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Post by charlotte on Oct 5, 2018 9:31:23 GMT -6
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Post by quijibo on Oct 5, 2018 10:10:11 GMT -6
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Post by quijibo on Oct 5, 2018 11:10:07 GMT -6
Lord. A colleague might have shingles so the office manager is having a cow. She made me call the OB to confirm I’m safe to be here. Of course the OB office is on lunch, so I just have to sit tight. I’m not panicking but all of the “Did you hear? Do you know?” as I walk down the hallway is making me itch. Y’all are making it worse, people!
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Post by charlotte on Oct 5, 2018 11:15:26 GMT -6
Lord. A colleague might have shingles so the office manager is having a cow. She made me call the OB to confirm I’m safe to be here. Of course the OB office is on lunch, so I just have to sit tight. I’m not panicking but all of the “Did you hear? Do you know?” as I walk down the hallway is making me itch. Y’all are making it worse, people! FWIW I was unintentionally exposed to shingles in second tri. After spending time visiting MH’s grandmother and hugging all over her, she informed us she had shingles. Ive forgotten the details of why now, but my OB wasn’t too concerned!
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 5, 2018 11:22:01 GMT -6
Lord. A colleague might have shingles so the office manager is having a cow. She made me call the OB to confirm I’m safe to be here. Of course the OB office is on lunch, so I just have to sit tight. I’m not panicking but all of the “Did you hear? Do you know?” as I walk down the hallway is making me itch. Y’all are making it worse, people! Have you had chicken pox or the vaccine? Shingles can cause chicken pox in someone who is unvaccinated or who never had it as a child, but shingles itself is not contagious. They can give you the vaccine while pregnant if you haven't gotten it already. www.healthline.com/health/shingles-and-pregnancy#shingles-and-pregnancy
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Post by quijibo on Oct 5, 2018 11:32:36 GMT -6
Lord. A colleague might have shingles so the office manager is having a cow. She made me call the OB to confirm I’m safe to be here. Of course the OB office is on lunch, so I just have to sit tight. I’m not panicking but all of the “Did you hear? Do you know?” as I walk down the hallway is making me itch. Y’all are making it worse, people! Have you had chicken pox or the vaccine? Shingles can cause chicken pox in someone who is unvaccinated or who never had it as a child, but shingles itself is not contagious. They can give you the vaccine while pregnant if you haven't gotten it already. www.healthline.com/health/shingles-and-pregnancy#shingles-and-pregnancyMy step-mom tells me that I had chickenpox as a child, so I’m thinking we’re good. Not sure on the vaccine, but I know my parents followed all vaccination protocol of that time, although things are obviously different today. No word from the OB yet, so I’m just chillin’, washing my hands, and keeping to my area.
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Post by quijibo on Oct 5, 2018 12:16:13 GMT -6
I should note that although all is probably fine, calling the OB at 12:05 and still no response as of 2:15 is kind of annoying. Glad it’s not something more serious. Yeesh. Just do a drive by call. “You’re fine. Continue life per usual.” *click*
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 5, 2018 12:50:59 GMT -6
My step-mom tells me that I had chickenpox as a child, so I’m thinking we’re good. Not sure on the vaccine, but I know my parents followed all vaccination protocol of that time, although things are obviously different today. No word from the OB yet, so I’m just chillin’, washing my hands, and keeping to my area. If you had chicken pox as a kid, you don’t need the vaccine, you’re already immune. It wasn’t widely available when we were kids, so most kids just had chicken pox instead. The vaccine is just for anyone who never had it, and they give it to kids now.
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 5, 2018 12:55:58 GMT -6
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Post by Diordra on Oct 5, 2018 13:05:14 GMT -6
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Post by summerrain on Oct 5, 2018 16:41:39 GMT -6
I love your pictures Dramaphile! You have such beautiful family.
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Post by summerrain on Oct 5, 2018 16:47:51 GMT -6
I am starting to think I’m on the crazy train. I’m usually very calm and stoic even when I’m scared, but I’m losing my shit today. After the scare earlier this week I had a ton of Braxton Hicks last night, followed by some other maybe preterm labor indicators today and I just feel so stupid. I never went into labor on my own with my other two kids so I really think my mind is just messing with me because I’m scared. It’s like I’m looking for any possible thing because I don’t know what to do and really really don’t want to have this baby right now.
I recognize that I am acting very FTM about all this, but it feels a little cathartic to just type it out and acknowledge my own crazy 🤷🏼♀️.
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Post by codypup on Oct 5, 2018 19:35:21 GMT -6
So I fell again today (slipped on the hem of pants and just went down hard) and ended up spending 3 hours in L&D for observation. Everything is fine, but yeesh.
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Post by codypup on Oct 5, 2018 19:36:56 GMT -6
summerrain what other indicators are you experiencing? Has anything changed since you posted before? I also did not go into labor naturally with my first, so I totally get that feeling of wondering what’s normal. You can definitely always call your OB after hours line for reassurance!
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Post by summerrain on Oct 6, 2018 9:44:25 GMT -6
Oh shit codypup. Glad you are ok. Honestly, I have had what I think are several real contractions that don’t stop when i lay down or drink water, plus TMI but I’m pretty sure I lost some of my plug. That coupled with the fact that my doctor gave me the steroids just in case and feeling very off yesterday I just sent myself into a panic. I don’t really say these things out loud so putting it here actually calmed me down. I’m sure this baby will wait until his eviction is scheduled to come like my other two. Either way it’s kicking my butt into gear so I think that’s probably a good thing. It’s still high 80s here this weekend so we are having a few friends over to watch the fight (I will not be joining) and barbecuing steaks so I’m excited to see them and to eat!
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Post by letsgetphysio on Oct 6, 2018 10:17:29 GMT -6
jillywilly, Fingers crossed everything stays stable for a little while!
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Oct 6, 2018 11:20:01 GMT -6
Dramaphile beautiful pictures!! I wrapped DS2 up on my back yesterday and couldn’t carry him for more than 15-20 minutes before my hips got so sore! codypup oh no!! I am glad you and baby are ok!
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Post by notelsie on Oct 6, 2018 21:25:27 GMT -6
Catching up here, I keep getting so far behind! Siblings classes are great! I took B a few weeks ago, and it went well despite him being a terror to deal with. He's usually so well behaved. If H would have come with us it probably would have been a better time. So many falls in here! I'm so glad everyone is doing ok. Dramaphile what beautiful pictures!!
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Post by notelsie on Oct 6, 2018 21:29:07 GMT -6
I'm sorry I'm not here often. My anxiety issues have gotten a bit better as life started to finally get more on track. The house is coming along and I'm feeling better about bringing a baby home soon..
That said, my husband just let me know that his depression has been back, and it's worse than it's ever been. I've been wanting him to get seen and possibly start medicine if needed, but he kept going back and forth about it.. Apparently it's so bad now that he's feeling desperate for help.
I'm going to be researching and trying to find somewhere.. just praying he gets whatever help he needs. I've felt so alone during this pregnancy and with all the prep. He's been so stressed out with work and life in general. I want him to be able to enjoy the time we have with L when he gets here, and with our kids while they are still small. I feel like I missed out on so much the first time around, I don't want that for either of us.
Sorry to unload a bit, it's just so heavy and I'm worried. I need him to be ok.
I'm 37 weeks tomorrow and I still need to pack my hospital bag.. I know B was late, but this kid could come at any moment.
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Post by notelsie on Oct 6, 2018 21:30:05 GMT -6
Oh, and apparently I'm "must post to facebook every single day" weeks pregnant now. I hadn't posted since Thursday and I got 3 messages today asking if he was here or if I had news. From people I don't even talk to.. so nosy.
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Post by meggos on Oct 7, 2018 5:41:58 GMT -6
summerrainI had DD at 34 weeks. I can tell you that every twinge I have has me stopping in my tracks and feeling like a FTM as well. I feel ridiculous questioning EVERYTHING. But if it’s weird to you question it!
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Post by summerrain on Oct 7, 2018 7:39:51 GMT -6
I’m sorry you are dealing with all that notelsie. I hope things ease up for you soon and you can find help for your H and yourself. meggos thank you for saying that. I just feel so ridiculous. I hope your baby stays put until full term.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 7, 2018 10:07:33 GMT -6
@notsie I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. It must be hard when you are in a bit of a vulnerable time and he is struggling like that. I think it’s great that he felt comfortable enough to open up and reach out to you about it; I really hope that he can get help. I’m sorry you have felt alone. I’m sending lots of strength your way!
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Post by foxtober on Oct 7, 2018 17:28:38 GMT -6
My friend's son died in his sleep Friday night. He was a perfectly healthy toddler. I both don't know what to say or how I can offer help that might actually be useful (grocery shopping, food?) because it's so devastating I can't imagine what would help. And it's also made my anxiety go through the roof about everything.
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Post by Argyle on Oct 7, 2018 21:27:44 GMT -6
My friend's son died in his sleep Friday night. He was a perfectly healthy toddler. I both don't know what to say or how I can offer help that might actually be useful (grocery shopping, food?) because it's so devastating I can't imagine what would help. And it's also made my anxiety go through the roof about everything. What a horrible tragedy. As I'm sure you realize, there's nothing you can do to make it even a little better. You can, however, help keep the basics of life afloat if she will let you. This means making calls (to relatives, to funeral parlor, wherever, there seem to be a lot of calls surrounding death), laundry, dishes, food. Probably it will be difficult to get her to take as much help as she needs, but you can increase your odds of being accepted by asking in specific ways ("I am going to the grocery store and wanted to know if I could bring some things by for you," versus "Let me know if there's anything I can do,") and keeping up frequent communication so that if she needs something, there's somebody who just popped up who she can ask. And unless she's actually suicidal, treat every reaction as though it's perfectly normal, because it is (even laughter, grief is very weird). As for what to say, there is something right to say but unfortunately it changes by the person, and also by the minute. It's a volatile time emotionally. So stick to the classics, like I'm so sorry. Avoid anything that compares her loss to any loss you have experienced, no matter how similar. For God's sake no references to pet death. She needs to keep a shell of life alive so that when she actually wants to be alive, which she will one day, it'll be there for her to crawl back into. It's harder to build up from the ground. That's what keeping the routines of groceries and getting out of bed in the morning are for, as well as the check ins from friends. Keeping that life available to come back to some day. I haven't lost a child, this is based on my family experience from my toddler brother dying when I was six.
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Post by notelsie on Oct 7, 2018 21:39:33 GMT -6
foxtober Oh, my heart just breaks hearing that. I’m so sorry. No advice, but sending lots of thoughts and prayers to your friends during this devastating time.
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Post by jillywilly on Oct 8, 2018 6:23:57 GMT -6
notelsie, I'm sorry you're dealing with that. I hope you're able to find help for your H so you both can get to a better place. foxtober, I can't imagine the heartbreak your friend must be feeling. No advice, but keeping her and her family in my thoughts.
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Oct 8, 2018 6:46:51 GMT -6
foxtober How horrible, I can’t imagine the grief and pain your friend must be in right now. Obviously Argyle has some great advice. I have nothing to add other than love and hugs to her and her family.
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Post by foxtober on Oct 8, 2018 7:14:52 GMT -6
Argyle thank you, I really appreciate the thought that went into your response. They also have a four year old - based on your experience is there anything that was beneficial for you? Kids books on grief of anything you can think of?
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Post by Diordra on Oct 8, 2018 8:39:21 GMT -6
Argyle I have nothing to add but my heart hurts for your friend, I can not imagine the pain she must be in <3
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