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Post by nam2013 on Mar 13, 2018 12:57:31 GMT -6
Crazy busy day. Started the morning at the new job, then had two back to back meetings and the old job and than raced to my desk at location no3. Currently sipping a latte and watching SAy Yes to the dress, where a ridiculous woman has a bizallion dresses and wigs for her dog...
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 13, 2018 13:00:01 GMT -6
Hi! Happy birthday! joeliesFeel better soon wedding! Re: Teenage drinking. I have an almost 16 y/o and we are a hard no on supplying alcohol or allowing him to go anywhere with provided alcohol. It hasn't really come up yet as much as the vaping stuff. He has gotten caught vaping with friends before and has recently asked if we would buy him one, in an effort to be transparent. I guess his friends are asking their parents the same thing. I told him I appreciated him taking an above board approach, but his health and well-being are my #1 concern. I try to keep the conversations open and casual, like...you will never get in trouble for asking, but at the end of the day if it's not legal or safe, you can be pretty sure my answer is no. I also have to have the unfortunate talks about how his behavior and any misdeeds are always going to be judged at a different standard than his blonde-haired, blue-eyed best friend. So, for him, the stakes are a little higher.
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Post by wedding on Mar 13, 2018 13:00:13 GMT -6
I would never supply my kid with alcohol. I had a couple of friends in HS whose parents supplied for us and one who drank with us. It was pretty stupid of them. And the one who drank with us knew how wasted I got every time and never did anything about it.
Dh and I worry about C becoming and alcoholic/addict since we both are and believe it’s genetic. He’s also very impulsive and has shown some addictive tendencies already- like Oreos and shopping. I hope we can provide him with some of the things we didn’t have that ended up pointing us in that direction, like self confidence, and do whatever we can do prevent it. But you can only do what you can do.
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Post by lfig on Mar 13, 2018 13:06:23 GMT -6
high school! I had to wait until 9 and that seemed super late. I'm probably exaggerating...I remember her saying, "I don't agree with Hillary Clinton on much, but her rule for Chelsea is that she has to wait til 13 and that seems like a good age." So like 8th grade-ish, I guess. But I was terrified it would hurt and the longer I waited the more afraid I got, lol. I finally got them done when I was 17. Lol! This was me! I could have gotten my ears pierced in 4th grade. But was too chicken. I waited till 8th grade. And just like you, the longer I waited the more scared I was. Turned out it was NBD. Lol.
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 13, 2018 13:09:44 GMT -6
Re alcohol: up until three years ago beer/wine/breezers etc where legal for 16 and up. So going out and drinking was something I did every week (and clubs are 12-4 over here 😖). Now it’s 18 for every kind. My parents where like guster, not big drinkers, but beer/wine was always there and not a big deal. My parents are a bit hippy dippy and where always quite lenient and realistic about us wanting to try out stuff. Which basically took out all the fun, so no big binges and I’ve only tried pot once. ETA I have now idea how I’m going to tackle this when that bridge arrives. I need a few more years .
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 13, 2018 13:09:53 GMT -6
That reminded me that my 5 y/o keeps asking me if the new baby is going to come out with dark skin and puffy hair like his brother. I was like "I would be in pretty big trouble with Daddy if that happened" I'm kidding...I didn't say that. We explained genetics to him, but I am not sure it got through because he still hopes one day he will "tan" darker than his brother.
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 13, 2018 13:12:12 GMT -6
flamingo LOL at your mom and the Hillary Clinton comment 😂
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 13, 2018 13:12:32 GMT -6
@dapostrohe the ‘puffy hair’ made me giggle, so cute!
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Post by klong11 on Mar 13, 2018 13:14:56 GMT -6
I got my ears pierced when I was 10. They got infected, they eventually closed up because I never put earrings in because I was allergic to a lot of them.
In college I got 2 holes in each ear and the cartilage pierced. I still have all of them, but only put earrings in the first hole. I've asked Cadence if she wants her ears pierced, she asks if it hurts and I straight up say yes, cause it does when it first happens. So she says no. I may get her some of those tattoos though, I think they are cute.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Mar 13, 2018 13:20:34 GMT -6
I have conferences this afternoon for H. In the fall I was able to schedule them for immediately after class got out but someone else signed up for that slot before I could so I have to kill 30 minutes. I think I’m going to take the girls to the car wash, which freaks S out. It’ll be fine though.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 13, 2018 13:25:43 GMT -6
Re alcohol: up until three years ago beer/wine/breezers etc where legal for 16 and up. So going out and drinking was something I did every week (and clubs are 12-4 over here 😖). Now it’s 18 for every kind. My parents where like guster, not big drinkers, but beer/wine was always there and not a big deal. My parents are a bit hippy dippy and where always quite lenient and realistic about us wanting to try out stuff. Which basically took out all the fun, so no big binges and I’ve only tried pot once. ETA I have now idea how I’m going to tackle this when that bridge arrives. I need a few more years . I remember having a sip of beer probably starting at like, 5 or 6? That's it, just one sip. My dad was of the opinion that if you don't make it a big deal, then the kids won't think it is either.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 13, 2018 13:28:07 GMT -6
dapostrophe, not as dramatic a difference but Atticus keeps asking "will Persephone have brown skin like me and Daddy or pink skin like mommy and Xander?" Who knows, she's the tiebreaker.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 13, 2018 13:32:59 GMT -6
I didn't get my ears pierced until I was 10 and had a similar experience to klong11. I'm allergic to practically everything and my ears felt like they were on fire all the time. I also got hives all over my neck. I'm still astonished that doctors do this. This drinking conversation made me think about whether or not I would tell the kids what I did when I was younger? I don't know for sure but I'm thinking yes, I don't know if I would volunteer the information but I certainly would answer their questions.
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Post by jewels on Mar 13, 2018 13:39:08 GMT -6
That reminded me that my 5 y/o keeps asking me if the new baby is going to come out with dark skin and puffy hair like his brother. I was like "I would be in pretty big trouble with Daddy if that happened" I'm kidding...I didn't say that. We explained genetics to him, but I am not sure it got through because he still hopes one day he will "tan" darker than his brother. S is constantly asking why the whole family has white skin like him and why doesn’t B have darker skin. It’s a random new obsession of his. Possibly bc in his new class one if his good friends is Asian and has very dark skin? Who knows. But I, too, would have a lot of explaining if B had dark skin since both MH and I are practically translucent
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Post by klong11 on Mar 13, 2018 13:39:35 GMT -6
If Cadence did want her ears pierced I would take her to a friend of mh's who owns a piercing shop. They don't use the gun, they use a hollow needle like they do for other body piercing. I don't know that it would hurt less, but I feel like he would be more experienced than the part-timer at Claires in the mall.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 13:40:09 GMT -6
I wish C would sit on a stationary bike tgrimes ! He climbs all over those things and uses the seat as a base to jump off of. Ha ha ha! I wasn't sure if he had a game to bicycle to if he would be more interested.
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Post by inthekitty on Mar 13, 2018 13:40:45 GMT -6
I got my ears pierced when I was around 3 and a second set when I was around 8. One of the holes fully closed up and one partially did so I have one set left. But I almost never wear earrings because I'm allergic to even the pure gold and stainless steal ones. I only own a few pairs because of that and I can only tolerate them for maybe 6 hours before they start itching. Since I can't wear them for a full day I don't bother.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 13:41:02 GMT -6
If Cadence did want her ears pierced I would take her to a friend of mh's who owns a piercing shop. They don't use the gun, they use a hollow needle like they do for other body piercing. I don't know that it would hurt less, but I feel like he would be more experienced than the part-timer at Claires in the mall. I read awhile back that it's best to take them to a tattoo parlor. Also, that Claire's is filing for bankruptcy.
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Post by jewels on Mar 13, 2018 13:43:58 GMT -6
Also got my ears pierced for my 10th birthday. Also allergic to everything and the cheap earings I always got led to tons of infections.
At some point my ears started stretching and eventually one tore through. I had to stop wearing earrings for a while and eventually got them sewn closed then re-pierced a few years ago. Now I mostly only wear studs bc I’m afraid of them tearing again
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 13, 2018 13:48:11 GMT -6
Today the anti-vaxx nutters are speculating that those safe drop boxes for babies at hospitals are run by the Clinton Foundation and Hilary herself is taking the infants and they are immediately placed in a sex trafficking ring.
Stay crazy, people.
I've never been more entertained in my life.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 13:51:55 GMT -6
dapostrophe My sister has had several talks with her 2 oldest about vaping. The 2nd oldest has several behavioral issues and he's trying to convince her it would help.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 13:53:55 GMT -6
Speaking of my nephews, the oldest is doing pretty well. His eyes started crossing again and his vision was blurry. They went back to the nuerologist and was told it could happen. It seems to be clearing up after a couple of weeks now.
They're all coming this weekend to visit! M is soooo excited.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 13:54:18 GMT -6
Today the anti-vaxx nutters are speculating that those safe drop boxes for babies at hospitals are run by the Clinton Foundation and Hilary herself is taking the infants and they are immediately placed in a sex trafficking ring. Stay crazy, people. I've never been more entertained in my life. Yup. That's exactly what is happening. WTF.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Mar 13, 2018 13:57:10 GMT -6
Hi! You guys have been busy today. It’s day two of dh being back at work, and also day two of spring break. We are serving by spending most of the day at the gym and then the park.
Re: teenage drinking. I’m a hard no on ever providing my kids and they’re friends with alcohol. I would never risk that liability. We drink a lot, but we do t get drunk (I mean, usually lol) and we are super responsible about driving. I want my kids to see that and not make alcohol a taboo subject. We’ve talked about when it’s that time we will set them up with uber accounts connected to our credit card. If they need to use it or a friend needs to use it’s there. My parents were super strict and I drove when I probably shouldn’t have more time then I want to think about to avoid getting in “trouble”. DNW that my kids.
When I was in like 5th grade a friends (horrible) mom bought jack daniels for her older daughter and friends who were probably about 15 and offered it to us. I threw up in a pan after one sip and stopped begging friends with that girl, although I never told my mom what had happened.
Re: ear piercing. I got mine done in second grade. It hurt and then idiot doing accidentally got her glove stuck in the earring and had to take it out and redo it. I went on to have three holes total and a cartilage piercing, by I only wear the first and second holes anymore. I got my belly button pierced when I was 16 and in a fit of teenage rebellion my eyebrow pierced on our senior trip. It looked ridiculous on me so I took it out after a year and pierced my nose.
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 13, 2018 14:05:22 GMT -6
FFTC I do not like young children with pierced ears. Flame away.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Mar 13, 2018 14:08:23 GMT -6
I got my ears pierced in either first or second grade...but then I never wore earrings so one of them healed closed. Then my older sister (10 years older than me so in HS) tried to repierce it for my and used a clothes pin to numb it. My ear ended up being about half an inch thick so a regular earring wouldn’t even fit. I had to have a hook type earring in it until the swelling went down. Not fun.
I am waiting to pierce my girls’ ears until they request it. So far H has asked about it once or twice but that’s it. I don’t wear earrings myself very often so I’m sure that’s part of it.
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 14:09:13 GMT -6
FFTC I do not like young children with pierced ears. Flame away. Why? You don't like the way it looks or you don't like that the parent did it?
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Post by tgrimes on Mar 13, 2018 14:11:48 GMT -6
My mother pierced my ears when I was 12-18 months (based off pics I've seen) because she was tired of people calling me son or boy, etc.
M got her ears pierced last year because she wanted them done.
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 13, 2018 14:15:17 GMT -6
FFTC I do not like young children with pierced ears. Flame away. Why? You don't like the way it looks or you don't like that the parent did it? I don’t like the way it looks 🤷🏼♀️.
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Post by peachsmama on Mar 13, 2018 14:16:31 GMT -6
My mother pierced my ears when I was 12-18 months (based off pics I've seen) because she was tired of people calling me son or boy, etc. M got her ears pierced last year because she wanted them done. My mom did it for the same reasons but I was like 6 weeks lol. I obviously don't have a need for this opinion but ear piercing aren't a big deal to me. If I have a daughter and she asks consistently, I'll let her. They're easy enough to take out if she later changes her mind. I got my second hole when I was 13. I never use it now but it's still there. Also got my belly button pierced at 13, took it out at 17 when I went to culinary school and gained a lot of weight. It's still there though.
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