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Post by thechickencoop on Mar 18, 2019 19:35:19 GMT -6
How do you teach street safety ? My DD is 18 months. Any book suggestions? I love visual aids. But also what language do you use? I know I want to keep it simple. What do you mean by street safety? Like crossing the road? Watching for traffic?
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Post by ttcbabyj on Mar 18, 2019 19:52:21 GMT -6
DD is almost 22 months and she has really turned a corner. She been acting so much more mature. Today her earring back came off and she said “uh oh” and brought it to me and let me put it back on. This is the same child I would have to sneak in her room and replace her earring while she was asleep. The whining is also getting so much better. She will even tell me “I poo.” DH said he thinks she’s ready to give up the binky at night...I’m like hey let’s not press our luck. 😂😂
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Post by cmb on Mar 19, 2019 3:40:21 GMT -6
What do you mean by street safety? Like crossing the road? Watching for traffic? Yes. Mostly don’t play in the road. Don’t go to the end of the driveway. Cars are dangerous Wait a year- it starts to click at the 3 yr mark. at least, that’s the last time DS1 darted into the road. He’s a runner. I leash my kids (flame away) until they can be trusted to hold my hand, and I hold on with a death grip. If we cross anywhere while together, I hold on to their hands with said death grip and constantly repeat cars are dangerous. No running, stay by me, etc.
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Post by gingy on Mar 19, 2019 8:08:02 GMT -6
I've been wondering about the street safety too. DS refuses to hold anyone's hand but doesn't want to be carried. DH is not on board with a leash, but I would 100% use it. I can't decide if I want to try to convince him or just use it when I have DS by myself.
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 19, 2019 8:33:15 GMT -6
What do you mean by street safety? Like crossing the road? Watching for traffic? Yes. Mostly don’t play in the road. Don’t go to the end of the driveway. Cars are dangerous I was really firm and blunt with DD. "You need to hold my hand or you will get hurt." "cars can't see you and they can hit you. you would get very, very hurt if that happened." "you need to stay on the sidewalk away from the cars." I just repeated it over and over until she got it. Now she'll at least say things like "cars can hit me. I don't want to get hurt" stuff like that. She'll sometimes still resist hand holding but i make it not an option. Like, you can hold my hand or i will carry you there is no third option.
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Post by cmb on Mar 19, 2019 9:49:02 GMT -6
I've been wondering about the street safety too. DS refuses to hold anyone's hand but doesn't want to be carried. DH is not on board with a leash, but I would 100% use it. I can't decide if I want to try to convince him or just use it when I have DS by myself. My H was 100% against a leash until DS1 darted into a busy parking lot with him. Now, he uses it as needed. We have little backpack ones. It makes them feel important because they can carry diapers/snacks, and I still have the tether I need.
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Post by cmb on Mar 19, 2019 9:49:38 GMT -6
I don’t have a leash. But I’m not against them. As long as your not using it to drag them. Let’s then feel independent while letting you still have control of how far they go. But I’m more thinking about playing in my yard that doesn’t have a fence. Or playing at a park that’s not fenced. And I want to know why parks without fences exist. Keep repeating and maybe put up some temporary barriers. That’s really the only thing outside of putting up a fence.
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Post by billyhorrible on Mar 19, 2019 10:10:14 GMT -6
Yes. Mostly don’t play in the road. Don’t go to the end of the driveway. Cars are dangerous I was really firm and blunt with DD. "You need to hold my hand or you will get hurt." "cars can't see you and they can hit you. you would get very, very hurt if that happened." This is the line I use. They have to hold my hand until they're big like a mommy or daddy so cars can see them.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 19, 2019 13:52:30 GMT -6
My kid is more of a clinger than a darter but I give him two options - he can either walk and hold my hand or he can be carried - and that is as far as I have gotten so far.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 19, 2019 13:55:39 GMT -6
DD is almost 22 months and she has really turned a corner. She been acting so much more mature. Today her earring back came off and she said “uh oh” and brought it to me and let me put it back on. This is the same child I would have to sneak in her room and replace her earring while she was asleep. The whining is also getting so much better. She will even tell me “I poo.” DH said he thinks she’s ready to give up the binky at night...I’m like hey let’s not press our luck. 😂😂 Mine seems to have turned a... different corner. SO much crying this morning, even when I give him something he asked for. "Here's your oatmeal." "NOoooooooo, noooooooo nooooooooo" "Oh you don't want oatmeal?" "Noooooooo, noooooooo..... *still crying* Yeeeeaaaaaaaaa"
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 19, 2019 13:59:32 GMT -6
DD is almost 22 months and she has really turned a corner. She been acting so much more mature. Today her earring back came off and she said “uh oh” and brought it to me and let me put it back on. This is the same child I would have to sneak in her room and replace her earring while she was asleep. The whining is also getting so much better. She will even tell me “I poo.” DH said he thinks she’s ready to give up the binky at night...I’m like hey let’s not press our luck. 😂😂 Mine seems to have turned a... different corner. SO much crying this morning, even when I give him something he asked for. "Here's your oatmeal." "NOoooooooo, noooooooo nooooooooo" "Oh you don't want oatmeal?" "Noooooooo, noooooooo..... *still crying* Yeeeeaaaaaaaaa" ah, it sounds like you are in 100% toddler logic land. Yes means no, up means down, and all things are opposite but only on tuesdays between 6:48am and 7:53am and every other thursday, but sometimes at all other times. you just don't when.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 19, 2019 14:17:23 GMT -6
Mine seems to have turned a... different corner. SO much crying this morning, even when I give him something he asked for. "Here's your oatmeal." "NOoooooooo, noooooooo nooooooooo" "Oh you don't want oatmeal?" "Noooooooo, noooooooo..... *still crying* Yeeeeaaaaaaaaa" ah, it sounds like you are in 100% toddler logic land. Yes means no, up means down, and all things are opposite but only on tuesdays between 6:48am and 7:53am and every other thursday, but sometimes at all other times. you just don't when. It's the worst. It's almost comical but also he is legit crying real tears so that makes me feel bad. So emotional. For some reason, seeing him wiping tears with his sleeves really gets me.
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Post by doodlemommy on Mar 19, 2019 14:22:05 GMT -6
DS is 17 months and very much in a defiant/do it himself phase. I give him the option of holding my hand or picking him up. He usually pulls his hand away and tries to continue on by himself. At which point I pick him up and haul his flailing screaming body wherever we need to go 🙄. I am 8 weeks pregnant so clearly that’s just going to get harder to do so I hope he pulls it together! DD (4) is and has always been a rule follower so this is a whole new ball game
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 19, 2019 15:11:38 GMT -6
ah, it sounds like you are in 100% toddler logic land. Yes means no, up means down, and all things are opposite but only on tuesdays between 6:48am and 7:53am and every other thursday, but sometimes at all other times. you just don't when. It's the worst. It's almost comical but also he is legit crying real tears so that makes me feel bad. So emotional. For some reason, seeing him wiping tears with his sleeves really gets me. I have the hardest time keeping a straight face when DD does the crocodile tears. It's Oscar worthy dramatics sometimes.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Mar 19, 2019 17:41:53 GMT -6
piratecat trust me we still have our meltdown moments. But I just find myself not counting down her bedtime as soon as she wakes up in the morning. 😂😂
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Post by thechickencoop on Mar 19, 2019 18:04:54 GMT -6
DD is almost 22 months and she has really turned a corner. She been acting so much more mature. Today her earring back came off and she said “uh oh” and brought it to me and let me put it back on. This is the same child I would have to sneak in her room and replace her earring while she was asleep. The whining is also getting so much better. She will even tell me “I poo.” DH said he thinks she’s ready to give up the binky at night...I’m like hey let’s not press our luck. 😂😂 Mine seems to have turned a... different corner. SO much crying this morning, even when I give him something he asked for. "Here's your oatmeal." "NOoooooooo, noooooooo nooooooooo" "Oh you don't want oatmeal?" "Noooooooo, noooooooo..... *still crying* Yeeeeaaaaaaaaa" I mean, laughing WITH you. Totally NOT looking forward to going through this again with DS2. Oof.
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Post by thechickencoop on Mar 19, 2019 18:08:14 GMT -6
DS is 17 months and very much in a defiant/do it himself phase. I give him the option of holding my hand or picking him up. He usually pulls his hand away and tries to continue on by himself. At which point I pick him up and haul his flailing screaming body wherever we need to go 🙄. I am 8 weeks pregnant so clearly that’s just going to get harder to do so I hope he pulls it together! DD (4) is and has always been a rule follower so this is a whole new ball game Yes! Omg DS1 is NOT a runner. He always reached for my hand (still does at almost 7) looks for cars, etc. DS2, I have no fucking clue. So, @starzia hopefully you get lucky? DS1 we just always made hand holding non negotiable in lots/crossing the street, repeat over and over, look right, look left, etc. DS2 I do the same things (obviously it doesn't stick, he's only 18 mo) but man, I'll be holding his hand and he'll pull it away with all his might then melt down into the ground when I won't let go 🤬 So. That's where we are with car/street safety right now.
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 19, 2019 18:11:18 GMT -6
DS is 17 months and very much in a defiant/do it himself phase. I give him the option of holding my hand or picking him up. He usually pulls his hand away and tries to continue on by himself. At which point I pick him up and haul his flailing screaming body wherever we need to go 🙄. I am 8 weeks pregnant so clearly that’s just going to get harder to do so I hope he pulls it together! DD (4) is and has always been a rule follower so this is a whole new ball game Yes! Omg DS1 is NOT a runner. He always reached for my hand (still does at almost 7) looks for cars, etc. DS2, I have no fucking clue. So, @starzia hopefully you get lucky? DS1 we just always made hand holding non negotiable in lots/crossing the street, repeat over and over, look right, look left, etc. DS2 I do the same things (obviously it doesn't stick, he's only 18 mo) but man, I'll be holding his hand and he'll pull it away with all his might then melt down into the ground when I won't let go 🤬 So. That's where we are with car/street safety right now. The best is when they scream "you're hurting me" at the top of their lungs as they try to alligator roll out of your death grip and all you can do is pray that the surrounding people don't call the police on you as you drag walk your kid into the store/building/car.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 19, 2019 18:51:53 GMT -6
Mine seems to have turned a... different corner. SO much crying this morning, even when I give him something he asked for. "Here's your oatmeal." "NOoooooooo, noooooooo nooooooooo" "Oh you don't want oatmeal?" "Noooooooo, noooooooo..... *still crying* Yeeeeaaaaaaaaa" I mean, laughing WITH you. Totally NOT looking forward to going through this again with DS2. Oof. After he cry-yells that yea he does want something, I try to give it to him and he waves his arms wildly and cry-yells noooooo all over again.
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Post by thechickencoop on Mar 19, 2019 19:15:19 GMT -6
Yes! Omg DS1 is NOT a runner. He always reached for my hand (still does at almost 7) looks for cars, etc. DS2, I have no fucking clue. So, @starzia hopefully you get lucky? DS1 we just always made hand holding non negotiable in lots/crossing the street, repeat over and over, look right, look left, etc. DS2 I do the same things (obviously it doesn't stick, he's only 18 mo) but man, I'll be holding his hand and he'll pull it away with all his might then melt down into the ground when I won't let go 🤬 So. That's where we are with car/street safety right now. The best is when they scream "you're hurting me" at the top of their lungs as they try to alligator roll out of your death grip and all you can do is pray that the surrounding people don't call the police on you as you drag walk your kid into the store/building/car. Well. That's super exciting to look forward to.
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Post by notblanche on Mar 20, 2019 7:44:01 GMT -6
It's the worst. It's almost comical but also he is legit crying real tears so that makes me feel bad. So emotional. For some reason, seeing him wiping tears with his sleeves really gets me. I have the hardest time keeping a straight face when DD does the crocodile tears. It's Oscar worthy dramatics sometimes. M has started this thing where he'll cross his arms and pout and say, "I'm angry." Even when he's not. It's so dramatic and so funny.
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 20, 2019 7:46:00 GMT -6
I have the hardest time keeping a straight face when DD does the crocodile tears. It's Oscar worthy dramatics sometimes. M has started this thing where he'll cross his arms and pout and say, "I'm angry." Even when he's not. It's so dramatic and so funny. Yes! It's like an angry puppy. You're not getting across the effect you think you are little dude.
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Post by notblanche on Mar 20, 2019 9:28:25 GMT -6
M will be three in 23 days. How did this happen so fast?
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Post by gingy on Mar 26, 2019 8:07:14 GMT -6
Does anyone check in on the PT board? I have a question, but I'll just ask here for now.
DS is showing several signs of being ready (hold me!), but I'm struggling to find underwear/training pants small enough for him. He's 18mo and 22 lb. Does anyone have a brand rec?
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 26, 2019 8:22:30 GMT -6
Does anyone check in on the PT board? I have a question, but I'll just ask here for now. DS is showing several signs of being ready (hold me!), but I'm struggling to find underwear/training pants small enough for him. He's 18mo and 22 lb. Does anyone have a brand rec? DD is a peanut and we got these www.walmart.com/ip/Paw-Patrol-Toddler-Boys-Training-Pants-3-Pack/55138721They were big at first and I'd say only now at 26lbs do they fit snuggly. Are you having trouble with them fitting around his waist or the rise? Also I don't remember if you CD because there are training pants options there too. Best thing about training pants is that there is no difference between boys and girls. It's only when they get to real underwear that girls are regulated to mostly "girly" things and they don't put all the damn paw patrol characters on them. It's become a thing at the Tank house.
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Post by gingy on Mar 26, 2019 8:36:08 GMT -6
Does anyone check in on the PT board? I have a question, but I'll just ask here for now. DS is showing several signs of being ready (hold me!), but I'm struggling to find underwear/training pants small enough for him. He's 18mo and 22 lb. Does anyone have a brand rec? DD is a peanut and we got these www.walmart.com/ip/Paw-Patrol-Toddler-Boys-Training-Pants-3-Pack/55138721They were big at first and I'd say only now at 26lbs do they fit snuggly. Are you having trouble with them fitting around his waist or the rise? Also I don't remember if you CD because there are training pants options there too. Best thing about training pants is that there is no difference between boys and girls. It's only when they get to real underwear that girls are regulated to mostly "girly" things and they don't put all the damn paw patrol characters on them. It's become a thing at the Tank house. Fitting his waist is the issue. He's a skinny dude. We do not CD but I'm open to other options. Thanks for the rec! SD always hated the bullshit options of girls character clothing. We got a lot of Cars and Toy Story shirts from the boys' dept when she was little. And now Star Wars and Harry Potter. Why must the girls' SW clothes have glitter??
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Post by cmb on Mar 26, 2019 10:21:59 GMT -6
Does anyone check in on the PT board? I have a question, but I'll just ask here for now. DS is showing several signs of being ready (hold me!), but I'm struggling to find underwear/training pants small enough for him. He's 18mo and 22 lb. Does anyone have a brand rec? Try pampers 2T; they fit my string bean children. - I will warn you, 18m is most likely too young, particularly for a boy, despite them showing some signs. Be prepared to go back in diapers for a while.
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Post by gingy on Mar 26, 2019 10:54:28 GMT -6
Does anyone check in on the PT board? I have a question, but I'll just ask here for now. DS is showing several signs of being ready (hold me!), but I'm struggling to find underwear/training pants small enough for him. He's 18mo and 22 lb. Does anyone have a brand rec? Try pampers 2T; they fit my string bean children. - I will warn you, 18m is most likely too young, particularly for a boy, despite them showing some signs. Be prepared to go back in diapers for a while. I thought it was pretty early. I figured we'd be in diapers for at least another year, so we'll just see what happens!
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Post by piratecat on Mar 27, 2019 8:10:17 GMT -6
Does anyone check in on the PT board? I have a question, but I'll just ask here for now. DS is showing several signs of being ready (hold me!), but I'm struggling to find underwear/training pants small enough for him. He's 18mo and 22 lb. Does anyone have a brand rec? DD is a peanut and we got these www.walmart.com/ip/Paw-Patrol-Toddler-Boys-Training-Pants-3-Pack/55138721They were big at first and I'd say only now at 26lbs do they fit snuggly. Are you having trouble with them fitting around his waist or the rise? Also I don't remember if you CD because there are training pants options there too. Best thing about training pants is that there is no difference between boys and girls. It's only when they get to real underwear that girls are regulated to mostly "girly" things and they don't put all the damn paw patrol characters on them. It's become a thing at the Tank house. Which CD training pants did you use/like?
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Post by sheilathetank on Mar 27, 2019 8:27:11 GMT -6
DD is a peanut and we got these www.walmart.com/ip/Paw-Patrol-Toddler-Boys-Training-Pants-3-Pack/55138721They were big at first and I'd say only now at 26lbs do they fit snuggly. Are you having trouble with them fitting around his waist or the rise? Also I don't remember if you CD because there are training pants options there too. Best thing about training pants is that there is no difference between boys and girls. It's only when they get to real underwear that girls are regulated to mostly "girly" things and they don't put all the damn paw patrol characters on them. It's become a thing at the Tank house. Which CD training pants did you use/like? I bought a bunch of different ones used on ebay because I didn't want to invest in something that she may only use for a few days if she got on really quick. Her bff is only one day younger and potty trained herself by 20ish months, so I had hope (*hysterical laugher*). The brand I like the best was EcoAble 3in1 training pants. ecoable.net/3-in-1-hybrid-cloth-diaper-potty-trainer-and-swim-diaper/ They are fantastic for early potty training and they were daycare approved. They have a pocket so I could stuff them with enough inserts to hold a full pee and could be used for naps. They have stretchy sides so DD could pull them up/down with minimal help. They have side snaps so if your kids poops you aren't dragging poop all down their legs. They also have rise snaps so you could potentially put them on a baby, but they were important for fitting my chicken leg, skinny waisted, small child. I do not recommend them for later potty training when they need to know wet is bad because they fit so much like a CD that there was really no difference to DD if she peed/pooped in them vs a regular CD. They are the best for getting your kid acclimated to sitting on the potty and when they bring them every hour or so at DC. Once they start going on their own though, I'd switch to the other training pants i mentioned above. However those don't hold a full pee so they aren't good for naptime and if your kid poops in them, well... god speed.
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