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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 5, 2018 12:37:32 GMT -6
4 hours and I’m still here. With two kids. And no lunch. Someone help me.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 5, 2018 14:05:38 GMT -6
theoprah, I'm due April 18. I just registered for the hospital and scheduled a hospital tour since I'll be at a different hospital this time. It's getting real. I could have an actual baby here in 10 weeks. Freaking me out!
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 5, 2018 15:05:37 GMT -6
....and I signed up for real estate licensure classes. Holy crap. Things are a-changin' in the dizzy household.
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Jan 5, 2018 15:07:20 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2018 15:07:20 GMT -6
Wow! dizzycooks ! Time is flying!!! I am due sept 1. Sorry you are still at the dealer. That sounds awful! We are going to try converting the bed. Change has gotta happen. It’s been taking 1.5 hours to put dd down at night. Eek. We had her well-check today and mentioned it to the dr and he basically said we have got to set limits and stick to them. I agree but it never works that well in practice! Dd is tall! If it’s true that your height doubles from when you’re two (which I’m sure isn’t true by anywho). She will be 5’11. Getting ready for the bday party tomorrow!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 5, 2018 19:03:51 GMT -6
I guess I’m the only one totally NOT ready to convert dd to a toddler bed. Dd is doing great in the crib (I did have to recently re-sleep train her but she went right back so easily once I did) so I’m not messing with it. By this age DS was had been in toddler bed for a long time but his sleep was total crap so we tried everything. And he also wouldn’t ever leave his bed, he would just call for us. I know dd would would wander the house if she woke up in the middle of the night and I just don’t trust her.
First 2 days back to work were crap. I hate being stuck in a job I hate. I can’t wait until H graduates and I have some options.
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Jan 5, 2018 21:02:42 GMT -6
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Post by lollipop on Jan 5, 2018 21:02:42 GMT -6
I guess I’m the only one totally NOT ready to convert dd to a toddler bed. Dd is doing great in the crib (I did have to recently re-sleep train her but she went right back so easily once I did) so I’m not messing with it. By this age DS was had been in toddler bed for a long time but his sleep was total crap so we tried everything. And he also wouldn’t ever leave his bed, he would just call for us. I know dd would would wander the house if she woke up in the middle of the night and I just don’t trust her. First 2 days back to work were crap. I hate being stuck in a job I hate. I can’t wait until H graduates and I have some options. I'm on your bench about the bed. She's not escaping, she sleeps decently, I'm not messing with a good thing. I think we're going to get the toddler bed soon, but we won't be setting it up until something messes with what's currently working
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 5, 2018 21:40:25 GMT -6
Pdq but this was my motivation (other than actually needing the crib for the next child) 😂
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 5, 2018 21:53:44 GMT -6
dizzycooks I’m shocked dd hasn’t tried that yet *knock on wood* crazy little monkey!! 😂
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Post by sjames2015 on Jan 6, 2018 0:59:15 GMT -6
scorpioscuba I feel the same way as you. However h feels differently and decided to do it right at bedtime just to see how it goes. DD1 already had her big girl full bed by the time she turned 2 and still spent half the night in our room. DD2 has had 2 decent night sleeps and 2 really good naps with it off so I’m guess H won this one. dizzycooks this is what I’ve been waiting for and it hasn’t happened, I’m sure she hasn’t had enough motivation to do it yet.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 6, 2018 8:01:14 GMT -6
@kelltothekell - tell me more about this 1.5 hours to get her to bed. Are you still nursing her to sleep and transferring to the crib? How long does she stay asleep in there once you get her down?
Whatever’s going on, it sounds really frustrating. I hope you find something that works for you guys soon.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 6, 2018 12:36:42 GMT -6
dizzycooks, that's why we had to take the side off dd1's crib when she was 2.5! I'm waiting for dd3 to come up with the idea, but until she does the crib is staying. I love cribs almost as much as I love diapers and am in no hurry to get rid of either!
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Jan 6, 2018 16:07:52 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2018 16:07:52 GMT -6
@kelltothekell - tell me more about this 1.5 hours to get her to bed. Are you still nursing her to sleep and transferring to the crib? How long does she stay asleep in there once you get her down? Whatever’s going on, it sounds really frustrating. I hope you find something that works for you guys soon. Yeah, we need a change! I used to nurse her to sleep in her room and transfer her to crib. It prob took 45 minutes to do that. In the past few weeks, I can’t get her to sleep in her room so after 45 minutes to hour we move to our room. She’s always got in bed with us after first wake-up. Then it takes another 30-45 to get her to sleep in there but this is a habit we need to stop. It’s Exhausting and goal is for her to sleep in her room. I’m ok with her coming in our room but I always envisioned she would sleep longer and longer and she would get in our bed at like 5 or 6am. This never happened. She doesn’t cry/ scream or anything (usually). She’s just awake. Asking for water, nursing, cup of milk, snack or just basically flipping over constantly and not sleeping. Our plan is to get a toddler bed but I’m really not sure hats a quick fix without changing the behavior. We need to set boundaries. She ha never in her life been awake in the crib and not screaming. Side note: she crawls in her cot at daycare and goes right to sleep. Stinker!! I will take any advice! She usually wakes up to nurse somewhere between 3-5:30 a.m. and nurses back to sleep. Halp!
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 6, 2018 16:52:58 GMT -6
@kelltothekell - I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Just put a full size bed in her room and sleep with her in there for a while. Skip the toddler bed entirely - I don’t see how that would help anything. The only other option is to do full on cry it out in her crib until she’s sleeping in it, which I doubt is really an option for you.
I think if you put her to bed in her new full size bed, sneak out once she’s asleep, then go sleep with her in her bed once she wakes up, you will at least get her to realize that her room is where she sleeps. Right now she prob doesn’t want to go to sleep in her room because she knows she doesn’t REALLY go to bed until she’s in mom and dad’s room.
Once she’s used to the new bed in her room, do the Jay Gordon method night wean. Once she stops nursing overnight she should start sleeping longer stretches.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 6, 2018 16:57:49 GMT -6
@kelltothekell - also, do you have a consistent bedtime routine and bedtime? That can help a lot. What time is she going to bed these days?
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Jan 6, 2018 17:04:49 GMT -6
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Post by lollipop on Jan 6, 2018 17:04:49 GMT -6
M has decided bedtime is for losers. But. She only cries for a bit most nights and then settles down. But her bedtime has been later lately. S is consistently in bed between 730 and 8, she's usually later between 8 and 9. We can't do the exact same bedtime for them because she will not even consider going down if she thinks S is awake. I'm hoping school starting will help with that, because she can't sleep as late as she wants in the mornings.
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Jan 6, 2018 18:43:01 GMT -6
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Post by lollipop on Jan 6, 2018 18:43:01 GMT -6
I had a good few hours to myself today. I went to the mall, had Starbucks and cinnzeo, went for an aqua massage, and visited my BFF for awhile and she trimmed my hair for me. Then I came home and made supper and now H is leaving for his LARP. My kids are refusing to eat.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 6, 2018 20:09:46 GMT -6
lollipop that sounds like such a nice morning! Good for you I spent an hour today reading and taking practice tests for my real estate class. And then I realized the page numbers didn’t sync and I’d read the wrong chunks. I guess I learned something extra?? Also, I have such terrible pain at my ribs on one side I’m practically in tears. I remember this from my other kids, but I can’t find any relief right now. Anyone have brilliant suggestions? @kelltothekell that bedtime routine sounds awful. You deserve a break. I agree with nellieoleson go straight to a big bed and figure out how you want to deal with it there. You have time before baby comes. We read, snuggle and put to bed awake. Dd3 toyed with getting up and peeking out of her room or coming out completely a few times, but we just take her back and say “it’s bedtime” and tuck her in. She seems to have the picture now, but with dd1 we had to sit outside her door and put her back all the time.
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Jan 6, 2018 20:33:35 GMT -6
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Post by lollipop on Jan 6, 2018 20:33:35 GMT -6
lollipop that sounds like such a nice morning! Good for you I spent an hour today reading and taking practice tests for my real estate class. And then I realized the page numbers didn’t sync and I’d read the wrong chunks. I guess I learned something extra?? Also, I have such terrible pain at my ribs on one side I’m practically in tears. I remember this from my other kids, but I can’t find any relief right now. Anyone have brilliant suggestions? @kelltothekell that bedtime routine sounds awful. You deserve a break. I agree with nellieoleson go straight to a big bed and figure out how you want to deal with it there. You have time before baby comes. We read, snuggle and put to bed awake. Dd3 toyed with getting up and peeking out of her room or coming out completely a few times, but we just take her back and say “it’s bedtime” and tuck her in. She seems to have the picture now, but with dd1 we had to sit outside her door and put her back all the time. My mom had to hold my door shut a few times, and eventually put a lock on it, which she'd lock until she went to bed. I was a little shit.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 6, 2018 21:02:41 GMT -6
@kelltothekell I third what nellie said. I think right now your focus should be getting her to associate sleep in her room and that would be best accomplished with a bed in her room that you can co-sleep on. Then once that is established work on night weaning. At this age it really shouldn’t take long I don’t think. Especially if you really talk it up and make it a distinct routine.
We have a pretty rock solid routine. Although there are some nights dd will whine or resist a bit she pretty much runs to her room for bed time once she realizes I’m not budging. We read books and now I just stand and hold her in the dark for about 5 minutes before I put her in her crib awake. She knows what to expect because I still verbally reinforce what will happen every night. It really helps.
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January 2
Jan 6, 2018 22:46:50 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2018 22:46:50 GMT -6
@kelltothekell - also, do you have a consistent bedtime routine and bedtime? That can help a lot. What time is she going to bed these days? Thank you all for the encouragement. We try to keep bedtime consistent. We brush teeth, read a few books, say night night to daddy then I nurse and sing a few of same songs while I nurse. Add bath to the beginning of routine a few nights a week. The real problem is that part of our routine has never been her being in bed awake at all. Putting her down and saying night doesn’t work - it’s a meltdown. I need to work on her feeling comfortable in bed and establishing that she sleeps in there. I like all the suggestions and will take anymore 😀 I think i know what needs to be done just not sure how to get there. Thanks for the ideas.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 7, 2018 10:57:30 GMT -6
Beef stew in the crock pot using this recipe: lifemadesweeter.com/slow-cooker-homemade-beef-stew/Tomorrow I’m making tuna casserole and probably cauliflower soup. It’s finally warm enough to send the girls outside. They lasted 40 minutes. It was amazing! Dh commented today that he was trying to lean before he had to leave bc I feel like the house is closing in around me. I wasn’t sure what he meant, but he clarified that it’s like I can never catch up and get anything done. He’s catching on apparently 😂 but I’m not really sure what he is going to do about it.
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Jan 7, 2018 14:46:55 GMT -6
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Post by lollipop on Jan 7, 2018 14:46:55 GMT -6
Apparently we're potty training. Since Thursday we've been putting her on the potty when she wakes up and before she goes to bed, including nap times. Just to get used to it. She's peed twice today and stayed dry in between. I expected that to take a lot longer.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 7, 2018 18:06:50 GMT -6
Apparently we're potty training. Since Thursday we've been putting her on the potty when she wakes up and before she goes to bed, including nap times. Just to get used to it. She's peed twice today and stayed dry in between. I expected that to take a lot longer. I need to start doing this
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Post by kcrkcs on Jan 7, 2018 22:33:01 GMT -6
@kelltothekell I add my support to the big kid sized floor bed. We did that last winter and it dramatically improved the sleep process. If nothing else at least it's more comfortable for me to be in her room with her. I have also created my own little sleep monster as she still nurses quite a bit overnight. I don't have any advice other than the floor bed, but lots of sympathy!
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