It's Already October 🎃

[piratecat]

Oct 21, 2019 11:42:06 GMT -6 Lakes said:

Oct 21, 2019 11:01:04 GMT -6 piratecat said:

I'm trying to think what I would say to a stranger about their child's eye. I guess probably, did you know that your child's eye is red? Or, is your child a demon? 

What’s wrong with her eye? Has she been poking her eye?

I think people tend to do a double take and look closer at her anyway because she’s a tiny peanut of two year old in bright red glasses. I usually don’t mind the constant comments and questions about her glasses and how did we know she needed them etc but I thought pointing out her red eye like I wasn’t aware was a bit much.

FWIW I think tiny kids with glasses look adorable.

[piratecat]

I'm always tempted to play dumb and dramatic. WHAT? What's wrong with her eye?! SHIT, WE GOTTA GO. But I don't.

[Lakes]

Oct 21, 2019 11:55:50 GMT -6 piratecat said:

I'm always tempted to play dumb and dramatic. WHAT? What's wrong with her eye?! SHIT, WE GOTTA GO. But I don't.

Guess I know how I’m reacting when we go out tomorrow! I did make a couple toddler fight club jokes last year when she had eyebrow stitches 😂

[piratecat]

I am FINALLY going to get together with another family from daycare. We haven't picked a date yet but we are one step closer.

I also met another family from our town at the playground that I would love to be friends with but failed to close the deal and get her number, ugh. It's as if I'm out dating and trying to pick up guys, which I haven't done, well ever. I really hope I run into them again, maybe at the library story time once it starts back up in the winter.

[addymac]

Oct 21, 2019 12:24:34 GMT -6 piratecat said:

I am FINALLY going to get together with another family from daycare. We haven't picked a date yet but we are one step closer.

I also met another family from our town at the playground that I would love to be friends with but failed to close the deal and get her number, ugh. It's as if I'm out dating and trying to pick up guys, which I haven't done, well ever. I really hope I run into them again, maybe at the library story time once it starts back up in the winter.

OMG this was me last week. Met a mom and her two kids at the playground. N and them played together. she was totally chill with N knocking over her 1yo b/c her 3yo does it all the time, so I didn't feel AS TERRIBLE as I normally would (still mortified though), and she lives down the street. I was like F me. Why couldn't I just say SOMETHING to exchange numbers.

Then again, last mom I did that with ended up being really into Amway MLM and they SENT THEIR CHILD AWAY FOR A MONTH (to grandparents house) SO THEY CAN ATTEND SEMINARS AROUND THE COUNTRY FOR THEIR WEIRD ASS MLM. like WHAAT. 

[piratecat]

Oct 21, 2019 16:14:28 GMT -6 addymac said:

Oct 21, 2019 12:24:34 GMT -6 piratecat said:

I am FINALLY going to get together with another family from daycare. We haven't picked a date yet but we are one step closer.

I also met another family from our town at the playground that I would love to be friends with but failed to close the deal and get her number, ugh. It's as if I'm out dating and trying to pick up guys, which I haven't done, well ever. I really hope I run into them again, maybe at the library story time once it starts back up in the winter.

OMG this was me last week. Met a mom and her two kids at the playground. N and them played together. she was totally chill with N knocking over her 1yo b/c her 3yo does it all the time, so I didn't feel AS TERRIBLE as I normally would (still mortified though), and she lives down the street. I was like F me. Why couldn't I just say SOMETHING to exchange numbers.

Then again, last mom I did that with ended up being really into Amway MLM and they SENT THEIR CHILD AWAY FOR A MONTH (to grandparents house) SO THEY CAN ATTEND SEMINARS AROUND THE COUNTRY FOR THEIR WEIRD ASS MLM. like WHAAT. 

Hahah you win some, you lose some, I guess. Ugh, we should both do it! Do you have a good pick up line? 😅

[tgrimes]

Oct 21, 2019 22:01:11 GMT -6 @starzia said:

Oct 21, 2019 16:14:28 GMT -6 addymac said:

OMG this was me last week. Met a mom and her two kids at the playground. N and them played together. she was totally chill with N knocking over her 1yo b/c her 3yo does it all the time, so I didn't feel AS TERRIBLE as I normally would (still mortified though), and she lives down the street. I was like F me. Why couldn't I just say SOMETHING to exchange numbers.

Then again, last mom I did that with ended up being really into Amway MLM and they SENT THEIR CHILD AWAY FOR A MONTH (to grandparents house) SO THEY CAN ATTEND SEMINARS AROUND THE COUNTRY FOR THEIR WEIRD ASS MLM. like WHAAT. 

😮 wow. And I felt bad for going away for 3 days to a work conference last fall and going away for 2 days this weekendBasically a year later.

I’ve met two moms who SAH who made it a point to tell me how proud they are that the kid has never been watched by anyone ever. Like never not with a parent. That seems unhealthy in another direction.

Balance people. Balance.

I don't feel like that's something to brag about, lol.

[piratecat]

Oct 22, 2019 19:33:54 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Sometimes I wonder if I was meant to be a mom. Not in a depressed way, but just that I get touched out *really* easily and deeply enjoy my alone time/time alone with H. I love my daughter and I enjoy spending time with her too, but it doesn't...I don't know, fuel me or whatever I see happen with other people (even H).

I figure a lot of that is pretty normal. I’ll hide out every chance I get, even if my kid isn’t being particularly difficult. Our kids are still relatively young and it’s an enormous lifestyle change, to have a new housemate that needs you at all times. Especially with your kid always preferring you over your husband I’m sure it gets exhausting fast.

[piratecat]

Oct 22, 2019 19:48:22 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Oct 22, 2019 19:45:29 GMT -6 piratecat said:

I figure a lot of that is pretty normal. I’ll hide out every chance I get, even if my kid isn’t being particularly difficult. Our kids are still relatively young and it’s an enormous lifestyle change, to have a new housemate that needs you at all times. Especially with your kid always preferring you over your husband I’m sure it gets exhausting fast.

This is a good point. My daughter gives my husband so very little to work with, he probably is eager to absorb all he can. He's also much more extroverted than I am. My toddler is too. I can't wait till she loves him more and they can go out and be around people while I hide somewhere with my kindle. 

If it makes you feel better, I went to pick up my kid yesterday and saw that he was having a fine time putting toys away, and the moment he saw me he dropped the toy, and melted face down onto the floor, so sad to see his mother had come to pick him up instead of his dad. 

[Lakes]

Oct 22, 2019 20:35:05 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Oct 22, 2019 20:09:47 GMT -6 piratecat said:

If it makes you feel better, I went to pick up my kid yesterday and saw that he was having a fine time putting toys away, and the moment he saw me he dropped the toy, and melted face down onto the floor, so sad to see his mother had come to pick him up instead of his dad. 

This has definitely happened to my husband. Kids are ice cold, man.

Ds had a meltdown this morning because his dad wiped his butt and he wanted me to do it. Butt wiping is not how you show your love, kid. Just let me chug my theraflu in peace.

[sheilathetank]

Oct 22, 2019 19:33:54 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Sometimes I wonder if I was meant to be a mom. Not in a depressed way, but just that I get touched out *really* easily and deeply enjoy my alone time/time alone with H. I love my daughter and I enjoy spending time with her too, but it doesn't...I don't know, fuel me or whatever I see happen with other people (even H).

The other night DD came into our room at 2am because her nose was stuffy and it woke her up. Before I could even respond, she laid down on top of me and I burst into tears because she's ALWAYS* touching me, or sitting on me, or leaning on me and OMFG I can't. And the worst part is that I only see her like 4 hours a day so I should be able to do it and I just can't. I can't.

So I get it. I really do. It's a huge reason why I'm very wtf to myself about having another.

*except in a parking lot. For some reason you think I was trying to murder her because she had to o hold my hand in the parking lot?!!

[Lakes]

Oct 22, 2019 19:33:54 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Sometimes I wonder if I was meant to be a mom. Not in a depressed way, but just that I get touched out *really* easily and deeply enjoy my alone time/time alone with H. I love my daughter and I enjoy spending time with her too, but it doesn't...I don't know, fuel me or whatever I see happen with other people (even H).

Or feeling like you have parent imposter syndrome. People will be like “you’re doing an amazing job! It’s so great that you’re exposing them to xyz and giving them this experience.” And I’m over here thinking “I didn’t do it for them. I did it for my sanity.”

[piratecat]

My little kid is moving upstairs to the preschool room today. He was supposed to transition slowly this week but he loves it there. I really like the teachers, so much more than his previous ones downstairs, and I think it'll be really good for him. It will also be really hard to move him to my dream preschool which I was hoping he would get into by 3, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

[jt2378]

Oct 23, 2019 5:38:17 GMT -6 sheilathetank said:

Oct 22, 2019 19:33:54 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Sometimes I wonder if I was meant to be a mom. Not in a depressed way, but just that I get touched out *really* easily and deeply enjoy my alone time/time alone with H. I love my daughter and I enjoy spending time with her too, but it doesn't...I don't know, fuel me or whatever I see happen with other people (even H).

The other night DD came into our room at 2am because her nose was stuffy and it woke her up. Before I could even respond, she laid down on top of me and I burst into tears because she's ALWAYS* touching me, or sitting on me, or leaning on me and OMFG I can't. And the worst part is that I only see her like 4 hours a day so I should be able to do it and I just can't. I can't.

So I get it. I really do. It's a huge reason why I'm very wtf to myself about having another.

*except in a parking lot. For some reason you think I was trying to murder her because she had to o hold my hand in the parking lot?!!

OMFG, hello me. D2 is a GD honey badger and legit makes me want to crawl out of my skin and run away sometimes! I also have realized I have been barking at both of them because I'm so burnt out and need someone to not need me for 5 minutes a day. Woof

[jt2378]

@icedtea, How is PT going?

[gingy]

Oct 23, 2019 7:13:16 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

Oct 23, 2019 5:38:17 GMT -6 sheilathetank said:

The other night DD came into our room at 2am because her nose was stuffy and it woke her up. Before I could even respond, she laid down on top of me and I burst into tears because she's ALWAYS* touching me, or sitting on me, or leaning on me and OMFG I can't. And the worst part is that I only see her like 4 hours a day so I should be able to do it and I just can't. I can't.

So I get it. I really do. It's a huge reason why I'm very wtf to myself about having another.

*except in a parking lot. For some reason you think I was trying to murder her because she had to o hold my hand in the parking lot?!!

OMFG, hello me. D2 is a GD honey badger and legit makes me want to crawl out of my skin and run away sometimes! I also have realized I have been barking at both of them because I'm so burnt out and need someone to not need me for 5 minutes a day. Woof

SAME. DS just goes non-stop and wants me and only me. I had a CTJ with DH the other day about him actively helping me pry DS away so I can get things done without him in my literal face the whole time. 

But then I flip to the other side of the coin where I feel so guilty for not spending every waking second with him since we're already apart 10 hours a day. UGH MOM LIFE. 

[gingy]

Dance classes were cancelled Monday, so they let us come last night to the mom-and-me class for 18-24mos. He loved every second of it. The first half was basic tumbling, and he just got his whole life. So we're switching to Tuesdays! The teacher said it will evolve over the year to set him up perfectly for the ballet class we were originally attempting.

[sheilathetank]

Oct 23, 2019 7:57:41 GMT -6 gingy said:

Dance classes were cancelled Monday, so they let us come last night to the mom-and-me class for 18-24mos. He loved every second of it. The first half was basic tumbling, and he just got his whole life. So we're switching to Tuesdays! The teacher said it will evolve over the year to set him up perfectly for the ballet class we were originally attempting.

That is fantastic! What a great turn of events. I'm so glad you found the right for him!

[piratecat]

Oct 23, 2019 7:45:10 GMT -6 @icedtea said:

Oct 23, 2019 7:13:28 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

@icedtea , How is PT going?

Going well! Had my second visit yesterday and I was able to do hold positions longer and with fewer symptoms. My homework now is to get an I Spy or Where's Waldo book and use it lol. 

I start speech therapy next week

My toddler loves Where's Waldo so maybe you and your kiddo can do them together!

[jt2378]

Oct 23, 2019 7:55:50 GMT -6 gingy said:

Oct 23, 2019 7:13:16 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

OMFG, hello me. D2 is a GD honey badger and legit makes me want to crawl out of my skin and run away sometimes! I also have realized I have been barking at both of them because I'm so burnt out and need someone to not need me for 5 minutes a day. Woof

SAME. DS just goes non-stop and wants me and only me. I had a CTJ with DH the other day about him actively helping me pry DS away so I can get things done without him in my literal face the whole time. 

But then I flip to the other side of the coin where I feel so guilty for not spending every waking second with him since we're already apart 10 hours a day. UGH MOM LIFE. 

I also have CTJ's with MH and they end up doing jack shit! I hope it works for you.

Don't feel guilty, i have people telling me and MH how lucky we are that we get to spend so much time with the kids since we alternate our schedules and are home with them and I'm like:



So then it is the guilt of me feeling that way about being with them so much and feeling....not that lucky

[Lakes]

Oct 24, 2019 10:54:29 GMT -6 @starzia said:

Oct 23, 2019 5:57:07 GMT -6 Lakes said:

Or feeling like you have parent imposter syndrome. People will be like “you’re doing an amazing job! It’s so great that you’re exposing them to xyz and giving them this experience.” And I’m over here thinking “I didn’t do it for them. I did it for my sanity.”

Yesssssss
I go to the playground all the time. Or on harder days. In the yard. She is so energetic and destructive and wild. Playground is the best channel for all of that.
People are like wow you bring her outside so much.
I would burnout inside all day with her.

Exactly! I do a lot of outside adventures with them and we go to our local arboretum once a week. Everyone is impressed they can hike so far and are little nature nerds. It just happens to be a wonderful byproduct of preserving my sanity. I require nature time for my mental health. I get to go birding and they get to play in the mud with sticks and run through leaves. I feel weird accepting the parenting kudos since it’s 99% for my own benefit.

[Lakes]

Dd’s post-op appointment went well and she was given the all clear! As an added bonus there was no $50 copay because it was surgery related. Next appointment is in two months.

The demon redness went away overnight. It was bizarre. Super red yesterday and today it’s just a light pink around the edges. Bodies are weird.

[sheilathetank]

DD's been peeing at school so she can show off her new change of clothes to her friends. She peed 3 times on Monday so she could have 3 outfit changes. I... I don't even know how the fuck to parent this one.

[piratecat]

Oct 29, 2019 10:57:26 GMT -6 sheilathetank said:

DD's been peeing at school so she can show off her new change of clothes to her friends. She peed 3 times on Monday so she could have 3 outfit changes. I... I don't even know how the fuck to parent this one.

Oh no. Would it help if you send in clothes she's not excited about? 

[sheilathetank]

Oct 29, 2019 11:18:15 GMT -6 piratecat said:

Oct 29, 2019 10:57:26 GMT -6 sheilathetank said:

DD's been peeing at school so she can show off her new change of clothes to her friends. She peed 3 times on Monday so she could have 3 outfit changes. I... I don't even know how the fuck to parent this one.

Oh no. Would it help if you send in clothes she's not excited about? 

I send one outfit. So she gets one "accident" pair of clothes. Then they resort to school clothes which come from god knows where. So it's an exciting gamble of what outfit will i get next.

She doesn't do this at home because after the first time I'd tell her the next time she'd have to stay in her pee clothes (I'm not a monster, it wouldn't be all day, just like a few minutes to emphasize we don't pee in our clothes for funsies. I obviously don't want pee clothes around the house/furniture). they obviously cannot take that approach at school. 

[billyhorrible]

sheilathetank I don't know how mornings go in your house, but both my kids are VERY particular about what they'll wear to school. Despite a whole closet of clothes, my youngest will wear ...3 shirts? Maybe 4? It's always a struggle just to get him to agree to get dressed. If he were having the same problem I'd make sure that the accident clothes I sent in were those outfits he refused to wear that morning. And maybe more than one, so he couldn't pee in the clothes he didn't like to get to the "donation treasure chest".

[piratecat]

Oct 29, 2019 11:25:46 GMT -6 sheilathetank said:

Oct 29, 2019 11:18:15 GMT -6 piratecat said:

Oh no. Would it help if you send in clothes she's not excited about? 

I send one outfit. So she gets one "accident" pair of clothes. Then they resort to school clothes which come from god knows where. So it's an exciting gamble of what outfit will i get next.

She doesn't do this at home because after the first time I'd tell her the next time she'd have to stay in her pee clothes (I'm not a monster, it wouldn't be all day, just like a few minutes to emphasize we don't pee in our clothes for funsies. I obviously don't want pee clothes around the house/furniture). they obviously cannot take that approach at school. 

Yowza. Do the teachers have any ideas? Are there any clothes she doesn't particularly like that you can send it more of to take away the element of excitement of random new-to-her clothes? 

[ambiguousmango]

Sorry your having a rough go sheilathetank. Maybe having her help clean up and doing all the extra laundry with you would help? Like if she wants to go play say "I would love to play but right now we have to do laundry because we keep having accidents" maybe she will take the hint?

[ambiguousmango]

I am feeling like a shit mom right now. My ds has started dropping f-bombs. I am sure he picked it up from me or my H. We don't normally curse but we have slipped up in the car recently.

Any advice on what to do? Right now I am trying not to make a big deal about it so he doesn't latch onto it but I'm not sure if that is the best approach.

[piratecat]

How do you get your kids to stop screaming? We used to tell him to scream quietly like a mouse and that worked really well for a while but he's really amping it up lately. And he's not usually screaming because he's upset, just riled up and for fun.