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Post by piratecat on Feb 2, 2019 7:37:22 GMT -6
J and I are having real toast and pretend tea this morning. What’s everyone up to?
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Post by cmb on Feb 2, 2019 13:48:49 GMT -6
A is napping while I’m playing on my phone and wishing I was napping. Alas, I won’t sleep tonight if I nap 😪
DH brought DS1 to a birthday party so we’ll be chilling without big bro for a few hours
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Post by sheilathetank on Feb 2, 2019 15:48:27 GMT -6
MH is working again today. DD is going on 3.5 hours of napping. I have to go wake her up else she probably won't sleep tonight.
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Post by lupincat on Feb 2, 2019 20:13:47 GMT -6
It’s our last night at Universal Studios. I’m 50% sad because I love it here and 50% so ready to get home because dong this with two small kids is EXHAUSTING.
We may begin TTC this month but I’m a little hesitant because DS2 has been such a terror lately.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 3, 2019 7:34:49 GMT -6
So I’m thinking about contacting local high school senior for babysitting. What should I ask? We are mostly looking for someone to watch him sleep so I basically only care about how late they can stay.
J has been very very clingy so I’m having a hard time imagining leaving him with a stranger.
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Post by sheilathetank on Feb 3, 2019 8:43:40 GMT -6
So I’m thinking about contacting local high school senior for babysitting. What should I ask? We are mostly looking for someone to watch him sleep so I basically only care about how late they can stay. J has been very very clingy so I’m having a hard time imagining leaving him with a stranger. Hours Reliable Transportation Cpr/first aide Experience/references If you have a question about a non emergency situation who do you ask? For example, kid sounds congested and has a hard time getting comfortable who would you call if you didn't know what to do? For me this was my mother. Sometimes it was a simple question that I did not need to bother the parents over. This was before cell phones, texting, and the internet so i used my mom as reference a lot. Even if the question isn't entirely relevant to your situation it will give you insight into their resourcefulness and problem solving skills. You don't want a babysitter who will call you back at the drop of a hat if your son is having a hard time adjusting.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 3, 2019 9:00:07 GMT -6
So I’m thinking about contacting local high school senior for babysitting. What should I ask? We are mostly looking for someone to watch him sleep so I basically only care about how late they can stay. J has been very very clingy so I’m having a hard time imagining leaving him with a stranger. Hours Reliable Transportation Cpr/first aide Experience/references If you have a question about a non emergency situation who do you ask? For example, kid sounds congested and has a hard time getting comfortable who would you call if you didn't know what to do? For me this was my mother. Sometimes it was a simple question that I did not need to bother the parents over. This was before cell phones, texting, and the internet so i used my mom as reference a lot. Even if the question isn't entirely relevant to your situation it will give you insight into their resourcefulness and problem solving skills. You don't want a babysitter who will call you back at the drop of a hat if your son is having a hard time adjusting. This is helpful, thank you. I didn’t babysit growing up so I don’t have a good point of reference.
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Post by billyhorrible on Feb 3, 2019 18:58:59 GMT -6
My first was (is) so needy and dependent that it's amazing to me that my second entertains himself. He's in his room singing "Let it Go" while the rest of us watch the Super Bowl.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Feb 3, 2019 21:37:02 GMT -6
There is something about hanging with my family that always makes me feel so inept. Every.single.time. Dh and my dad always get into a disagreement. Dh doesn't like they way they treat our middle child. It makes me not want to spend time with anyone.
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Post by cmb on Feb 4, 2019 5:38:56 GMT -6
My first was (is) so needy and dependent that it's amazing to me that my second entertains himself. He's in his room singing "Let it Go" while the rest of us watch the Super Bowl. My kids are like this, too. DS1 needed constant attention. DS2 is all “whatever, leave me be.”
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Post by piratecat on Feb 4, 2019 8:57:19 GMT -6
There is something about hanging with my family that always makes me feel so inept. Every.single.time. Dh and my dad always get into a disagreement. Dh doesn't like they way they treat our middle child. It makes me not want to spend time with anyone. That's frustrating, I'm sorry.
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Post by sheilathetank on Feb 4, 2019 12:48:53 GMT -6
There is something about hanging with my family that always makes me feel so inept. Every.single.time. Dh and my dad always get into a disagreement. Dh doesn't like they way they treat our middle child. It makes me not want to spend time with anyone. Is yh right in that they treat one of your kids differently?
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Feb 4, 2019 14:24:12 GMT -6
There is something about hanging with my family that always makes me feel so inept. Every.single.time. Dh and my dad always get into a disagreement. Dh doesn't like they way they treat our middle child. It makes me not want to spend time with anyone. Is yh right in that they treat one of your kids differently? I don't see it when its happening, but after we left Dh pointed somethings out and yes. I'm not sure if its intentional, different personalities or the ages of everyone but she does seem to get slighted on things or talked harsher to. Other in-laws have commented on how she is treated as well. Its hard for me to wrap my head around because its my family and I don't want to believe they act that way.
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Post by sheilathetank on Feb 4, 2019 14:33:51 GMT -6
Is yh right in that they treat one of your kids differently? I don't see it when its happening, but after we left Dh pointed somethings out and yes. I'm not sure if its intentional, different personalities or the ages of everyone but she does seem to get slighted on things or talked harsher to. Other in-laws have commented on how she is treated as well. Its hard for me to wrap my head around because its my family and I don't want to believe they act that way. I don't know your family Dynamics or history, but based on what you said here I think you are going to need to step in and say something. Be prepared for denial, backlash, drama, whatever but if YH is seeing it AND other family members are seeing it, then you really can't deny it. I would hate for your DD to realize what's going on and grow up knowing she was treated differently. I don't think you'd want that either. It could be they don't realize it or it could be intentional. You won't know until you bring it up. And you may need take a step back from them, if it comes to that, to let them know your boundaries when it comes to interacting with your kids. I had to cut out a whole chunk of toxic family members so I know how hard it is. But when it comes to my kid, she comes first, and I wont let her be subjected to their shenanigans and toxicity. It hurts and is hard as hell but at the end of the day I need to protect her feelings, not theirs.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Feb 4, 2019 22:45:53 GMT -6
My first was (is) so needy and dependent that it's amazing to me that my second entertains himself. He's in his room singing "Let it Go" while the rest of us watch the Super Bowl. My kids are like this, too. DS1 needed constant attention. DS2 is all “whatever, leave me be.” I am totally holding on to this kind of hope. We are doing a FET this summer for baby #2 and he HAS TO BE more low key than DD. He has to be...🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Post by cmb on Feb 5, 2019 5:27:03 GMT -6
The attitude of the 4 year old has to go
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Post by lupincat on Feb 5, 2019 6:55:24 GMT -6
My first was (is) so needy and dependent that it's amazing to me that my second entertains himself. He's in his room singing "Let it Go" while the rest of us watch the Super Bowl. My kids are like this, too. DS1 needed constant attention. DS2 is all “whatever, leave me be.” Both of my boys are up my ass constantly. Please, just play by yourselves for 20 seconds! Of course when I’m not around everyone comments how well they entertain themselves 🙄🙄
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Post by gingy on Feb 5, 2019 9:34:15 GMT -6
DS is a stage five clinger 99% of the time at home. At pickup one day last week, they had the classroom binder open to his page. The first line was "[DS] is a funny kid who does his own thing most of the time." WHO IS THAT CHILD?
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Feb 5, 2019 9:47:38 GMT -6
sheilathetank, I know I need to do something, but I'm dreading the confrontation.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 5, 2019 10:14:45 GMT -6
DS is a stage five clinger 99% of the time at home. At pickup one day last week, they had the classroom binder open to his page. The first line was "[DS] is a funny kid who does his own thing most of the time." WHO IS THAT CHILD? This is my kid too. They tell me how quiet he is, that he never talks. WHAT.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 5, 2019 12:09:07 GMT -6
piratecat Discuss social media rules with potential babysitters. Allowed to post your child’s pic? Allowed to share their location when at your home? Amount of time Acceptable for them to be on the phone ? I would not have thought of this - thank you!
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Post by cmb on Feb 5, 2019 18:40:09 GMT -6
My kids are like this, too. DS1 needed constant attention. DS2 is all “whatever, leave me be.” Both of my boys are up my ass constantly. Please, just play by yourselves for 20 seconds! Of course when I’m not around everyone comments how well they entertain themselves 🙄🙄 Don’t get me wrong, DS2 has his moments, but he’s nothing like the stage 10 clinger his big bro is. I’m sure this will all change soon, though, now that I said this 🤣
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Post by piratecat on Feb 6, 2019 14:58:25 GMT -6
Okay, so do y'all send stuff in for kids at daycare for Valentines Day? Valentines for classrooms is going to be the bane of my parenting life.
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Post by billyhorrible on Feb 6, 2019 15:09:18 GMT -6
piratecat - I did when my kids were in daycare. Little things like heart shaped crayons, goldfish, or playdoh.
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Post by gingy on Feb 6, 2019 15:17:35 GMT -6
Okay, so do y'all send stuff in for kids at daycare for Valentines Day? Valentines for classrooms is going to be the bane of my parenting life. Yep. Aldi's ad had a pack of applesauce pouches with To and From spaces on the front. Done. DS will eat whatever is left. Last year, we sent Mum Mums. He received packages of goldfish, pouches, and a mini play-doh.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 6, 2019 15:33:46 GMT -6
Darn it. I feel really whiny about this. I don't even know the names of all the kids in his room.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 6, 2019 15:36:52 GMT -6
My SIL sent gifts for my kid for Valentine's Day and now I feel like I have to send her toddler something... and then the other niece and nephew... just why??
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Post by gingy on Feb 6, 2019 16:28:35 GMT -6
Darn it. I feel really whiny about this. I don't even know the names of all the kids in his room. Last year, DS's teacher sent a list of names home one day. You could always ask if they don't provide it. We didn't end up even putting names on them. I just put his name on the From line.
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Post by gingy on Feb 6, 2019 16:29:23 GMT -6
My SIL sent gifts for my kid for Valentine's Day and now I feel like I have to send her toddler something... and then the other niece and nephew... just why?? <iframe width="36.07999999999993" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 36.07999999999993px; height: 2.9200000000000017px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none;left: 15px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_17923587" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="36.07999999999993" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 36.08px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 1714px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_32211830" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="36.07999999999993" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 36.08px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 15px; top: 87px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_95102245" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="36.07999999999993" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 36.08px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 1714px; top: 87px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_57083775" scrolling="no"></iframe>
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Post by billyhorrible on Feb 6, 2019 16:44:50 GMT -6
piratecat my kids' preschool always just had us send in Valentines with no "To" just a "From" then they distributed them. I honestly would do something similar in your case. I certainly wouldn't worry about learning all the kids' names.
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