Mine is basically the worst with that so of course even if he actually did help, she wants nothing to do with him because it’s always been me lol. I’m rambling but I really feel for you and hope things turn around soon. Lack of sleep is no joke and truly the worst. Big hugs ❤️ ETA: I would say give it more time with the Lexapro, I feel like i have heard it can take longer, like 4-6 weeks to really know if it’s working. I’m sure with the sleep stuff and being sick is adding to it all too. |
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Post by yellowcat on Oct 18, 2019 7:17:43 GMT -6
We took him to an ent and they suggested that he might have sleep apnea and that is why he wakes suddenly in the night. He is on flonez for allergies which has helped. How did you end up at the ENT? We had him evaluated and they said he wasn't technically delayed but suggested he might have hearing issues. The ENT said he had bad allergies which could have been interfering with speech and sleep. The nasal spray has helped and most of his inflammation is gone but he still wakes crying at least once a night. |
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Post by yellowcat on Oct 18, 2019 7:18:44 GMT -6
addymac J used to do that and always had an ear infection when it happened.
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Post by king26 on Oct 18, 2019 10:42:16 GMT -6
We go to weekly play groups at the head start program. No one sits much, DD would scale walls if she could. I love that it’s a mixed group of typical kids and kids with special needs. Learn to interact and respect everyone. Plus new mom friends. I love calling a kid a honey badger, that’s hilarious and accurate. We go to the ymca and the infants and toddler playgroups once or twice a mo th too |
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Post by king26 on Oct 18, 2019 10:44:36 GMT -6
Ns sleep is killing me, guys. His latest thing is waking up between 12:30-3am and just being inconsolable and scream crying for about an hour, no matter what we do. Bring him into our bed, scream cries. Living room, SC. His room, SC. Give him water , ive even warmed milk up in the past, walked around with him. He doesn’t want me to touch him but he doesn’t want me to leave. He doesn’t want to lay down he doesn’t want to sit. It’s just screaming nonstop. For a good hour. Sometimes he’ll slow down the crying if I just talk to him but literally have to talk nonstop and if I stop he gets upset and my throat is killing me bc I’m sick and it’s not sustainable at 2am. But he always starts up again and then it’s another half hour to hour. I tell him I will do what he wants but he can’t cry or scream so he stops for a minute but then starts again. I try setting boundaries like you need to stop crying or mommy won’t help you but nothing helps. Last night I ended up carrying him into his room and shutting the door and running down the hall and shutting and locking my door because he came running after me. And then DH was able to talk to him through the door to calm down and stop screaming and go back to his room and then DH went and laid down with him. But that was after an hour of him screaming in our faces. I’m truly at a loss and I’m so sick right now I have even less patience. I’m also trying to figure out if this lexapro is Helping and I can’t decide. I don’t think it is but it’s only been two weeks so I don’t want to say no and increase my dose and then be overdosed. But my pcp is leaving the practice in a week so we are trying to figure it out quickly. Sigh. I so sorry. That sounds horrible. I think you need to call the pedi immediately and explain what is going on. Maybe they can refer him somewhere. Thats not good for you, dh, or N. Something is obviously not right. Im so sorry this is happening, it sounds rough |
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Post by addymac on Oct 18, 2019 10:49:29 GMT -6
Last night he got up and came into our bed and went back to sleep pretty quickly. Ok no big deal. Then I was awake bc I’m sick and sleeping like shit when my cold meds wear off and he started flailing and screaming and then he woke up scream crying. I think he’s having nightmares or night terrors maybe? Idk. I’m messaging the dr today so we will see but it’s Friday so I doubt we will hear much.
We have antibiotics on hold for an ear infection. I may start giving it to him to see if it helps and if it resolves then maybe it was an ear infection. Idk man.
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Post by king26 on Oct 18, 2019 12:34:48 GMT -6
jt2378 j hasnt napped the last 2 days qhich sucks. However, he plays quietly in his crib for that hour and goes to bed at 730 which is nice but we are not giving up. Dh said he went down today without a fight
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Post by addymac on Oct 18, 2019 17:27:15 GMT -6
Oh my. I can’t imagine a life with no naps 😭
His pediatrician is referring us to a sleep specialist. I’m so glad but also sad bc I know it will take time to fix so it’s going to be weeks of more shit sleep.
I’m debating canceling my trip to Florida to just stay home and chill. - Ben and Noah are going to my MILs on a Wednesday - Wednesday. I booked a flight to join them for a long weekend since I work part of it. I looked at flights to cut it shorter to give myself more me time but the cost is outrageous so I’m debating just canceling and not going at all. But I know I’m going to miss them. And I still have a couple nights to myself so I’m also like it’s fine. Idk we will see haha
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 19, 2019 4:00:42 GMT -6
Awww addymac, that sounds so awful. Hope you can get some rest soon. If it helps at all, ds1 went through a stage where he would get crazy tantrums, sometimes after waking up at night. There would be no stopping them. He would scream and scream and not want to be held and run away if I tried and scream that he wanted me and then push me away when I walked over. There was really nothing to do after the tantrum started other than wait, try to comfort him, and wait for it to pass. We found it was triggered partly by being overtired or by not getting what he wanted in the middle of the night (dh responding to him instead of me). He aged out of them. He's five in November and has them maybe once a month now. I know that's a long time to wait, but there is light at the end of the tunnel if it's something similar. It is scary though!! We thought there might be something seriously wrong. So demoralizing when your kid is screaming and you are helpless to help. I think you should stay if you are still sick with a cold so you can get the needed rest to recover. |
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Post by addymac on Oct 19, 2019 11:24:56 GMT -6
Guys! We had a night of no screaming!! Of course he insisted on going to bed in our bed and he did wake up a few times and would cry out “mama mama” but I’d just shush him and kiss him and he’d fall back asleep 🙌🏽 Most restful night sleep I’ve had in god knows how long!!
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