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Post by piratecat on Aug 26, 2019 8:22:11 GMT -6
I hope it's okay that I start this thread here. I wasn't sure if anyone would check the PT subboard.
I am contemplating potty training this upcoming Labor Day weekend. I still need to talk to the daycare teacher and get H to commit.
What do I need before starting? I have a potty and a potty seat and he's been using both. How many pairs of underwear do I need?
Diaper at nap time or not? At home, he's in the crib for 1.5 hours at minimum, sometimes 2. He sleeps for up to 3 hours at daycare so I'm not sure that I can expect him to hold it for that long. His diaper is wet most of the time.
His current daycare room is not super friendly for potty training so I am really hoping he will be reliable enough by the end of the long weekend but I'm not sure what to do if he is not. I guess I have to reassess at that point. I can wait until November when he moves up to the preschool room but he tells us he wants to wear underwear so I don't want to put it off for too long if he is ready.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 26, 2019 9:14:35 GMT -6
I bought lots of underwear because if he poops in them, I toss them. You'll need to keep some at daycare, too. We still did a diaper for naps at home, but not at daycare. Yes, there were times where he'd wake up wet but my daycare is great with potty training. So, you may want to ask them what they prefer if they're not potty training friendly.
We never used at potty seat or a little potty. Both kids just sat on the regular toilet, so I'm no help in that department.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 26, 2019 9:43:42 GMT -6
tgrimes, we cloth diaper so I'm used to poop and laundry. I am also used to doing diaper laundry every two days so I guess I could always just switch over to doing small loads of his laundry/underwear. The daycare room is entirely carpeted. I would guess that they would prefer diapers at naptime but I will ask. It's good to know that that didn't confuse your little guy.
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Post by billyhorrible on Aug 26, 2019 9:53:58 GMT -6
No help on the training part, but my kids wore pullups at naptime until they started waking up dry.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 26, 2019 9:54:31 GMT -6
tgrimes , we cloth diaper so I'm used to poop and laundry. I am also used to doing diaper laundry every two days so I guess I could always just switch over to doing small loads of his laundry/underwear. The daycare room is entirely carpeted. I would guess that they would prefer diapers at naptime but I will ask. It's good to know that that didn't confuse your little guy. I used pullups with my daughter for naps, too, and and she didn't have any issues. She was MUCH easier to potty train than he was.
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Post by cmb on Aug 26, 2019 10:06:28 GMT -6
We did nap, car/bus ride, and bedtime pull ups until he learned to get up and go on his own. He eventually learned to go right before getting on and right when getting off the bus
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Post by piratecat on Aug 26, 2019 12:48:07 GMT -6
Thanks everyone! Sounds like diapers at nap times is a good plan. We have a bunch of long drives coming up but we'll just have to deal with it.
I did let him try on his underwear this morning and he looked so stinkin' cute.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Aug 26, 2019 12:58:21 GMT -6
piratecat, I may be joining you this weekend! DS has been interested in us going potty and just started sitting on his potty and flushing.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 26, 2019 13:13:54 GMT -6
piratecat , I may be joining you this weekend! DS has been interested in us going potty and just started sitting on his potty and flushing. Oh man, good luck! I kind of wish we had more than 3 days, I already feel anxious about sending him to daycare on Tuesday!
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Post by piratecat on Aug 28, 2019 8:08:44 GMT -6
I finally talked to the daycare teacher and she did not seem excited, hah. She said definitely diapers for nap time and she would even prefer pull-ups during the day but aren't pull-ups basically just diapers? Why would my kid suddenly not pee/poop in something that looks just like a diaper and use a toilet instead?
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Post by billyhorrible on Aug 28, 2019 10:51:19 GMT -6
See that's why I don't get the whole "potty training" idea. If your kid wants to go in the toilet, it doesn't matter if he's wearing pullups or a diaper, he'll go in the toilet. If he doesn't want to go in the toilet, he's going to go in his pants whether he's wearing underwear, pullups or a diaper.
I could not get my oldest to wear underwear to preschool for the longest time after he was using the toilet. He was terrified he was going to have an accident, despite never having had an accident at home or preschool. So he wore pullups and still used the toilet at school, then came home and changed into underwear. It just made him feel more secure to have the pullups there.
I'm guessing the teachers have a lot of experience with "potty trained" kids who still have accidents, which is both difficult to deal with and unhygienic when trying to deal with a class full of children. Once she sees that he is consistantly using the toilet and not having accidents, i'm sure she'll let you know to send him in underwear.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 28, 2019 11:07:17 GMT -6
See that's why I don't get the whole "potty training" idea. If your kid wants to go in the toilet, it doesn't matter if he's wearing pullups or a diaper, he'll go in the toilet. If he doesn't want to go in the toilet, he's going to go in his pants whether he's wearing underwear, pullups or a diaper. I could not get my oldest to wear underwear to preschool for the longest time after he was using the toilet. He was terrified he was going to have an accident, despite never having had an accident at home or preschool. So he wore pullups and still used the toilet at school, then came home and changed into underwear. It just made him feel more secure to have the pullups there. I'm guessing the teachers have a lot of experience with "potty trained" kids who still have accidents, which is both difficult to deal with and unhygienic when trying to deal with a class full of children. Once she sees that he is consistantly using the toilet and not having accidents, i'm sure she'll let you know to send him in underwear. I hear what you're saying. I know your kids decided for themselves that they wanted to start using the toilet so they were determined to regardless of what they were wearing. I am in favor of letting my kid take the lead for the most part but it feels like he has been communicating his readiness and willingness and I'm taking that opportunity to give him a nudge. So with that I feel like a pull-up won't feel like enough of a change from a diaper to motivate him use the toilet rather than the pull-up but who knows. I also agree with you on the daycare teacher's perspective. She's told me from the beginning that they are not really set up to assist with potty training - taking the kid to toilet on a set schedule, etc., and they for sure don't want to deal with frequent accidents. Our friends "potty trained" their kid this past weekend and sent him to daycare in underwear but their daycare was totally fine with continuing the potty trainING they were doing at home and taking him to the toilet every hour. I am really hoping that by the time my kid returns to daycare that he is using the toilet consistently enough but we'll have to reassess on Monday.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 28, 2019 11:19:18 GMT -6
A pull up just makes it easier for them & you when wanting to use the potty. My daycare does what the parents want, for the most part, because some parents are anti pull ups. It's either diapers or underwear. With my oldest, they asked me to send pull ups because sometimes she would use the potty, sometimes she wouldn't & sometimes she would just get naked. Once she was staying dry in the pull up, they told me to put her in underwear at home over a long weekend. I still put a pull up on them at nap time because they didn't always wake up dry and I didn't want to deal with changing the sheets every time. Once they consistently woke up dry, I stopped using the pull up. piratecat If you're going full fledged potty training at home, I wouldn't use pull ups during the day. Only for naps, if you want to.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 28, 2019 11:22:18 GMT -6
I don't understand day cares that don't want to assist with potty training.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 28, 2019 11:29:41 GMT -6
I don't understand day cares that don't want to assist with potty training. A big part of the problem for our daycare is that there is no bathroom in their room. They have to go through two baby gates, up a long ramp, into the kitchen area to get to the bathroom, which is set up with a potty seat and step stools. So I get that it would be a big pain plus they probably have to get a hold of a floater so that they're not leaving the other 9 kids with one teacher for however long it takes to help the potty trainer in the bathroom. His room has kids up to 30 months so it doesn't seem unreasonable to think that some kids would be potty training so it's too bad that the room isn't set up to support that.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 28, 2019 11:35:20 GMT -6
A pull up just makes it easier for them & you when wanting to use the potty. My daycare does what the parents want, for the most part, because some parents are anti pull ups. It's either diapers or underwear. With my oldest, they asked me to send pull ups because sometimes she would use the potty, sometimes she wouldn't & sometimes she would just get naked. Once she was staying dry in the pull up, they told me to put her in underwear at home over a long weekend. I still put a pull up on them at nap time because they didn't always wake up dry and I didn't want to deal with changing the sheets every time. Once they consistently woke up dry, I stopped using the pull up. piratecat If you're going full fledged potty training at home, I wouldn't use pull ups during the day. Only for naps, if you want to. I told the teacher that I feel like he is pretty ready and hopefully that means he'll make good enough progress over the long weekend but we won't know until we try it. He's been talking a lot about wearing underwear so I think the novelty and excitement of wearing underwear might be key to motivating him to using the toilet. I feel like non-naptime pull-ups will only delay the process but I also don't want to put the teachers in a (potentially literally) shitty situation.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 28, 2019 11:38:15 GMT -6
A pull up just makes it easier for them & you when wanting to use the potty. My daycare does what the parents want, for the most part, because some parents are anti pull ups. It's either diapers or underwear. With my oldest, they asked me to send pull ups because sometimes she would use the potty, sometimes she wouldn't & sometimes she would just get naked. Once she was staying dry in the pull up, they told me to put her in underwear at home over a long weekend. I still put a pull up on them at nap time because they didn't always wake up dry and I didn't want to deal with changing the sheets every time. Once they consistently woke up dry, I stopped using the pull up. piratecat If you're going full fledged potty training at home, I wouldn't use pull ups during the day. Only for naps, if you want to. I told the teacher that I feel like he is pretty ready and hopefully that means he'll make good enough progress over the long weekend but we won't know until we try it. He's been talking a lot about wearing underwear so I think the novelty and excitement of wearing underwear might be key to motivating him to using the toilet. I feel like non-naptime pull-ups will only delay the process but I also don't want to put the teachers in a (potentially literally) shitty situation. LOL at a shitty situation. I get it. But this is the age that kids start potty training. You'd think they'd have a better set or take routine trips to the potty.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 28, 2019 11:43:43 GMT -6
I told the teacher that I feel like he is pretty ready and hopefully that means he'll make good enough progress over the long weekend but we won't know until we try it. He's been talking a lot about wearing underwear so I think the novelty and excitement of wearing underwear might be key to motivating him to using the toilet. I feel like non-naptime pull-ups will only delay the process but I also don't want to put the teachers in a (potentially literally) shitty situation. LOL at a shitty situation. I get it. But this is the age that kids start potty training. You'd think they'd have a better set or take routine trips to the potty. She said only two out of 10 are potty trained (and in underwear) and one is "getting close" (I'm not totally sure what that means). Maybe if there are two potty training it'll be a little easier for them to support them together? I am debating reaching out to the mom of the kid who is close to see what their plans are but I've never talked to her before so I don't know.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 28, 2019 11:56:56 GMT -6
LOL at a shitty situation. I get it. But this is the age that kids start potty training. You'd think they'd have a better set or take routine trips to the potty. She said only two out of 10 are potty trained (and in underwear) and one is "getting close" (I'm not totally sure what that means). Maybe if there are two potty training it'll be a little easier for them to support them together? I am debating reaching out to the mom of the kid who is close to see what their plans are but I've never talked to her before so I don't know. It wouldn't hurt to reach out.
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Post by gingy on Aug 28, 2019 13:44:58 GMT -6
We did the ceremonial throwing away of diapers (we really only tossed a few and donated the rest to his classroom) and presented pull-ups as "bedtime undies." So then he saw them as a new and exciting thing that you're not supposed to potty in if you can help it. Pampers had Batman pull-ups when I went shopping, so he loves putting on his Batman undies every naptime/bedtime.
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Post by jt2378 on Aug 29, 2019 7:03:09 GMT -6
I don't understand day cares that don't want to assist with potty training. Yeah this is kind of where I'm at. You think a daycare would be better setup knowing there are kids that are prime potty training ages. D1 was in preschool only a couple mornings a week while potty training. She was a huge PITA till almost 3.5 but then just trained herself which was lovely. D2 just turned 2 and has mentioned it but I haven't started much. I'm hoping she just trains herself too, lol
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Post by piratecat on Aug 29, 2019 7:19:54 GMT -6
We did the ceremonial throwing away of diapers (we really only tossed a few and donated the rest to his classroom) and presented pull-ups as "bedtime undies." So then he saw them as a new and exciting thing that you're not supposed to potty in if you can help it. Pampers had Batman pull-ups when I went shopping, so he loves putting on his Batman undies every naptime/bedtime. I was reading back and saw that your kid went to daycare in training pants the first day? How is he doing now? Is he in regular underwear at daycare?
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Post by piratecat on Aug 29, 2019 7:22:02 GMT -6
How effective are training pants without a waterproof layer (like Gerber's)? I don't really mind if his pants get wet as long as he doesn't leave a puddle on their carpeted floor. Will those get the job done?
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Post by gingy on Aug 29, 2019 7:31:17 GMT -6
We did the ceremonial throwing away of diapers (we really only tossed a few and donated the rest to his classroom) and presented pull-ups as "bedtime undies." So then he saw them as a new and exciting thing that you're not supposed to potty in if you can help it. Pampers had Batman pull-ups when I went shopping, so he loves putting on his Batman undies every naptime/bedtime. I was reading back and saw that your kid went to daycare in training pants the first day? How is he doing now? Is he in regular underwear at daycare? He is! He did the cloth Gerber training pants for a couple of weeks before we switched. (To answer your other question, if he has a legit full-bladder accident, they don't help as much. But in the case of a little leak before he realizes he has to go, it helps to have the extra layers.) He had several accidents the first week, but then it all clicked and his accidents have been few and far between. When we got down to a max of one accident a week, we switched to regular underwear.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 29, 2019 7:41:37 GMT -6
How effective are training pants without a waterproof layer (like Gerber's)? I don't really mind if his pants get wet as long as he doesn't leave a puddle on their carpeted floor. Will those get the job done? Be prepared for puddles if he unleashes a full bladder.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 29, 2019 7:46:18 GMT -6
How effective are training pants without a waterproof layer (like Gerber's)? I don't really mind if his pants get wet as long as he doesn't leave a puddle on their carpeted floor. Will those get the job done? Be prepared for puddles if he unleashes a full bladder. Should I send in a tub of carpet cleaner?
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 29, 2019 8:46:37 GMT -6
Be prepared for puddles if he unleashes a full bladder. Should I send in a tub of carpet cleaner? Nah. I'm sure he wouldn't be the first one to have an accident there.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Aug 31, 2019 14:44:11 GMT -6
piratecat, how is it going? This weekend... I gave up because things came up but he just came out of the bathroom with his diaper down so...
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Post by piratecat on Aug 31, 2019 21:46:40 GMT -6
piratecat, how is it going? This weekend... I gave up because things came up but he just came out of the bathroom with his diaper down so... So... what next?? Our first day went okay. We started out rocky but ended the day with him telling us he had to pee with plenty of time to spare. I can’t get him to drink much so he’s not needing to pee very frequently which leaves me feeling like we need more practice. I’m really going to try and push more fluids tomorrow.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 31, 2019 21:49:02 GMT -6
He was so excited and was trying to say “I peed by myself” but kept saying “I peed myself” instead... which he did do twice earlier in the day. 😂
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