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Post by Taitai on Jun 24, 2017 22:56:44 GMT -6
grumpycat Yes to pitocin contractions being the worst. Pitocin is the devil.
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Post by danascullyx on Jun 24, 2017 23:52:35 GMT -6
If you have a C section, you will still have the PP bleeding. For weeks.
I had an emergency section at 35 weeks and all my plans went out the window. Every single one. It was hard to accept. But I had an amazingly easy recovery and no real pain at the incision. I was just very weak when standing. I had to purchase a seat for my shower. It was amazing. I used it for quite a while.
But my PP poops were no big deal at all. I was so relieved.
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Post by muscari on Jun 25, 2017 14:23:05 GMT -6
Thanks everybody for sharing your stories!
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Post by cmb on Jun 25, 2017 16:18:07 GMT -6
I thought my non-pitocin contractions were worse than my ones while they gave me pitocin... *ducks and hides*
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Post by grumpycat on Jun 25, 2017 19:01:57 GMT -6
I thought my non-pitocin contractions were worse than my ones while they gave me pitocin... *ducks and hides* I'm hopeful to experience non-pitocin contractions this time around so I'll weigh in on what's worse in a couple months
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Post by Nymeria on Jun 26, 2017 7:35:03 GMT -6
When you get an epidural, you also get a catheter. I somehow missed that. I was not pleased. They also will not let you walk around after getting the epidural. I had an epi, but they did not leave mine in. The nurse cath'd me, emptied my bladder, then took it out each time.
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Post by cmb on Jun 27, 2017 13:22:35 GMT -6
This one is for moms of boys once they are here- when putting his diaper, point the penis down before securing the diaper!
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Post by cosmic on Jun 27, 2017 14:01:48 GMT -6
It is okay to not feel connected to your baby right away. Your body has been through some shit. You are not a bad mom for feeling distant for a little while.
My first was a preemie after an unexpected water break. I was pretty much in shock for a few days, and it took a few weeks for me to feel that intense love for him and like he was really mine.
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Post by joy on Jun 30, 2017 5:23:05 GMT -6
it took a few weeks for me to feel that intense love for him and like he was really mine. It took me months and she was born at 41 weeks. As long as you take care of the baby and meet her needs, then the bonding will come. You are not abnormal!
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Post by moutonrouge on Jun 30, 2017 14:34:26 GMT -6
DH felt instant love. Until she was a bit older and smiled at me, I didn't feel the same way. Especially at the beginning I would think if I woke up the next day and we didn't have a baby (like it had all been a dream) I wouldn't miss it. Now it's very different, but I felt weird and alone feeling that way until others here mentioned taking a bit to bond and not liking the infant stage etc.
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Post by joy on Jun 30, 2017 18:37:08 GMT -6
DH felt instant love. Until she was a bit older and smiled at me, I didn't feel the same way. Especially at the beginning I would think if I woke up the next day and we didn't have a baby (like it had all been a dream) I wouldn't miss it. Now it's very different, but I felt weird and alone feeling that way until others here mentioned taking a bit to bond and not liking the infant stage etc. Sent from my XT1095 using Tapatalk Ohmygosh, yes. I felt so ashamed but I thought the same thing about her going away and that I'd be okay. I really REALLY don't feel that way now, but I remember feeling like such a horrible person for those thoughts.
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Post by cmb on Jul 1, 2017 5:54:08 GMT -6
DH felt instant love. Until she was a bit older and smiled at me, I didn't feel the same way. Especially at the beginning I would think if I woke up the next day and we didn't have a baby (like it had all been a dream) I wouldn't miss it. Now it's very different, but I felt weird and alone feeling that way until others here mentioned taking a bit to bond and not liking the infant stage etc. Sent from my XT1095 using Tapatalk Same. It's not heavily talked about, but these feelings are so common. It took me a good 6 months before I felt anything towards DS1
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Post by thechickencoop on Jul 2, 2017 9:39:06 GMT -6
+1 to not being super happy once DS was born. I didn't really feel an attachment to him until about 5 months or so and I had started meds for PPD and he was sleeping slightly better.
His needs were met, he was well cared for; however, I remember bathing him one night and thinking, omg, why did I sign up for this? This is going to be the REST OF MY LIFE. Taking care of another human. Very overwhelming thoughts. H works long hours so I was alone a lot and just...ugh.
But it does pass. And it doesn't make you a bad person for feeling ways other than elated.
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Post by thechickencoop on Jul 2, 2017 9:40:31 GMT -6
This one is for moms of boys once they are here- when putting his diaper, point the penis down before securing the diaper! Yes. Penis down. And a tissue or something over it when wiping poop. The distance that a newborn boy can pee is....impressive.
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Post by gimmesugar on Jul 2, 2017 19:32:52 GMT -6
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Post by rachydc on Jul 6, 2017 9:49:04 GMT -6
It is okay to not feel connected to your baby right away. Your body has been through some shit. You are not a bad mom for feeling distant for a little while. My first was a preemie after an unexpected water break. I was pretty much in shock for a few days, and it took a few weeks for me to feel that intense love for him and like he was really mine. This. I felt like I was babysitting someone else's child for weeks before I was settled. It felt way too surreal to call DD my own.
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Post by ashburn on Jul 11, 2017 10:01:16 GMT -6
That your nurses will just come into your room, into your bathroom while you are either on the toilet or having that blissful first shower and not even knock (poor hubby was so taken aback he couldn't even stop it)
That you will be woken up literally every 2-3 hours and not by the baby, for damn vital checks. WTF
Bring your own comfy pajamas for the days after, sooo worth it.
The hospital "massage" is a joke and a tease.
Feed your nurses the day of delivery!!! Not just sweets, we brought in subway sandwich platter and they LOVED it. We got a lot of extra attention and they were so thankful since they don't always get a lunch break. Even the "mean" nurse changed her tune after that.
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Post by ashburn on Jul 11, 2017 10:12:18 GMT -6
PP poop - I was terrified and took so much solace, wasn't quite as bad as expected.
Epi - anesthesiologist had the hardest time. he made it on the third attempt (thank god) but I was going into shock from the pain of it. I think he gave me an extra bit since he felt bad... we will never know. And then I didn't feel the ring of fire everyone tells about.
Expect to maybe have a fight to be admitted. My water broke at 3am and we made our way (slowly) to the hospital. Got there and the admitting nurse said I was probably wrong and going to end up going home. cause apparently "no one goes into labour a week early with their first" ummm... thankfully the doc on duty tested the fluid and within half a second was like, yup, you're staying. She even side eyed the nurse for not wanting to call her.
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Post by teachermomtobe on Jul 12, 2017 12:01:16 GMT -6
-Inductions can fail and you can be sent home and told to return again in a few days to try again. -Shaking can be a sign you are almost fully dilated so let the nurse know -Even though the OB just checked you and you were an 8, doesnMt mean you aren't fully dilated minutes later. Tell the nurse if you feel the need to push. -Epidural placement wasn't that bad at all. My epidural worked well. I was surprised I could still feel my legs but no pain. I still felt the ring of fire and then pushed the button for more relief when being stitched up. -You can vomit after delivery. I knew vomiting in labor was a possibilty but I threw up twice within an hour after her birth which I was not expecting. -Trust your instincts even as a new parent. If something the nurses, drs, or LCs are telling you doesn't sit right with you then push the issue -Like cateyes said, some women just don't produce enough breastmilk. Fed is best, try not to beat yourself up about it.
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Post by bethers on Jul 12, 2017 20:50:05 GMT -6
Hi- just popped in and wish I had read this thread before my first. Currently due with twins in November.
No one ever told me about the shaking - happened to me after getting to recovery, after I sent DH to get stuff from the car. Was so freaked out! Thankfully had a nice nurse who got me a warm blanket.
If you are at a teaching/research hospital, they may wake you up to ask permission to be part of a study.
Flexibility - there's so much you can't control about labor. Beitflexobme and knowing what you can't change or control is so important, as is not blaming yourself. For example, I couldn't produce enough milk for DS. Tried so many things to increase supply, but to satisfy him, we supplemented with formula. I beat myself up needlessly for a few months. Don't be me!
On a less serious note - if you get an IV, your face may get puffy. I had chipmunk cheeks.
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Post by joy on Jul 13, 2017 9:45:58 GMT -6
Oh! Oh!
The swelling in my legs post-birth was intense. I looked ridiculous. The day after I was like "huh, swollen" and the next day I was like "geez!!!" Ugh. The hospital didn't have compression socks so my husband bought some and I cut off the toes.
I walked a lot on the recovery floor. It was a circle so I just did loops while pushing the bassinet. It helped! That and drinking lots of water. The swelling was totally normal but alarming when I had no idea to expect it.
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Post by teraiin on Jul 13, 2017 10:09:31 GMT -6
Oh! Oh! The swelling in my legs post-birth was intense. I looked ridiculous. The day after I was like "huh, swollen" and the next day I was like "geez!!!" Ugh. The hospital didn't have compression socks so my husband bought some and I cut off the toes. I walked a lot on the recovery floor. It was a circle so I just did loops while pushing the bassinet. It helped! That and drinking lots of water. The swelling was totally normal but alarming when I had no idea to expect it. Yes! I didn't swell almost all before having ds but I could barely fit into my shoes when I was leaving the hospital (they were flip flops) it was crazy
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Post by cnf on Jul 14, 2017 6:40:39 GMT -6
Oh! Oh! The swelling in my legs post-birth was intense. I looked ridiculous. The day after I was like "huh, swollen" and the next day I was like "geez!!!" Ugh. The hospital didn't have compression socks so my husband bought some and I cut off the toes. I walked a lot on the recovery floor. It was a circle so I just did loops while pushing the bassinet. It helped! That and drinking lots of water. The swelling was totally normal but alarming when I had no idea to expect it. I was significantly more swollen, for weeks, postpartum than I ever was while pregnant. It was awful.
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Post by pepperpottsj on Jul 14, 2017 9:08:27 GMT -6
Oh! Oh! The swelling in my legs post-birth was intense. I looked ridiculous. The day after I was like "huh, swollen" and the next day I was like "geez!!!" Ugh. The hospital didn't have compression socks so my husband bought some and I cut off the toes. I walked a lot on the recovery floor. It was a circle so I just did loops while pushing the bassinet. It helped! That and drinking lots of water. The swelling was totally normal but alarming when I had no idea to expect it. This terrifies me, I have had swelling issues from the beginning, if my toes get anymore sausage like they may explode 😂
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Post by jftb on Jul 17, 2017 19:51:37 GMT -6
Oh! Oh! The swelling in my legs post-birth was intense. I looked ridiculous. The day after I was like "huh, swollen" and the next day I was like "geez!!!" Ugh. The hospital didn't have compression socks so my husband bought some and I cut off the toes. I walked a lot on the recovery floor. It was a circle so I just did loops while pushing the bassinet. It helped! That and drinking lots of water. The swelling was totally normal but alarming when I had no idea to expect it. This terrifies me, I have had swelling issues from the beginning, if my toes get anymore sausage like they may explode 😂 This was me. Everything went back to normal about two weeks postpartum.
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Post by pepperpottsj on Jul 17, 2017 19:52:22 GMT -6
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Post by jewel on Jul 18, 2017 8:52:22 GMT -6
- a baby can get/be stuck even during a c-section - FTM's can have alarmingly speedy labors too. - even if you have a c section PP sex might still really really hurt
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Post by sweetc129 on Jul 18, 2017 9:24:51 GMT -6
- a baby can get/be stuck even during a c-section - FTM's can have alarmingly speedy labors too. - even if you have a c section PP sex might still really really hurt^Truth! Especially if you are breastfeeding and your estrogen is low. It can cause atrophy.
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Post by jftb on Jul 19, 2017 10:31:11 GMT -6
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Post by jrun2013 on Jul 24, 2017 19:41:05 GMT -6
I learned that your placenta might not come out on its own and the doctor might have to go in and get it... With their hand!
I'm actually glad I didn't know that prior to labor.
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