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Post by heigirl on Jan 3, 2018 17:10:33 GMT -6
I lost my baby on Monday morning at 8w 5d. I miscarried naturally and the baby came out whole and intact. I went to the OB yesterday for what was supposed to be my first pregnancy appointment. But it turned into a MC check up. The US came up clear and they want me to come back for blood work to check hcg levels.
I took the baby to a funeral home to be cremated. I should have the remains back tomorrow or Friday.I have an appointment to speak with a therapist on Monday because I’m having a really hard time.
I’m so angry. I should still be pregnant. I should be picking out baby clothes, and names, and preparing my home for a baby. Instead I’m picking urns.
This fucking sucks.
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addymac
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Post by addymac on Jan 3, 2018 18:13:24 GMT -6
I’m so, so sorry. Feel your feelings. We’re here for you to vent, scream, cry. Feel free to share pics of the urn if it will help. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs.
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Post by heigirl on Jan 3, 2018 19:23:13 GMT -6
I’m so, so sorry. Feel your feelings. We’re here for you to vent, scream, cry. Feel free to share pics of the urn if it will help. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs. Thank you so much
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hawkward
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Post by hawkward on Jan 3, 2018 20:10:06 GMT -6
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by enchanted on Jan 4, 2018 0:25:23 GMT -6
I am so sorry for your loss. It is incredibly unfair and painful. Hugs!
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Post by oldbaylover1024 on Jan 4, 2018 13:06:07 GMT -6
I am so sorry for your loss. {{hugs}}
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Post by ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ on Jan 4, 2018 17:00:32 GMT -6
This is so fucking unfair. I'm so sorry.
This board isn't as busy as others on the forum, but there are plenty of us here who check in. Please don't hesitate to share your feelings of how things are going.
It's so traumatic. I'm proud of you for making an appointment with a therapist.
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aprilz81
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Post by aprilz81 on Jan 4, 2018 17:43:06 GMT -6
I'm so sorry, I've also had to pick out an urn for a baby (we lost Ava at 32 weeks due to birth defects) and it sucks. There just aren't words...
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Post by heigirl on Jan 4, 2018 18:51:38 GMT -6
Thank you so much everyone <3
I brought home the remains in the urn today. I also went back to work today which was so hard.
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Post by flyliceandcoffee on Jan 4, 2018 20:48:07 GMT -6
I'm so so so very sorry you had to go through that. There are no words for how horribly it sucks, but we've all been there in this group so we completely understand. Take care of you first and foremost! We're here if you need anything at all
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LED
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Post by LED on Jan 5, 2018 17:27:15 GMT -6
I'm so sorry. I wish there were words that could help. I hope therapy helps.
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Nymeria
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 8, 2018 10:37:37 GMT -6
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope therapy helps. Be kind to yourself while you grieve and heal.
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DrHooch
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Post by DrHooch on Jan 8, 2018 12:17:23 GMT -6
So, so sorry for your loss. It does suck and it is not fair. We are hear to listen, and I am glad to hear you have a therapy appointment. Therapy has helped me immeasurably with my losses. Also, is there a support group for pregnancy loss in your area? That is another thing that has been so helpful for me.
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Post by cattynattyrn on Jan 8, 2018 19:00:37 GMT -6
I’m so very sorry for the loss of your baby. I think therapy would have been a great help for me when I lost my son, so I’m glad you’ve looked into it. Take care of yourself. Sending you lots of HUGS.
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cnf
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Post by cnf on Jan 9, 2018 21:15:59 GMT -6
I'm so sorry. You feelings are valid and real, please feel them and grieve however you need. Be gentle with yourself.
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Post by mirandapriestly on Mar 17, 2018 21:55:31 GMT -6
What happened totally sucks. Picking out urns for babies we don’t get to see grow up sounds guy wrenching. I’m so sorry you are going through this.
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