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Post by king26 on Sept 23, 2019 18:54:14 GMT -6
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Post by king26 on Sept 23, 2019 19:43:37 GMT -6
I totally meant to put my sleep time woes in this thread but they went in the other one. Short version is sleep and naps suck but its probably just a regression...the last one!!! Work also sucks. Im so stressed out and my teachers are not making it any better fo me. They dont like that we have changed everything but its not me, its the state. Ive been stressed and drinking a glass of wine several times a week which i havent done since before getting pregnant. I also had a giant margarita at happy hour with friends today.
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Post by addymac on Sept 23, 2019 21:39:38 GMT -6
Want to hear something good that came from N getting HFM? It hurt to suck on the pacifiers because of the sores in his mouth so he didn’t want them for like 4 days. On day 5 he asked for it and I was like what?! Idk where they are buddy, you said you didn’t want them so they’re gone! He had a TERRRRRIBLE nap that day and a crying fit but then he never asked for them again!! No fight that night, no asking that night or motn. They’re just gone!!
So, if you’re struggling to get rid of the paci, just get HFM and it will do the hard work for you 😂
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Post by muscari on Sept 24, 2019 1:35:48 GMT -6
Want to hear something good that came from N getting HFM? It hurt to suck on the pacifiers because of the sores in his mouth so he didn’t want them for like 4 days. On day 5 he asked for it and I was like what?! Idk where they are buddy, you said you didn’t want them so they’re gone! He had a TERRRRRIBLE nap that day and a crying fit but then he never asked for them again!! No fight that night, no asking that night or motn. They’re just gone!! So, if you’re struggling to get rid of the paci, just get HFM and it will do the hard work for you 😂 Aww poor N for getting HFM! Is he doing better now? But YAY for it getting rid of his paci and that he's no longer asking for them!
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Post by muscari on Sept 24, 2019 1:37:12 GMT -6
Hi! Stranger danger here ;-) I need to get on and catch up and hang around! I miss you ladies so much, and hate how much I missed this past year. I am trying to set up a new day rhythm/schedule and am going to plan in A17 time!
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 24, 2019 4:13:53 GMT -6
Yay, muscari! I was just wondering about you the other day. How is D doing? Hope you guys are well.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 24, 2019 4:33:47 GMT -6
king26, sorry work is so stressful. That sounds awful. addymac. That's great about the pacis. We had something similar with DS2 when he bumped his front teeth on the hard floor and didn't want sippy cups anymore. Well, when I got pregnant with baby J he regressed and now still takes sippies at almost five, but I was weak and gave in. Toddler H has more random wake ups now too. He was screaming at 1am, so i rocked himn for like an hour.
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Post by king26 on Sept 24, 2019 15:45:00 GMT -6
Hi! Stranger danger here ;-) I need to get on and catch up and hang around! I miss you ladies so much, and hate how much I missed this past year. I am trying to set up a new day rhythm/schedule and am going to plan in A17 time! Miss you! Glad to see you back!
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 25, 2019 10:22:45 GMT -6
I didn't realize how delayed toddler H's speech was until I got him evaluated. His evaluation says 16 months for expressive speech but everything else normal. He's really good at grunting and pointing and helping himself to what he wants so I don't realize a lot of the time that it would be normal for him to ask verbally.
We were at the neighborhood playground last night and there was an obviously younger boy there with his parents. They said, "One more slide and then we go. Deal?" And he said, "Deal!" Immediately and clearly. I was so floored, I asked them if he really said that. He was 17 months! Toddler H is still gaining words every week, so I'm hoping he can get up to age level soon. We'll see.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 25, 2019 13:12:35 GMT -6
Tapa never shows me there is a new thread so I have been checking the old one wondering why no one had posted in 2 days, LOL Sorry work is such a shitshow king26! I hope it eases up soon. Yay to no more paci! addymacSo nice to see you muscari! Hope little D is doing well
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Post by king26 on Sept 25, 2019 13:24:02 GMT -6
I didn't realize how delayed toddler H's speech was until I got him evaluated. His evaluation says 16 months for expressive speech but everything else normal. He's really good at grunting and pointing and helping himself to what he wants so I don't realize a lot of the time that it would be normal for him to ask verbally. We were at the neighborhood playground last night and there was an obviously younger boy there with his parents. They said, "One more slide and then we go. Deal?" And he said, "Deal!" Immediately and clearly. I was so floored, I asked them if he really said that. He was 17 months! Toddler H is still gaining words every week, so I'm hoping he can get up to age level soon. We'll see. J is so behind too. Younger kids always talk more then him and its sad. He also grunts, points, and gets his point across
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 25, 2019 13:36:21 GMT -6
Hi all sorry I have been MIA I am trying to adjust to working fulltime again and 3 kids 3 and under. I will be better!
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Post by addymac on Sept 25, 2019 22:46:24 GMT -6
I didn't realize how delayed toddler H's speech was until I got him evaluated. His evaluation says 16 months for expressive speech but everything else normal. He's really good at grunting and pointing and helping himself to what he wants so I don't realize a lot of the time that it would be normal for him to ask verbally. We were at the neighborhood playground last night and there was an obviously younger boy there with his parents. They said, "One more slide and then we go. Deal?" And he said, "Deal!" Immediately and clearly. I was so floored, I asked them if he really said that. He was 17 months! Toddler H is still gaining words every week, so I'm hoping he can get up to age level soon. We'll see. J is so behind too. Younger kids always talk more then him and its sad. He also grunts, points, and gets his point across thinkchocolate05 king26 I’m always shook when younger kids speak better than Noah. It makes me sad but I remind myself we’re working on it and so it goes.
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Post by happyfeet9 on Sept 26, 2019 17:34:24 GMT -6
thinkchocolate05 king26 addymac I'll take a seat with you guys. It's really hard to avoid comparisons, but I keep reminding myself that the twins have made a lot of progress in just the short time they"ve been getting services.
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Post by king26 on Sept 26, 2019 17:46:21 GMT -6
addymac Js daycare just told us they have a confirmed case of hand foot and mouth. I hope J doesnt get it and I hope I dont either since i work in the building. It seems to be going around a lot right now. On a better note, j had 2 awesome days at daycare this week! This is the first week hes enjoyed being there both days and I am so glad.
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 27, 2019 15:07:04 GMT -6
Everyone have a question about day care. It's a long story but my kids are in an in home so it's our three two sisters who are three and one and an older girl who goes to kindergarten and is there before and after care. There used to be more kids but their families have moved away. The two girls don't come from the best home situation and I've seen the parents in action. The girls are always fighting with each other and when they aren't fighting with each other they're picking fights with my older two J is getting to the point where he is pushing then to get them out of his face because they will not listen. The other problem is at both the J and my three-year-old were supposed to be doing preschool there but because these two are so difficult the woman has been unable to start any real lessons with them. My husband and I are considering trying to move at least our three-year-old and J. Are we overreacting? We don't want them to be behind.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 27, 2019 15:45:41 GMT -6
Everyone have a question about day care. It's a long story but my kids are in an in home so it's our three two sisters who are three and one and an older girl who goes to kindergarten and is there before and after care. There used to be more kids but their families have moved away. The two girls don't come from the best home situation and I've seen the parents in action. The girls are always fighting with each other and when they aren't fighting with each other they're picking fights with my older two J is getting to the point where he is pushing then to get them out of his face because they will not listen. The other problem is at both the J and my three-year-old were supposed to be doing preschool there but because these two are so difficult the woman has been unable to start any real lessons with them. My husband and I are considering trying to move at least our three-year-old and J. Are we overreacting? We don't want them to be behind. Nope, not overreacting. TBH my first thought was I would not want my kids there in that situation on a regular basis. I mean siblings fight enough as it is. I would be worried that they would be making my kids more aggressive in general. It also stinks that the woman now is not able to fulfill what she said about doing some preschool type lessons for your kids. Is she there solo taking care of all those kids? If so, that seems like way too much.
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 27, 2019 17:23:33 GMT -6
Everyone have a question about day care. It's a long story but my kids are in an in home so it's our three two sisters who are three and one and an older girl who goes to kindergarten and is there before and after care. There used to be more kids but their families have moved away. The two girls don't come from the best home situation and I've seen the parents in action. The girls are always fighting with each other and when they aren't fighting with each other they're picking fights with my older two J is getting to the point where he is pushing then to get them out of his face because they will not listen. The other problem is at both the J and my three-year-old were supposed to be doing preschool there but because these two are so difficult the woman has been unable to start any real lessons with them. My husband and I are considering trying to move at least our three-year-old and J. Are we overreacting? We don't want them to be behind. Nope, not overreacting. TBH my first thought was I would not want my kids there in that situation on a regular basis. I mean siblings fight enough as it is. I would be worried that they would be making my kids more aggressive in general. It also stinks that the woman now is not able to fulfill what she said about doing some preschool type lessons for your kids. Is she there solo taking care of all those kids? If so, that seems like way too much. When we started with and his big sis there were 8 kids and they did crafts, lessons etc. Now with these two she can't do anything. She has help but the help which is one woman at a time usually takes my baby so she can focus on the two sisters trying to modify behavior etc. MH and I decided to give it a month. My sister who runs a daycare sent me some preschool lesson plans and supplies but it just sucks. We really like the woman and she works with our weird schedules. Honestly moving them will complicate things for us but it may be the only option.
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Post by king26 on Sept 27, 2019 17:39:33 GMT -6
Everyone have a question about day care. It's a long story but my kids are in an in home so it's our three two sisters who are three and one and an older girl who goes to kindergarten and is there before and after care. There used to be more kids but their families have moved away. The two girls don't come from the best home situation and I've seen the parents in action. The girls are always fighting with each other and when they aren't fighting with each other they're picking fights with my older two J is getting to the point where he is pushing then to get them out of his face because they will not listen. The other problem is at both the J and my three-year-old were supposed to be doing preschool there but because these two are so difficult the woman has been unable to start any real lessons with them. My husband and I are considering trying to move at least our three-year-old and J. Are we overreacting? We don't want them to be behind. I wouldnt be worried about them being behind as many kids dont go to school until they are 4 or 5. However, i would be concerned if there is physical aggression involved because children mimic that and you dont want your kids mimicking thise behaviors. What does the daycare woman say? Id be concerned she isnt doing a curriculum she said she would because of these kids. In our daycare they were to be doing circle time for 30 minutes in the am and werent. I said something and theyve been doing it ever since. They have been very receptive if my suggestions but that could be because i can see into the classroom. Could you share your concerns?
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 27, 2019 17:51:40 GMT -6
Everyone have a question about day care. It's a long story but my kids are in an in home so it's our three two sisters who are three and one and an older girl who goes to kindergarten and is there before and after care. There used to be more kids but their families have moved away. The two girls don't come from the best home situation and I've seen the parents in action. The girls are always fighting with each other and when they aren't fighting with each other they're picking fights with my older two J is getting to the point where he is pushing then to get them out of his face because they will not listen. The other problem is at both the J and my three-year-old were supposed to be doing preschool there but because these two are so difficult the woman has been unable to start any real lessons with them. My husband and I are considering trying to move at least our three-year-old and J. Are we overreacting? We don't want them to be behind. I wouldnt be worried about them being behind as many kids dont go to school until they are 4 or 5. However, i would be concerned if there is physical aggression involved because children mimic that and you dont want your kids mimicking thise behaviors. What does the daycare woman say? Id be concerned she isnt doing a curriculum she said she would because of these kids. In our daycare they were to be doing circle time for 30 minutes in the am and werent. I said something and theyve been doing it ever since. They have been very receptive if my suggestions but that could be because i can see into the classroom. Could you share your concerns? They have started getting aggressive. Screaming in each other's faces which they never did and pushing. I know that is a reaction to the girls because i asked and daycare said that the girls don't stop when they ask so they have started pushing them away. She is trying to stop it but not working. She does know we are worried and she and I talk about it it with an in home it just seems like they can't do much. Plus the girls parents aren't the best and don't listen to her suggestions from what I have seen. We are in a childcare dessert because we live among military families with a lot of stay at home moms so finding another place that could take all 3 isn't going to happen.
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Post by king26 on Sept 27, 2019 18:23:38 GMT -6
Oh and today was crazy. I noticed J grunting and trying to poop so i ran him to the potty. He sat, watched his vids, and pooped! He hasnt even peed on the potty yet! Then later i noticed him grunting again and ran him back in. He pooped again and this time he got up, went to the toiket paper, rioped off one square, dabbed his butt cheek, put it in the toilet and flushed. It was adorable!!!
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 27, 2019 19:40:40 GMT -6
That’s stressful yellowcat. I hope it gets better there in the next month or you find something better if it comes down to it. That’s great king26! Go J!!
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 29, 2019 17:36:02 GMT -6
They have started getting aggressive. Screaming in each other's faces which they never did and pushing. I know that is a reaction to the girls because i asked and daycare said that the girls don't stop when they ask so they have started pushing them away. She is trying to stop it but not working. She does know we are worried and she and I talk about it it with an in home it just seems like they can't do much. Plus the girls parents aren't the best and don't listen to her suggestions from what I have seen. We are in a childcare dessert because we live among military families with a lot of stay at home moms so finding another place that could take all 3 isn't going to happen. I feel like that’s when I would draw the line. When I saw my kids actually start to pick up the behaviors of the other kids. Obviously the provider is having an issue keeping it under control and that is also something I’d be concerned about. That is what is bothering me the most. I am going to see if there are openings anywhere for my 3 yearold and j then talk to her. I know I can't move the baby those spots are impossible to find.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 30, 2019 13:42:50 GMT -6
I was going to start a new randoms thread but i'll wait till tomorrow for October, LOL
OMG anyone have words of wisdom on the sleep woes? Anybody out of the weeds? I can't take it anymore! Sleep has gone to shit and last night she went down ok but woke up at 5:00, unzipped her sleepsack and climbed out of the crib without making a peep, lol. I only heard her because she started jingling the door handle and I jumped up and she was in the hallway. She came into bed with me but DNW this turning into a regular occurrence. I'm still not ready to transition to a bed 😠I know she will need to be locked in her room because I know she will wake D1 because she will scream and bang on the door. I feel trapped right now. HELP! I know everyone says its just a phase but man it sucks.
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Post by addymac on Sept 30, 2019 14:46:24 GMT -6
Omg jt2378. She’s a ninja! Fuck no. Don’t let her into your bed!! It’s been almost three weeks and now N flips out if we don’t let him into our bed and now he’s started to want to fall asleep in there, too, which we say NO, so now I have to lay with him on the futon to get him to fall asleep. I’m losing my mind. LOSING MY FUCKING MIND.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 30, 2019 18:09:13 GMT -6
Omg jt2378. She’s a ninja! Fuck no. Don’t let her into your bed!! It’s been almost three weeks and now N flips out if we don’t let him into our bed and now he’s started to want to fall asleep in there, too, which we say NO, so now I have to lay with him on the futon to get him to fall asleep. I’m losing my mind. LOSING MY FUCKING MIND. Ugh I’m sorry friend, Fucking toddlers man. This kid is so so tough. I at least had good sleep going for me with her and it made the waking hours more tolerable but now I got nothing 😑 I’m.......struggling. Sorry you are losing your mind too.. ::internally screaming and sobbing here::
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 2, 2019 0:33:33 GMT -6
jt2378 I'm impressed she can unzip her sleep sack! That's finesse. My little caveman just climbs out with his sleep sack still on. Just to encourage everyone to keep sleep training, I never sleep trained ds1, and at almost five, fucking FIVE, he still can't fall asleep on his own. Don't laugh guys, I literally went to Walmart today and bought a bolt and cable to put a lock on the outside of his closet door because he's terrified of the door opening in the middle of the night and a dragon Halloween costume coming alive and walking out. I was still putting him to bed for over an hour tonight even with the lock installed, but tomorrow it's tough love. Kid must learn to fall asleep on his own.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 2, 2019 6:52:30 GMT -6
jt2378 I'm impressed she can unzip her sleep sack! That's finesse. My little caveman just climbs out with his sleep sack still on. Just to encourage everyone to keep sleep training, I never sleep trained ds1, and at almost five, fucking FIVE, he still can't fall asleep on his own. Don't laugh guys, I literally went to Walmart today and bought a bolt and cable to put a lock on the outside of his closet door because he's terrified of the door opening in the middle of the night and a dragon Halloween costume coming alive and walking out. I was still putting him to bed for over an hour tonight even with the lock installed, but tomorrow it's tough love. Kid must learn to fall asleep on his own. I'm sorry, that is really tough, especially with a crazy toddler and newborn. I hope it gets better soon.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 2, 2019 6:53:14 GMT -6
FYI, I started a new Randoms thread for October for anyone who uses Tapa and never notices new threads like me, lol
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Post by king26 on Oct 2, 2019 14:36:26 GMT -6
I was going to start a new randoms thread but i'll wait till tomorrow for October, LOL OMG anyone have words of wisdom on the sleep woes? Anybody out of the weeds? I can't take it anymore! Sleep has gone to shit and last night she went down ok but woke up at 5:00, unzipped her sleepsack and climbed out of the crib without making a peep, lol. I only heard her because she started jingling the door handle and I jumped up and she was in the hallway. She came into bed with me but DNW this turning into a regular occurrence. I'm still not ready to transition to a bed 😠I know she will need to be locked in her room because I know she will wake D1 because she will scream and bang on the door. I feel trapped right now. HELP! I know everyone says its just a phase but man it sucks. J had shit sleep for 2 weeks. He refused naps like 5 times and would only car nap, had a hard time going down at night, and last week woke one day at 445, one day at 515, and one day for an hour motn. The last 10 days naps have been back to nornal and the last 5 days wake up times have been 6 or later so im hoping we are through the 2 year sleep regression because those 2 weeks sucked
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