thatgolfb
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 15, 2019 10:44:49 GMT -6
Hi, all. I didn’t want to make a thread, but I also didn’t want to clog up randoms with sad news.
FIL passed away on Tuesday. He had been battling cancer since last year, and had just started a new type of chemo on Monday. The last few weeks have been really tough on him, and he just couldn’t make it. I don’t know the specific cause of death yet, but MIL found him unresponsive and they couldn’t resuscitate him.
H flew up to northern CA on Tuesday afternoon, and the girls and I started our drive on Wednesday. We stayed at my sister’s house halfway there and stayed overnight, so it was nice to spend time with my nephews. My sister is coming with me and the girls to my parents’ house, which is another 4 hour drive. Then tomorrow we will make the hour drive to the ILs’. H and MIL wanted some time to figure things out. The service will be Tuesday.
He was a great person, and I’m lucky to have known him as long as I did. I am sad for my kids and myself; but especially for H and MIL. We explained things to DD1, but I’m not sure it has sunk in that grandpa won’t be around to play with her. This is the first major death in our family.
I don’t want to be an AW about it, but it seemed too major of an event not to mention and just keep talking like things are the same, you know?
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clucky
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Post by clucky on Aug 15, 2019 14:50:17 GMT -6
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loony
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Post by loony on Aug 15, 2019 15:05:54 GMT -6
I'm sorry love. I hope that being with family and your girls brings you peace
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Post by jules1614 on Aug 15, 2019 15:10:14 GMT -6
I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending lots of hugs and peace to you all 💕
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bethkate
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Post by bethkate on Aug 15, 2019 16:10:27 GMT -6
I’m sorry.  How awful for everyone, especially your MIL. |
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Post by sarahandben108 on Aug 15, 2019 17:18:22 GMT -6
I’m sorry ❤️ Hugs to you all.
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Post by cnf on Aug 15, 2019 19:08:44 GMT -6
I am so sorry. My love and condolences to you and yours ❤️
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Post by ldubhawksfan on Aug 15, 2019 23:03:15 GMT -6
I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Sending you lots of love during this difficult and emotional time.
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Post by cakewench on Aug 16, 2019 6:36:57 GMT -6
I'm so sorry, thatgolfb. Sending all the love to you and your family. |
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quinn
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Post by quinn on Aug 16, 2019 7:18:15 GMT -6
I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss ❤ sending all my love
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pootsen
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Post by pootsen on Aug 16, 2019 8:38:22 GMT -6
I’m so sorry thatgolfb. That must’ve been so awful and scary for your MIL. I’ll be thinking of your family and sending so much love ❤️ |
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thatgolfb
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 16, 2019 13:17:55 GMT -6
Thanks, ladies. We just made it to my IL’s house, and H and MIL will be home in a minute. I’m worried that Dd2 is just going to keep asking for “Pepaw” because she just likes saying that word. I know MIL will understand, I just don’t want to upset her more than she already is.
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elle
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Post by elle on Aug 16, 2019 17:24:09 GMT -6
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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quinn
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Post by quinn on Aug 17, 2019 6:21:23 GMT -6
Thanks, ladies. We just made it to my IL’s house, and H and MIL will be home in a minute. I’m worried that Dd2 is just going to keep asking for “Pepaw” because she just likes saying that word. I know MIL will understand, I just don’t want to upset her more than she already is. I'm sure there will be many moments where your MIL will be reminded and she will be sad. You're a good DIL for caring so much. Keeping you all in my thoughts |
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Post by spacecadet on Aug 17, 2019 19:21:22 GMT -6
I’m sorry for your loss thatgolfb. Your family will be in my thoughts. |
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Post by blabbermouth on Aug 17, 2019 22:09:43 GMT -6
Aww, I'm sorry to hear this, I know he was always so hopeful. Sending your whole family hugs and I think if anything, your MIL will be happy to have the kids around even if they're talking about him ❤️ kids are a good distraction.
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bazi
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Post by bazi on Aug 18, 2019 14:58:27 GMT -6
thatgolfb I’m just seeing this, I’m so sorry love. Hope you and your family are doing ok.
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 18, 2019 21:13:47 GMT -6
Thinking of you all. ❤️
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Post by doxiemama on Aug 19, 2019 7:07:50 GMT -6
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sucks. ❤️
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roloma
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Post by roloma on Aug 19, 2019 20:25:22 GMT -6
I don’t know how I missed this. So sorry for your loss. ❤️
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thatgolfb
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 19, 2019 22:27:44 GMT -6
Thanks, ladies. The service is tomorrow morning. H and DD1 are going to say something at the mass. It is going to be tough, but I have been amazed at the generosity of others during this time. It’s nice to know that FIL was so loved by so many people.
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pootsen
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Post by pootsen on Aug 20, 2019 5:44:11 GMT -6
Thanks, ladies. The service is tomorrow morning. H and DD1 are going to say something at the mass. It is going to be tough, but I have been amazed at the generosity of others during this time. It’s nice to know that FIL was so loved by so many people. I’ll be thinking of you today ❤️ |
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Post by ldubhawksfan on Aug 20, 2019 11:33:28 GMT -6
Thinking of you and your family today.
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Post by Waffle on Aug 28, 2019 8:50:53 GMT -6
I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
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How awful for everyone, especially your MIL. 
