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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 16, 2018 8:00:54 GMT -6
Happy Tuesday ladies. Yesterday was MLK day and so my big didn't have school. We had two well check appointments that went pretty well, but dd3 has dropped on the growth charts and despite gaining 2lbs in the last 6 months, she's at risk for growth issues due to not weighing enough. The doctor didn't come right out and say failure to thrive, but upon researching what she described that seems to be what she's talking about. Of course, my mom checks on how all their appointments go and today she called me all panicked that I should be taking dd3 to a specialist or to the local Children's hospital or some such thing. The plan the doctor and I made are to keep her on whole milk (I'd switched her to 2% for my own convenience) and add a slice of cheese or peanut putter to her snacks and recheck in 6 months. I am concerned, but I also don't feel like we need to alert the media because she's reaching all other milestones just fine. crimsonandclover and nellieoleson, don't you have some of these issues with your dd1s? Care to share experiences or advice?
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Post by lollipop on Jan 16, 2018 9:04:43 GMT -6
I was in bed before 10 last night and I'm still exhausted. Also still can't get rid of this headache. I might attempt to nap when M does. I just had coffee though, so that might not happen. Mornings are the worst
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 16, 2018 9:51:41 GMT -6
I was up at 3am lollipop I fully expect that to kick me in the butt shortly. I did get a bit of homework done, posted a few fb posts I'm responsible for, and researched relicensure for my teaching license though so it wasn't a complete loss. I am on coffee #2. I need to get back on a normal sleep schedule, but this baby bump is making it tricky.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 16, 2018 10:07:01 GMT -6
I was up at 3am lollipop I fully expect that to kick me in the butt shortly. I did get a bit of homework done, posted a few fb posts I'm responsible for, and researched relicensure for my teaching license though so it wasn't a complete loss. I am on coffee #2. I need to get back on a normal sleep schedule, but this baby bump is making it tricky. I couldn't function if I got up at 3 a.m. I would be a complete zombie. I'm not exactly perky when I get enough sleep either though lol. I wish I could drink more coffee, but I'm too sensitive to caffeine.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 16, 2018 11:56:23 GMT -6
dizzycooks, I never stopped giving DS whole milk. He has always been on the small side and at 6 almost 7 just barely broke the 40 lb mark a few months ago. He's just little. My ped never had any issues because he always met his other milestones just fine. At his age he probably isn't even on any growth chart but he is active and super healthy. I give high fat foods (cheese, whole milk yogurt, PB, avocado, etc), he loves veggies, fruit and of course ice cream, chocolate, and all that. I watch the sweets but don't deprive him. He is actually really good at self regulation. DD is basically following in his footsteps. I guess I just wouldn't worry. If you feel she is healthy and thriving and eats till she is full then don't worry it. Sorry, just my .02
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 16, 2018 12:16:04 GMT -6
dizzycooks, I never stopped giving DS whole milk. He has always been on the small side and at 6 almost 7 just barely broke the 40 lb mark a few months ago. He's just little. My ped never had any issues because he always met his other milestones just fine. At his age he probably isn't even on any growth chart but he is active and super healthy. I give high fat foods (cheese, whole milk yogurt, PB, avocado, etc), he loves veggies, fruit and of course ice cream, chocolate, and all that. I watch the sweets but don't deprive him. He is actually really good at self regulation. DD is basically following in his footsteps. I guess I just wouldn't worry. If you feel she is healthy and thriving and eats till she is full then don't worry it. Sorry, just my .02 Thanks scorpioscuba my mom called me again basically demanding I take her to a specialist and said I should start giving her ice cream each evening and more meat and less “health foods”. I’m watching her eat a half a ham and cheese sandwich, pineapple, hummus and carrots and goldfish with a glass of milk. Apparently this is too healthy and is why she is little. Grr. 🤨🙄 nothing like having your parenting questioned by your own mother.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 16, 2018 12:34:32 GMT -6
I wish I could get my kids to eat that much food!!! Based on what I've seen of you, you are tall and thin. She is probably going to be built like you. Try to let it go. Give mom less info if you can. I'm sorry she is being so judgy. DD3 is just fine.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 16, 2018 13:25:37 GMT -6
dizzycooks my dad is a lot like your mom. Wants all the info, and then proceeds to tell me I'm doing it all wrong. Nevermind the fact that when my sister and I were the age my kids are now, he was a long haul truck driver and gone for 2 weeks at a time, so he wasn't exactly what we'd call a hands on parent. He still knows best though 🙄 I can see how you'd be concerned, but seriously, if she eats like that on the regular, I wouldn't worry too much. Odds are she's just teeny. On the flip side, my tank barely eats enough to keep a bird alive, and weighs 30 lbs, and needs size 4t for shirts and dresses.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 16, 2018 21:38:29 GMT -6
I just ordered my first baby boy clothes. Kohls has a crazy sale and I had kohls cash and rewards. $17 later I have three outfits and three sleepers for the little guy. I’m pretty sure I should go through what we were given first, but I need to connect with him a bit and this seemed kind of reasonable
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 17, 2018 8:31:19 GMT -6
dizzycooks - my dd1 had issues with dropping on the height chart, but there were no concerns about her overall weight for height or suggestions that we feed her more food/more fatty foods. It was more a worry about the possibility of an underlying endocrine disorder. I am 5’10” and her projected adult height at her 3 year old visit was under 5 feet tall. She is still being monitored for growth issues and will get an X-ray once a year to check how her bones are maturing. She has grown a TON in the last 6 months, so it will be interesting to see where she is at our next visit. Although apparently if they grow too fast too young that indicates their growth plates are fusing and they will stop growing too early... ugh. So much to worry about. Is your dd okay on the height chart, just low on the weight? IIRC all your kids are pretty small? Does your mom have a medical background or she just thinks she knows more that the pediatrician? Do you trust your pediatrician? My advice would be that if you trust your pediatrician, then follow their advice about adding more food and take the wait and see approach. If you can’t stop worrying (or to get your mom off your back) call or go in and ask them to review the plan and ask them to address your worries. If that still doesn’t relieve your doubts then ask for a referral to a specialist. Maybe keep a food diary of what she eats for a week? That way if you do see a specialist you will have that ready at the first visit? Good luck! I know it’s stressful. You are doing a great job, mama.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 17, 2018 8:33:07 GMT -6
dizzycooks my dad is a lot like your mom. Wants all the info, and then proceeds to tell me I'm doing it all wrong. Nevermind the fact that when my sister and I were the age my kids are now, he was a long haul truck driver and gone for 2 weeks at a time, so he wasn't exactly what we'd call a hands on parent. He still knows best though 🙄 I can see how you'd be concerned, but seriously, if she eats like that on the regular, I wouldn't worry too much. Odds are she's just teeny. On the flip side, my tank barely eats enough to keep a bird alive, and weighs 30 lbs, and needs size 4t for shirts and dresses. Both my dds weigh 34 pounds right now, ha. Dd1 is a few inches taller and wears 4T, dd2 wears 3T and 4T.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 17, 2018 17:45:46 GMT -6
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 18, 2018 1:09:19 GMT -6
dizzycooks, yes, my DD1 is below the curve and *tiny* for her age. DD2 (2 years younger) is about the 25th percentile for her age and is only about 1 lb lighter and 1 inch shorter than DD1. Even though I knew all of this, I was still shocked to see DD1 with her class for the first time a few weeks ago. In preschool she's with kids aged 3-6, so she never really stuck out as being particularly short. But in a group of kids only her age... yikes. She was standing next to another girl and didn't even come up to her shoulders. She was the shortest in the class by at least 4 inches, I'd say. And since we're delaying her a year for school, she'll be with kids who are a year younger than her, but she's also smaller than all of them... Last spring we had blood drawn (slightly traumatizing for all involved) to make sure there were no underlying issues and they didn't find anything, so she's just small. She eats fine, maybe a bit less than DD2. I was one of the smallest in my class until I hit puberty, though, and now I'm very average (5'5" ish), so I'm hoping it'll be the same with her.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 18, 2018 10:22:06 GMT -6
It was good! We stayed up waaaayyyyy too late on the first night, and I fully came down with the dds’ cold, so Sunday was kind of a wash - but it was still nice to have a lazy day being cozy on the couch with my H. Honestly, the best part was being reminded of how much I miss my kids when they aren’t around. My patience and appreciation for them feels totally refreshed.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 18, 2018 10:26:38 GMT -6
I am currently trying to decide if it’s worth the $ to sign up for a marriage getaway. We would need a sitter, and a hotel room. It would not be cheap, it’s in our hometown, so it seems silly to spend the money, but the idea of a weekend of counseling and dates sounds amazing. I’m debating about surprising dh with it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2018 13:24:26 GMT -6
we need to get out and about sans kids. I tried to schedule something for this weekend but DD got HFMD and DH is sick. Argh.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 18, 2018 14:12:18 GMT -6
They really need to have the option to text doctors offices. I can't handle phone calls.
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Post by tinydancer on Jan 18, 2018 20:54:46 GMT -6
Hi! I just caught up. Happy Birthday to all the 2 year olds!
We are looking at buying a house. I want another room for the new baby and a different layout - so many of the houses here have the master split apart from the rest of the bedrooms and I do not like that style with young kids. I think we've found one that we want to make an offer on, but eek! It seems like such a big step since we still have our other house in the DMV and we will probably only live here 2-3 more years.
I'm hoping we can get into a new place before the new baby comes first week in June. Also on my to-do-before-baby list are transition LO to a double bed and attempt to potty train him. That will probably work out, right?
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 19, 2018 7:56:15 GMT -6
dizzycooks, I would totally do a marriage getaway if we had someone to watch the kids. I say do it!! DD3 has started waking up sometime between 4:30-5:15 and either screaming bloody murder if we leave her in her room or flopping around every which way if we bring her to our bed. The only thing that kind of works is if I lie next to her crib. Then she lies down and is quiet, but I'm on the hard floor (tile covered with thin area rug) and sleeping is not an option. I think we'll have to move a mattress into her room.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 19, 2018 9:00:38 GMT -6
They really need to have the option to text doctors offices. I can't handle phone calls. Our doctors have an email option. I use it whenever it’s a non-urgent issue. It’s also nice because you can attach photos, so I’ve sent in pictures of various rashes, etc so they can see what I’m describing. The pictures go straight into their medical records.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 19, 2018 9:03:23 GMT -6
I am currently trying to decide if it’s worth the $ to sign up for a marriage getaway. We would need a sitter, and a hotel room. It would not be cheap, it’s in our hometown, so it seems silly to spend the money, but the idea of a weekend of counseling and dates sounds amazing. I’m debating about surprising dh with it. Would your H be into that sort of thing? Mine would die if I signed us up for a weekend of counseling sessions. I mean, I think he would completely be okay with counseling if it was something we agreed upon, but to surprise him with something like that would not be a happy surprise for my H.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 19, 2018 9:11:04 GMT -6
tinydancer - totally agree about the bedroom layout. Our last house was like that and we ended up moving our bedroom to one of the smaller bedroom and using the master as a playroom. I don’t need to walk across the whole house to get to my kids at night. Good luck with the house! Hopefully you can use the move as a good transition to big boy bed. Don’t stress too much about potty training - if he’s not ready you will just make yourself crazy! And there’s a good chance he might regress once the baby arrives, too. What’s your plan for when you get close to your due date? You had such a quick birth last time, are you and the doctors worried about a repeat?
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Post by lollipop on Jan 19, 2018 11:13:57 GMT -6
They really need to have the option to text doctors offices. I can't handle phone calls. Our doctors have an email option. I use it whenever it’s a non-urgent issue. It’s also nice because you can attach photos, so I’ve sent in pictures of various rashes, etc so they can see what I’m describing. The pictures go straight into their medical records. Oh I wish we had that. That would make my life 1000x easier
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 19, 2018 14:30:22 GMT -6
I am currently trying to decide if it’s worth the $ to sign up for a marriage getaway. We would need a sitter, and a hotel room. It would not be cheap, it’s in our hometown, so it seems silly to spend the money, but the idea of a weekend of counseling and dates sounds amazing. I’m debating about surprising dh with it. Would your H be into that sort of thing? Mine would die if I signed us up for a weekend of counseling sessions. I mean, I think he would completely be okay with counseling if it was something we agreed upon, but to surprise him with something like that would not be a happy surprise for my H. He would totally do it. It’s one hour speakers, some are breakout sessions where you can choose your topic. There are 20-30 minute breaks between each session to talk and synthesize what you heard. Saturday night is over at 3pm or so and you’re encouraged to have a date. Breakfast is served each day. I think the time without kids and with some conversation starters would be good for us. We get so trapped in the day to day. I need to see if he’s game with spending the money and then see if I can find a sitter.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 19, 2018 22:01:32 GMT -6
My SIL and her family are moving to Florida tomorrow. So we had a big family dinner at a restaurant tonight as a final get together before they leave. I'm exhausted. I don't do social interaction well. It drains me, and puts my anxiety through the roof, especially when the kids are there, because I feel like everyone is judging me based on how they act and how I deal with them. I need wine. 😥
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Post by tinydancer on Jan 19, 2018 22:30:34 GMT -6
tinydancer - totally agree about the bedroom layout. Our last house was like that and we ended up moving our bedroom to one of the smaller bedroom and using the master as a playroom. I don’t need to walk across the whole house to get to my kids at night. Good luck with the house! Hopefully you can use the move as a good transition to big boy bed. Don’t stress too much about potty training - if he’s not ready you will just make yourself crazy! And there’s a good chance he might regress once the baby arrives, too. What’s your plan for when you get close to your due date? You had such a quick birth last time, are you and the doctors worried about a repeat? That's basically what we're doing in our current place - the master is downstairs and is used as the playroom/guest bedroom. We use a bonus room as our bedroom, which means it has no closets, which means our clothes are scattered all around the house. The house we're looking at has a master upstairs with 2 kids bedrooms, and then a guest bedroom downstairs, which is really the perfect floor plan for us right now. I was thinking about using the move to do the bed transition too, but then I didn't know if it would be too much at once? I think we'll give it a try and see how it goes. We just have a mini crib so he's starting to get a little squished. My plan this time is basically to go straight to the hospital when I go into labor. Since I went so fast this time I think they will just let me stay, plus the hospital where we live now is not as busy. The midwife told me they rarely send home women who are actually in labor just because they have the space. It's only about a 15 minute drive, so here's hoping we make it!
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Post by tinydancer on Jan 19, 2018 22:33:35 GMT -6
It was good! We stayed up waaaayyyyy too late on the first night, and I fully came down with the dds’ cold, so Sunday was kind of a wash - but it was still nice to have a lazy day being cozy on the couch with my H. Honestly, the best part was being reminded of how much I miss my kids when they aren’t around. My patience and appreciation for them feels totally refreshed. A lazy day on the couch sounds like heaven. I miss the days when I didn't have anything that actually had to be done, when I could just be spontaneous.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 20, 2018 6:41:11 GMT -6
It was good! We stayed up waaaayyyyy too late on the first night, and I fully came down with the dds’ cold, so Sunday was kind of a wash - but it was still nice to have a lazy day being cozy on the couch with my H. Honestly, the best part was being reminded of how much I miss my kids when they aren’t around. My patience and appreciation for them feels totally refreshed. A lazy day on the couch sounds like heaven. I miss the days when I didn't have anything that actually had to be done, when I could just be spontaneous. It sounds like heaven doesn’t it? I also miss disposable income.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2018 8:34:54 GMT -6
Dh got hand foot and mouth disease from dd and it’s reallg painful for adults. I feel bad. We’ve been stuck inside for weeks i feel like. I’m going to get out today with dd to go to a nature center. She’s over HFMD.
Have a great weekend everyone!
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 20, 2018 9:23:02 GMT -6
Girls I am trying to be patient and I know dh isn't happy about it, but our girl's birthday party is at 3pm today, our rental needs a few repairs, and I NEED to study. He had to go in to work at 8am. He says he'll be home by 1, but I am not hopeful. Last year he was rarely home before 4pm on Saturdays. Tomorrow he teaches ski lessons 11-4. I need a freaking break. 7 days a week for him means 7 days a week for me and I am tired. I finally called my OB about the pain I'm having and she said if it's constant to go to the UR, otherwise I am going in on Tuesday. I can barely function by 6:30pm. Ok..need to study. The girls are in childcare at the Y for two hours.
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